Should I forgive my fiancé?

Paul

I think you need to draw a line in the sand, because if you marry him, he'll do this again, more regularly, and he won't be a decent father for the kids. If you marry him now, this could turn into an ugly, painful divorce later. No, he needs to experience a really harsh consequence for what he does, or he'll never stop...and it'll only get worse. Your kids deserve a strong father, and now he can't be that guy.

creepycookie

talk to him and get the story straight before making any big decisions, don't go on gossip alone.

Mfh H

Hard to say. If you feel you can not trust him. It might be better to move on. You are going to have two kids to care for by yourself, which might happen anyway. If you do split, make it permanent and make him support the kids.

Good luck

Madison

You are the only one that can make that decision. You need to ask yourself if you can honestly forgive him for cheating on you and if you can trust him anymore.

Silenceâ„¢

Sounds to me he's walking on top of you and doesn't seem to care much about you or your feelings. You're on baby number two and getting pregnant with baby number three will not make him change. I'm sorry to tell you this sweetie but you may need a break from him. You don't want to stress yourself out and miscarry. I hope he stopped the cheating because STDS and HIV are very much alive. People don't think about it until it's over and done. He needs to change his ways fast or it's over. Is that the type of role model you want for your children?

Either deal with it or give him an ultimatum.
You don't want a disease especially while pregnant, you'll feel terrible if you give your unborn something that could've been prevented. Good luck with everything. Put it in God's hands.

Forgive him and put your foot down - HARD.

iloveakatlanta

Drop him. Make him pay child support and be active in his kids life, but I wouldn't want to marry someone who's a liar and a cheater. Don't make anymore babies with this man for sure.

Dani

Don't believe your friend, ask him what's going on... if he can't give you a straight answer then I would leave before you lose your other baby...

Neo

Your fiancÃ© has some major issues that you cannot ignore. Itâ€™s okay to work through this issue with him and eventually forgive him. However, the questions should be, â€œshould I marry a man that displays such behaviorsâ€?

I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH SWEET MILDRED!

yoadriannejohnson

you will never be able to trust him. where was he while you were in the hospital? you poor thing you know when it rains it pours. everything always happens all at once. you will get though this. good luck.

V J

If you dont trust him then its time to let him go which will be extremly hard because youve invested a lot into the relationship and the kids, You have a daughter when she gets older if she was in your situation and asked you what to do what would you say probably to move on you can do better then him if he cheats then he doesnt deserve you.

â™¥B@BY~GURLâ™¥

IF YOU TOLD HIM YOU WOULD LEAVE HIM THEN DO SO IF NOT HE WILL THINK HE CAN GET BY WITH ANYTHING AS FAR AS YOUR CHILDREN HE SOUNDS LIKE A NOGOOD PERSON FOR THEM TO LOOK AT THE DRINKING AND CHEATING SO WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE

raspberryph

wow, it seems like he is really not in this relationship mentally, but the children are probably what is making him stay at this point, and maybe some amt of sentimentalness with you. He seems very confused, and his actions prove he is NOT there mentally. I think that you would be very crazy if you did not cut this relationship off right now completely. Tell him that you know what he did, etc---- if you didnt already. Then cut off contact for at LEAST 2-3 weeks. Dont pick up the phone, stay with someone else.

You HAVE to remember your baby here... my good friend was going through marital trouble when she was pregnant and the child has several developmental disorders... including autism among others. She swears up and down it was due to her crazy emotional state during his fetal development... this baby is being formed in your body, with your hormone and emotional chemicals in your body. You just NEVER know... you need to keep yourself as happy as possible and get away from this man for awhile.... an idiot like this is not going to go anywhere, trust me.

Just let him stir in his juices and let him think long and hard while you escape for awhile and make SURE he has a hell of a time contacting you -- stay with a relative or friend, turn cell phone OFF, (ask a family member to borrow theirs for emergency use or get a prepaid one temporarily) and dont answer emails, etc.

IGNORE!!!! He needs to know you're SERIOUS

Mohamed S

first off all i will not give u the answer cuz u r the only one who has to answer in this question cuz what ever i said u r the one who will face this problem ......u just have set with ur self and defind ur Priorities if u prefer to live without him or nto if u need to keep ur kid's father or not ...and u need to know why he betraied u if that becase of u or because of him or cuz both of u and if he that only cuz of him i think he will petray u even after mareg but if u have hand in this problem i think u have to set with eah other and try to find way to this problem ...i know i didnt give u the answer but i gave u the key

s.i.l.l.y. s.a.r.a.h

Think about his past history and if hell make a good father. If he does. If he knows youll take him back after he cheated on you what makes him not do it again?

jenreydav

Guys say crazy things at time. You need to really have a good talk with him. You don't want to give up too soon because you are going to have kids with him. Be careful. You don't want to get hurt.

jude

it would really depend on his level of remorse, if it was a one time only, or one night stand kind of thing opposed to a full blown affair. if he were honest and came clean with it, and didn't try to lie out of it. personally i with my experience with cheaters, would not take them back because it usually always happens again.

E V

u know what they say...once a cheater always a cheater. but if he was drunk then that's different because ur not fully incontrol when ur drunk. i would give him another chance but if he does it again then i would tell him it's over and move on.

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