Should I dump my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years?

Ok so my boyfriend has a daughter and so do I. Anyway he had to work this wkend while she was visiting and he asked me to look after her while he was at work. I didnt mind as I've often done this for him. she is a nice kid and good company for my own daughter anyway. OK, so here's the thing. After his kid left today with her mum he asked me to so I went to meet him. He was having a drink after work, but said he was only having one. While I was there one of his work mates came along. He said "is it ok if I stay on for a few more" I got mad and left in bit of a mood. He said "i can see your mad, I'll come with you" I told him to stay cuz at that point I was too mad with him to be around him. I told him he was ungrateful after me minding his kid all weekend to treat me like that. Anyway a couple of hours later he tried to call but I didnt answer. Then he sent a msg to say he didnt under appreciate me and please would I let him make it up to me. I replied saying I shouldnt have brought up minding his kid as I do like having her around but that I thought we could have spend some time together as he'll be working again tomorrow nite.. Then he didnt reply!! Now his phone is turned of and its 24 hrs later!! I know it was charged. Is this his way of making it up to me?? I'm so mad,what would you do??
PS i know this is the marriage and divorce category but I want mature answers!! thanx

krinkn

Obviously you know a lot more than we do here in Yahooville about what is going on between you two. But the incident in the bar you describe is a minor miscommunication. He asked to stay longer. You felt rejected and reacted emotionally and lashed out at him ("left in a bit of a mood"). He tried to make good and you rejected him. He tried again via phone to make up and, happily, you were ready to talk.

Unfortunately something interfered and you two were not able to complete the conversation. I don't know why the phone conversation was cut off. That happens to me sometimes when I drive into a 'hole' in the phone network. But, he should have called back as soon as he could to complete the conversation before he had to go back to work.

To me this doesn't seem like a big enough incident to kill a 4.5 yr relationship with - after all your child has a relationship with this man now - and you have one with his little girl. So there are more feelings at stake here than just yours. On the other hand, the fact that you are so quick to anger over this little thing is probably a sign that this isn't the right relationship for you.

Best of luck to you and your little girl.

Gypsy Red

Jeez, you're think about dumping him for that. Man what would you have done if he really did something big like cheated or something, shoot him. I'm not sure I even see the problem here. He asked you to go out with him. I mean really, all he wanted to do was have a couple of drinks with a buddy. But even then he said he would come home with you. Maybe his phone is off because he is tired of begging and you're not responding. After all you didn't answer some of his calls now did you? Maybe the two of you should grow up a little.
Red

Something Special

tbh i wudnt dump him for that but i know why ur mad, i sometimes have similar problems x

miss molly

It appears he dose not want to talk to you, he dose not want to hear the truth. I know it is hard however try not to keep ringing or texting him, wait until he contact you and then give it to him.
You have been together for a while now surely this problem isn't a new one I think things have been bugging you for a while and this is just the icing on the cake.
You have 2 choices tell him how you feel again, and will he change his ways, or find someone else who will be there for you and yours.

A Q

It sounds like you both need to work on your relationship. It takes a lot to make a relationship work. You guys have been together for four years do not throw it away. People will tell you to dump him because they have nothing to lose but you do. From your question I understand that you have a bit of a temper problem, give him some space and get yourself some importance too. I am sorry for a long answer but I have made a similar mistake.

Queen of Beer

I think he didn't reply bc he didn't feel like hearing a bunch of crap. He wasn't nasty to you, he just asked (be glad he even asked) if it would be ok for him to have another beer with a friend. To me, this is not a big deal.

Jery E

how many times you gonna post this stupidass question?

sheloves_dablues

Let me get this right... He had to work, so asked you to watch his daugher. And you agreed. And later on he invited you for a drink. And you went. And when he ASKED YOUR PERMISSION to stay and have a couple more with his co-workers, you lost your mind on him?

And then you stormed out and wouldn't answer the phone when he called.

This is how it works:

If you believe that watching his daughter means he will devote the evening to you after, you actually have to tell him that's what you expect in return. You don't have any right to assume that once his day is done that it's all about you.

And if you want to dump him because you had a temper tantrum he's probably better off.

Grow up.

kam15

i think you should re wined your steps and check what you doing if you care about each others . try been married for 17 years and loose her in a blink of an eye

artislife51524

he sounds pretty immature to be a father. i would dump him youre his gf not his babysitter.

Clarissa

He sounds selfish and immature. Not a good prospect. I would give him the boot.

NONAME

you should dump him.

Kylair

This is the marriage and divorce section.

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