Should I divorce?

theresa

well you can not live in the streets so keep the husband and make the new man get to working for you then get a divorce. he is not there anyways. so why does it matter. and keep new man away from kids until divorce or you will be sorry later.
good luck and with out money know one can live.

the girl next door

Do you love your husband?

Besides do you believe that he doesn't have somone on the side. Ask yourself what you want, but one thing I advice you not to do is to get another head to feed.

chicpower

My first thought is why you would tolerate this arrangement to begin with? Money isn't everything, if you want the freedom to no longer be tied down then give up the financial freedom and go with the one you love. Any chance you could work this out with your husband and tell him to either move back, move you out there to him or divorce you?

ginger.snap4u

You and your husband should try to reconcile because of the kids; not the money.

snailysnal

well whats more important to you? Money or a Relationship?

splashdesign238

Why are you living in separate locations? That's your focused question.

Are you pending divorce? Separated? Is he Military?

You are saying that you got lonely and dated. How is this relevant to being married?

SAN DIEGO !!!

how about try to be faithful to ur husband !!! or do what regular married people do..."live together" !

best of luck to u!

Brother Otter

Let's review:
You're married
You're lonely
You "have a sweet guy". Does this mean an affair?

For the sake of your integrity, let's take one thing at a time.
End the affair.
Talk to your husband and make it clear that current living arrangements have to change. You've been trying to make the best of it, but it's no longer working for you.
Then, based on what he says, decide what's next.

langford53

sounds like you want your cake and to eat it too, and believe me, it doesnt work, get out of the house get a job, and get a divorce......

wifey

Well, I can see that you are lonley and Un-happy and I know that things are just easier if you stay in a relationship when you don't have money and your partner does.

My suggestion to you is to get a job and start getting your life back on track and find happieness elsewhere. Life is easier with money however, Id much rather be in love and poor than rich and un-happy. Besides, your kids are almost grown and soon can support themselves.

If you end up staying with your husband, is there any way you can talk to him and see about re-locating to be with him?

Stephen S

marriage is not easy. dont take the easy way out. there are very few situations that divorce should even be thought of and this is not one. stop cheating on your husband.

Rose

Well, why you're apart with your husband. Shouldn't you and your kids be with him? Or he should move to east coast! Is this marriage already broken? If yes, then get a job, have your new man get a job. Let your husband go.

dencur02

Your children are too old to have a stay-at-home mom. They are well past school age and should be in school during the day. You can start by getting a job during the day. Second, you should never cheat on your spouse. If you feel the need to see other people then you should get a divorce. Adultery goes against every vow you took on your wedding day. You should be honoring your vows instead of acting as if they don't even exist. Finally, if you stay with a man just because of how much money he makes then it's safe to say that you are NOT a self-sustaining, independent, mature woman. It's time to grow up and take responsibility for yourself.

thatsgranderful

okay I am a tad confused...Hubby your husband right? and so that means your cheating on him...? okay well if thats the case well then wow thats some crappy situation, I wouldnt do anything drastic yet until this guy your dating gets his act together and starts making money...and even so divorce is honestly the crappiest thing in the world, to get out alive you honestly need a good lawyer (better then your husbands)...you really should try working some sort of agreement with your husband first (like moving to the west coast or having him move back), but if you really are truly unhappy with your marriage and honestly love that other guy you might as well get a divorce

ta7series21

Why does husband live on west coast and why didnt you and the kids move with him? You need to talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. Oh yeah you get half and alimony.

wrkey

Let's see.. ya'll live thousands of miles apart and you are seeing other people? Do I have that correct?

Sweetheart, I hate to break it to you but you don't have a marriage. I suggest you divorce and file for child support and get on with your life.

Good luck!

Kelly

can you wait till the kids both graduate?
why isn't you husband living with you? are you separated or something? or why don't you go live with him? this is quite the dysfunctional family. Does he know about you being lonely and off with other men? you need to talk to him about what's best for your kids. Maybe they can go live with him.

real s

For one how do the kids feel about you dating here and there? I think if you got that lonely then you should've went back out west to where your husband is, and don't the kids ask where their Dad is? I think you should take care of things first before sinking your head in the water a little deeper. Is your husband seeing someone, these are Q's only you guys know. There's a lot that we don't know.. wish you luck

blackknight8503

Do you love your husband? It doesnt sound like you do. Money cannot buy happiness and your doing a disservice to everyone if your only sticking with your husband because of creature comforts. Doesn't he deserve to be with someone who is going to love him? Just because you havent slept around on him doesnt make what your doing right. How would you feel if he were seeing someone else? I think it would be best if you divoriced your husband.

Lucas M

Call me crazy but I married for love. Marriage shouldn't be an obligation but an expression of devotion and fidelity. If you're worried about financial situations hit him up for child support for your 13 year old. Your 18 year old is old enough to make some life decisions (i.e. college, a career, etc.) But don't stay married for the money somebody might miss out on what a great person you are because you are still in a marriage.
Good luck.

Brown Water Drinker

Money does not matter. The fact that yall live apart is weired and the fact that you have multiple partners is scary. I guess that makes you a scary person.

the natural

Your ex would still have to pay maintenance and child support as part of a divorce agreement...You would only lose your spousal support if you remarried, but he would still be on the hook for child support until all children were 18. So, i guess it's a matter of how committed new guy is to you, is still being married holding you back from anything?

Do you and your husband even see each other? Besides monetary support what does he give you? If you ignore the fact of the sweet guy in your life, do you love and still want to be with your husband? If so, stick with it otherwise let it go if you have some type education you can get on your feet. Why dont you guys live together now anyway?

Dr S

Why did your CEO husband marry a deadbeat like you in the first place? You are a gold digger. Go find a job. Mcdonalds is always hiring. Don't be lazy.

tomi

Hmm its hard to even understand whats written.
All i can get is money this money that.Is that all you got to say- money!!!

Geoff G

You should not marry somebody that you can't spend your life with, and you should certainly not have kids with him. I hope you divorce him, and he gets the kids and doesn't have to pay you a dime. TIL DEATH DO US PART isn't just a phrase, it's a promise.

cindy_denise18

are u cheating on ur hubby?!?
if so i would divorce U!!

Wonder Woman

stay with the husband. you took vowels. if you are super bored than make some girlfriends and relish in your rich pity party easy lives.

busybee

Ask hubby when will he be coming home., and what's with this type of living arrangement.

Candy T

Get that cash and divorce him if it's like that. He got somebody else too.

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