Should I feel sad or is it simply a part of life that your friends forget about you after getting a significan?

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I am the type of person who has a small group of close friends. Well, in the past couple of years, most of my friends have gotten significant others (I don’t have one). I understand that once you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you initially want to spend all your time with them and so I’ve taken it as a fact of life that I’m basically forgotten about. However, should I be offended if six months have gone by and after trying to keep in touch with a friend, that they don’t contact you back or only contact you when they want something? Is this just a normal fact of life? Is it all about finding that mate, spending your life with that person, and forgetting your friends? Honest opinions please. I understand that no one wants to spend their entire life with their friends, but how important are they/should they be?

jay

Well, no. When you find the love of your life, or just a bf or gf, you shouldn`t forget about your friends. But if you feel that your friends are getting apart from you, maybe it`s time to find another circle of friends. I`m not saying to forget about them, but to move on just like they did. It is always nice to have your tight group of friend whom you feel comfortable with and love, but it`s always a good idea to have friends on the side. Don`t analize this too much. Life is not about this or the other, every situation is different. When I got married I felt I couldn`t relate to my friends because none of them were, and not only I got married, I was pregnant. They were still in the party mood and I couldn`t be a part of that anymore. I started to move away from them and they felt I was weird. They couldn`t understand my position. Now after 5 years of marriage I`ve gotten back to my friends because they`re all starting to get married and being in my same position. Now we can relate more, so we get along great, but while we were apart, I made new friends. This is what you should do.

h2ogirl

They haven't forgotten you, but it does happen all too often, and you have just been put on the back burner, sorry! If they are/were close friends, you will most likely have them as friends for life, but it will more than likely never be like it was before. Sometimes, once they are more comfortable in their relationships, they will begin to reach back out to their friends...who else are they going to want to be there for them when they get married as their bridesmaid ? It's hard, but it is an unfortunate fact of life!

Strong w/ Jesus

I have been married for over 11 years. Almost all my friends are married too. We hardly ever stay in touch, but when we do get together we have a blast. Life and relationships keep us busy, but we should always make time for friends. Any friend that never gets back with you unless they want something from you isn't a friend to begin with. If everyone around you is dating be happy for them and find some single people to hang with and enjoy the time you and your friends do get to be together.

AKAO4D

You should be happy for your friends and work on finding your S O. Real friends are forever. We can't be kids forever but the friendship is just as strong. Its natural to feel left out because your friend is with someone else instead of you. When you get a friend it will the same thing.

Good luck with that...

Queen of Beer

No, I've learned over the years to NEVER give up your girlfriends. Keep trying to make plans with them. If someday their marriages don't work out, you will all be happy you kept close ties.

Men come and go, but girlfriends are forever.

Linds

I think it's a fact of life. It is kind of crappy if they hadn't talked to you in 6 months. I remember when all my friends had boyfriends and I didn't. I felt like there was an invisible line separating me from them. Then when they were married and I had a boyfriend. That line was there. And it is still there for the friends who have kids and I don't.

I don't think you should ever forget your friends, just because you meet someone. That's not fair to you. I know when my husband and I met, we agreed to keep our friends and not get lost in each other. But most couples out there and it's all about them and no one else.

But I would be offended if I hadn't heard from a friend in 6 months. For me, I wouldn't give up on trying to get a hold of them, or plan a girls night out or something like that. But when you talk to them express that they are your friend too and that it would be nice to see them once in awhile instead of being ignored. It's not fair at all to you.

CLS

I understand what you are going through, I have a friend that does the same thing, everytime a man comes into her life I do not hear from her, when he is gone she calls me and it is a circle I have gone through with her many times.UNTIL NOW I have made the decision to be done with the friendship. I am not going to be her part time friend. GIRLS YOU CAN HAVE A BOYFRIND AND BESTFRIEND ALL AT THE SAME TIME. DO NOT LET A GUY BECOME YOUR EVERYTHING.

Glenn

you should just move on at let the past go

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