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babies4life
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It sounds like HE'S the one with a choice to make. He can stop cheating or he can move out. If he moves out, don't look at it as a loss. He has alot of growing up to do. It will be hard but you'll settle into it eventually. Then, you will be ready to date again and somebody more commited and mature will make all the pain of separation worth it. And your ex-boyfriend will be happy because he can just do his own thing and stop living off of you and start making money for himself.
Just because you want to end a relationship doesnt mean you don't love each other. It's just a decision to admit when something isn't working and something else needs to be tried. You'll be better off to not have to support your boyfriend as if he's a third kid so you'll have more money for yourself and child support on top of that. Tell him this and he might change overnight. You never know.
Start this conversation off like,"I made a decision. I'm not going to bug about the girls anymore. In fact, you can date anyone you want. You just can't live here anymore." |
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sportsfan
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dump him |
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Bradly S
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Plain and simple.. once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat. Your children deserve better... not only that, what do you want them to learn as they are growing up? That it is OK to be treated like that, and that you should just go ahead and allow someone to walk all over you, or that they ahve the right to be respected and to stand up for themselves?
I wish you happiness |
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Emanon
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Kick him to the curb and don't look back. |
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Doctor Deth
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kick him out and file for child support - He's obviously way too immature to handle a relationship and parenting duties |
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richard t
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I don't think you love him.............you don't love people who keep hurting you.................
He is a kid..............what do you expect from a kid?
separate for a year.see what happens.................... |
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pinkluver0919
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You should definitely breakup. If he cheats and doesn't pay the bills how could you ever trust him or relie on him if you guys ever go broke! I definitely think you should dump him. |
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kristen k
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end it and take the child............... |
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frustrated
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Well, maybe, just maybe since your older and you pay the bills, he"s looking for someone to take care of him !!!!! If he's chatting with girls, I doubt it's to pass the time, does he have a job? I realize you have a child but let him go and save yourself all the trouble of living from one lie to the next. |
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oneboy
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hi,have more time on thinking how to spice up your relationship rather than spying on him.secondly age is just a number of which you are wiser in this case and breaking up will not help you or the kid 3rdly make sure you can make him get a job he has so much time to waste.good luck |
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I would leave him. If the relationship continues to hurt and doesn't feel good, let it go. Besides both of you are teachin your son that this is acceptable behavior for men and women. Your son is liekly to do the same thing if you continue in this behavior. My theory is "Decieve me once shame on you, decieve me twice, shame on me." These are words to live by. It was cool that you forgave him the first time, but the behavior is still continuing, so there for now it is on you to make some changes and move on. It is obvious that you don't need him, if you pay everything and everything is in your name already. Kick him out and take care of you and your baby. Don't make excuses anymore |
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benitocrowloco
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it dose not matter if 21 or 41 if you will blind you self of the truth then you might have a life full of bs you will come home one day and you will find some one in your bed maybe you will forgive him then too cheaters find ways to cheat if you put up with it then you need too get some back bone |
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Zak
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I do have a sympathy to you. What is his financial contributions with you in all terms? If not anything or much less(except he has got some other responsibility) then he is misusing you. Once again you have to rethink of all departments and then take decision. You can modify your question here. Best luck. |
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pukebob
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What difference will it make. Your a loser and can only attract other losers. |
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liz
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I'm sorry you're going through this.
If he's just "chatting" to girls, that shouldn't be a problem... but if he's talking to girls in hopes of hooking up with someone, that's a different story. Four years is a long time, and you do have a child to consider. But if you're sure he was planning to cheat on you, then do what you have to do. Staying with someone who doesn't respect you and appreciate you will not make things easier for you or your child. You deserve better! You might love him, but you gotta love yourself first.
Put your foot down, let him know that this is NOT acceptable behavior, and that you won't stand it.
Good luck! |
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googleymugley
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I think you answer your own question really. Hes not responsible even though he has 2 kids, he thinks life a game and hes playing that game until the end. In reality hes probably too young for serious commitment and while you keep maintaining him and hes got it so easy, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU FORGIVE HIS CHEATING, as if he is cheating mentally its also considered that hes cheating physically - kick him out fast, get over the pain because it will hurt and try to make a better life for you and the kids without him. Maybe your family can help you out emotionally for a while till you get back on your feet. doesnt matter how old you look but your so unhappy and it will affect your children as well. Dont keep putting up with it. |
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innervision7576
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It sounds like you have given plenty of chances. The reality of your situation though is that he is still a very young man. Does he contribute to the household at all? (Diapers, groceries, watching the baby?) If not, you need to ask yourself if you want to be taking care of TWO children.
