Should I feel guilty making $100K a year?

Steve_Mcqean007

I certainly see your point. Your sister has an "attractant issue".

She attracts loser's whose value's are not aligned to raising a family and being loyal to a relationship. End result is a sister who is financially destitute with children to support and saying "what did I do to deserve this?"

But let me ask you this:

Do you make your money without harming anyone in the process? Not only physically but mentally too?

Do you make your way through life with "good intent" towards other human beings without judgement?

Your sister may be acting with good intent all along with genuine love for all her family including the father of the children. She may think she now has a malady on her hands. She will hopefully learn and not take desperate chances for the kids by latching on to a loser with money. Her life is rich for her children, she may not see that now.

So do you act with good intent?

The purpose of life is to learn and take on the characteristics that enrich your physical body, mind( thoughts) and soul.

Do you seek to "bless" all of the people you meet and know?

Do you use love, compassion and servitude to earn your money? You know, swindle, lie, use/misuse people, take advantage of folks.

Your sister may be the richer of you two.

Your safe, but you have no meaningful riches yet. No children, safe friends, and no worries and no personal growth thru the tribulations that come with a family. No moments that a father experiences with a son or daughter. Now those are true riches my friend, true riches.

My sister is childless and she regrets that. She is finacially comfortable but not fully happy in her soul. She is also learning to be a more meaningful blessing to the people in her life.

I say all of this because I almost died. Four weeks or so ago in the local ER I was crashing and definitley "gray in color" as my worried wife says. After I got out of the hospital I had a profound moment. I guess I joined that club of thankfuls but it was much more than that.

Live with good intent in your soul and heart and you can say "I did my best"

God Bless and Good Luck to your sister, her children and the father and you. May you all grow in wisdom and love each other more each day. Life is short.

Sid

You shouldn't feel guilty for making that kind of money. Some people are just good with money, some aren't.

As long as you're not screwing over the less fortunate to make your living, you have nothing to worry about...

CATWOMAN

guilty no. you could help her out, what are you doing different, tell her your secrets.

ATD

Don't feel guilty for having made good decisions in your life that have put you in the nice place you are.
BE PROUD
If you want to help your sister, can you introduce her to a co-worker or take her where you meet dates?
So she has a better chance of meeting someone that may actually be good for her & her situation.

Jessie H

Don't feel guilty. Your sister is dead broke because of the choices she has made. Hopefully, you can be a role model for her.

LongHorn

No, unless you're a liberal, then you agonize over it in public, bit continue to lead a grandiose lifestyle.

crazyem

It's her life, not yours.

Susan R

No you should not feel guilty, but you should not throw it up in her face all the time either.

SmartA$$

no, your sister made her own choices to let a bunch of losers knock her up, you made the choice to get a good career.

Life is about choices, don't let other people's bad choices make you feel guilty for making good choices.

mamacitahottie

no u work hard 4 it dont u?

texas_angel_wattitude

My husband and I pull in well over 100K a year. Most of our family does also. My brother on the other hand has made bad choices in life and as the result of his actions has been disowned by our family so that means he's out of my fathers Will as well as he will not get land, homes, stocks and so forth upon his passing. Do I feel bad for him....Not really. Would I feel bad for your sister? I have a friend who is dead broke works paycheck to paycheck and is often at risk for having her lights shut off, being kicked out of her apartment and so forth. I offer to help her she refuses. Who I feel sorry for is the kids, not my friend but her kids because they didnt make the choices which affect them.

Nathan W

You don't need to feel guilty. You worked hard to get where you are. There is nothing about being successful that should make you feel guilty. And it sounds like your sister needs more help than money can provide. You are not responsible for your sister.

soundfamiliar

Why should you feel guilty....you have not done anything wrong.....in fact you have done right and are receiving what you work for deservedly.

You cannot feel guilty but you may feel pity for your sister and there is a number of ways you can help her .....like giving her some food and groceries now and again if you have something to spare.......or giving her some things like towels or sheets and things that are still good but you are not using it any more etc etc....something to lightened her burden.

Or if you feel you have much more than you actually need or want and have few extra dollars that you might not miss than you can give her for her kids etc...actually you should feel thankful that by having more you can lend a helping hand

umannjo

Never feel guilty for YOUR success. Your sister needs to slow down.. get her life in order then start worrying about boyfriends. Maybe you can help her.. but she has to want help, and WANT to improve her own situation.

frawlicious

Hell no you shouldn't feel guilty, be proud!!!