I am grateful I didn't have children with the guy I was with from 17-21 and also that we didnt get married. I have changed so much since then that we'd would have likely divorced. He hasnt changed at all and is 34 now.
Suggest couples counseling. If that doesn't improve your situation then I would say you need to get on with your life (without him). |
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Kimmy
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You are better than this. Give yourself a break and dump the kid. He is behaving like a kid. Besides he has obviously shown by his actions that he doesn't give a crap about your feelings, so why waste anymore time playing the cop in this relationship. You cant control him anymore he is going to do what he wants. Get out before you make any more babies with this guy. I know it hurts but if he can't keep his promise to you and he keeps hurting you like this, then it's time to move on. You are doing good already without him. Everything is in your name...so kick him to the curb and tell him to bum of one of the online skanks since they obviously mean so much to him. You have so much to offer so offer it to someone who deserves it! |
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Bryan M
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kick his sorry a** to the curb |
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Dirk von Pelvis
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I'd start meeting other people. |
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KEKiLi
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i think that it would be best for you to end your relationship, but still keep a good friendship because of your child. I know how you feel, you want him but it just hurts to think about being without him. But if you stay with him and he is doing this, you will only get hurt more over time. You shouldn't be supporting him either, well not entirely. He should atleast have a job also. If he has not changed since the past 4 years you have been together, he will never change. It might hurt alot to let him go, but as time passes by you will move on and feel better. You deserve much better then that. Why would you stay with him if he is cheating or is thinking about cheating? You are woman and it's time to be strong, I understand you love him, but do what is right, do what is best for you. Wwhat do you want more: A boyfriend you love but wants to cheat on you? Or finding someone who doesn't cheat that you can fall in love with and who can help pay bills? I hope I helped. Good luck. |
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susan will of the wisp
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stop being trod on, get rid of him .he does not respect you surely you can find better, get a new one before its too late, been there done it and got a much better one now |
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jess
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kick him out ................ how many times does he have to show you that he doesnt love you ? if he loved you as much as you love him ...........it never would of happened in the first place............ |
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Brandy
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well me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years so i know how you feel about him but if hes gonna cheat on you then you dont need him you can do so much better and your kids deserve a better role model. the best thing to do is to dump him. |
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Naggler
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Dump him, it will be kind of hard because you will miss him since he was a part of your life for so long, but this isnt going to last so it will be worth it in a year when you look back at it all and think well that was the right thing to do. |
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emonae k
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wow!!!!!!!well base on that fact that he is only 18years old he is going to do stuff like that i mean (he's young) you gotta except that well i think you should let him go but still allow him to be in his sons life....i mean yall been together for four years........dont you think you need some space??????i think you do......so just let him be with whoever he wanna be with....because is seems like he dont wanna be with you |
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nonameblonde
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Girl please! You can do better. You are doing everything yourself right now! Picture this...YOU with a guy who is mature (let's even say 22 or 23 years old), pays his own way and helps you too, loves your child, loves you, is faithful to you and the three of you are very happy. Well, if you can picture that, you can HAVE that. Just not with this guy. Do not waste your life. He is not going to change because is he is immature and self-centered. You deserve better. |
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RichinTX
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Honey, delete this bozo while you're still young enough to find somebody decent.....!!!!!! |
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lakrluvr
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Been there, done that! You guys had a child at a young age and he's probably just in denial of your situation. I had a kid at 19 myself and I was scared as hell - but once I realized that chatting with other females almost cost me my family - I shaped up! It doesnt have to be that way for you - maybe just make him realize that he's gonna lose not just you, but the family you guys have decided to create. Good luck! |
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Hulagirl96734
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i have 4 kids and 14 years invested in my relationship and i left him As much as you love someone it is time to be strong and make a decision that is best for you You don't deserve a man like that, He needs a reality check throw him out till he takes care of his responsibilites with some rent and food and so on.... and for god sake girl love your self more then you love him. would you want this kind of life for your daughter if you had 1 think about all the things you are missing while this guy is sitting on his azz being romeo
girl it is 2008 lose the ZEROOOOOOOOOOOOOO
i did and god i feel so good about it now he can do what ever he wants, you don't want him to bring home any STD or aids
For the sake of your son leave him he is no good and a smoocher living off you, tell him get a life so you can get on with yours |
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god1
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speaking as the high and almighty i must advise you to end this obvious disastrous relationship and move on - make some friends....meet some men, get your life back - grab the steering wheel and drive your metaphorical car down the highways and by ways, build a bridge and get over him.
ps. if all else fails visit your local god worshipping establishment and get adviCe from there....over and out...roger that |
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