Nicole W

No but I'll be your girlfriend :)

jaded

this is a toughie! is she happy? if she is contentedly living her raunchy life, no worries! some people have different values. if she makes nasty comments to you, that just means she is defensive about her own situation, it has nothing to do with you, part of being rich is having to be the better person when people who have no concept of what it takes to be rich try to diss you. goes with the territory, so, still no guilt.

but has she ever asked you for money? if she has not asked you, do not offer so that she does not come to think it is okay to ask. i will tell you why. i have a friend who has that exact sister, and the sister has taken money from the parents and has lied to everyone about everything. but this woman has a nice daughter, so, my friend, instead of giving this sister money, is ponying up to put the nice daughter thru college at great expense.

so save your pennies and dont cry for me, argentina, about your no good sister, who, i might remind you, is doing exactly !!!!!!! as she pleases while you live your life doing things for others as you know that is how you get ahead. as you are sitting here worrying about her and writing about her, do you think she is sitting at a computer right now writing " my successful brother is so kind to me, do you think i have the right to make him feel guilty because he has done better than me? ' well, uh, no she is not giving you !!!! a single thought.

we all make our own decisions in life and after age 21 i have observed that people are gonna do pretty much what they want. not what you or i or my friend would want for them.

so, some day there may be a lovely neice or nephew who can use help for college. or a mentor, or an inspiration, you be that. i have told my friend a million times that the reason that young lady she is helping thru college is the person she is, is because of the kindness and inspiration my friend has always shown her. no guilt allowed.

go in peace and prosperity.

damn onion

you might have a little guilt, unless you help your sister out. the average person only needs around 32k to support a family of 3 for a year.

Ryne R

no, dont feel guilty cuz ur a success and shes a failure

Not everyone is lucky to be able to think & good in making money.

The way you say things out sound you are very arrogant & look down on your own sister.

It good you are making lots of money. If you feel guilty perhaps you can start spending some on your sister children.

You feel more love in return & life will be more contented.

lanagrl78

No, I wouldn't feel guilty about having that kind of success.

But are you constantly rubbing her face in it?? Bragging is something to feel guilty about.

nursecracker

why are you feeling guilty about someone else's choices?

you have no power over what your sister does or the company she keeps.

you can't hogtie her and force her to change.

and helping her too much isn't a good idea either, especially if she makes no effort to improve.

take care of YOU.

cnsdubie

Nope. Why should you feel guilty over someone else's stupidity?

Your prosperity is a means for you to be blessed and to bless charities you believe are worthwhile. No need for guilt.

You should be irate for having to pay for her mistakes every time you pay your taxes, though.

Why aren't elections held on April 16th?

mafiosu

What is it you think you should feel guilty about? Do you control your sister and force her to make the choices she makes that put her in such a bad situation? If you were poor, up to your neck in debt with kids and a wife, would that make her life better somehow? Unless you can answer "yes" to the last two questions then you should go on with your life in peace. You are a good example for your nieces and nephews to follow. Your sister should be proud that her children have such a good role model to look up to in their family. However, just because your sister has made bad choices doesn't mean she is a bad person. Just like the fact you have made good choices doesn't mean you are better then she is. Try to keep things in perspective. Encourage your sister to get a better education and perhaps counseling to find out what drives her to pick men she can't count on. Avoid making her feel she is less then you because she has less then you. Treat her the way you would want to be treated if the situations were reversed.

xyz

That is her choice to keep having kids and picking bad partners. Maybe you can give her some helpful advice.

luminosa

No, of course not. You've got your life, she's got hers. You made your choice in life, she made hers. Simple as that.

basketcase88

I say nope, you should not feel guilty. You've gone out there, gotten a good job, keep your spending in check, and manage your finances well. Your sister, obviously doesn't. That's not your problem, it's hers.

just me

well, it depends on what you are doing to earn that money. if it is legitimate, congrats! however, it sounds like you could use a little dose of humble pie. reach out and try to befriend your sister and teach her some of your winning traits!

Qyllix

There is no reason to feel guilty, you made some goals for yourself, and then you accomplished them. Good for you. Also, you have to realize that the kids are her decision, and she hasthe consequenses for them. I make about the same, and work hard for what I earn. I have kids, and that is what i chooseto spend my money on, as well as savings, etc...

à®œ obama fever à®œ

help her get back on track then. if she continues to ***** up then stop.

No why should you feel guilty about it? I bet you worked hard for it. You deserve it.

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