Should I forgive my husband?

paganmom

He says all he did was take them to lunch...wake up!
How old are these "girls?"

You need couples counciling...or a divorce...your choice.

It's not a good idea to stay together just for the kids...trust me the kids would rather you didn't!

Blessed Be!

Imperialtower

Don't EVER let a guy cheat on you, he will cry and bend on his kness giving you millions of excuses but at the end he will continue disrespecting you. When it comes to this kind of situations there is no second chances. Your happiness above all. Your children will understand with time.

????Shady????

I went through this..I cried alot.. I needed to know why...I wanted all the answers...I chose to forgive...But I can't forget...I am always on the edge of my seat...whats next...this is really so hard..I use to have stars in my eyes...now I have doubt .
Cara

cindy s

OH the poor piece of s%^& feels bad cause you caught him!! Hire a private eye and nail him. He will have to support you and the beautiful kids. He will not stopp what ever he is doing and like drug he will do more and more things with the girls, why would you ever put those kids throught his type of life. You are only prolonging the enevitable. Go get the evidence you need start putting back money and finding a place to live. Go, Go ON! Now!

Have you asked him "WHY" he does this? What if tables were reversed? Would he forgive you?

YAHOO SUCKS ***

You have been together for 16 years, so I just want to say congradulations. You are going to want to look into some counseling. For some reason he is having some issues with you, it could be his problems and not anything your doing or not. He has no right to be doing that regaurdless if it's not physical. Talk to him about counseling. I wish you the best of luck.

Jenny

i know you want to be together....but its hard for him to stop. he wasted a lot of money on his girlfriends and not to his family. he already had a chance to stop but he didnt. you can never trust men...

noneofyourbizwax

You need to make sure he didn't have physical contact. My husband said the same thing about being "just friends" but it ended up he was having a lot more than lunch. If he isn't actually cheating on you there are emotional hurts you need to work on together. Make sure you can trust him because you'll never be happy if you can't trust him. Good luck!

luvlisteningtomusic

Is he feeling badly and depressed because he got caught. He should of never started doing that in the first place. If he was unhappy he could of talked to you about it. It is one thing if he met this women he was attracted to by accident and you two were having problems and he took her out to lunch but he went into the mall and was trying to meet up with these women. Don't fall into his depression act he thinks this way you will feel sorry for him. He should of known better.

misydoll

Forgiving him would be nice. Take away his phone. He should be loyal to you only. This is how it starts, taking them out to lunch and then the next step, getting more physical.

Kara Joy

My mother and Step-dad had the same thing happen to them, she forgave him and now he still does it. It seems to me that if you were to forgive him, he may think he can get away with it and that probably would break your heart yet again. If you need more assurance, maybe check his computer or something, because that also will prove it if he has been in chatrooms and such

I hope that everything goes well, and good luck to you and your family

Radtech1996

NO, NO ,NO it is still cheating and if you do he will only do it again forgive him and you will be the sorry one time after time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

superbad~honeydip

You 2 should be able to get past this, its not the worst that could happen. But one of my flaws IS wondering what is the worst that could have happened. How far would it have went if you had never found out?

nanny2

what he did was so disrectful to you.I suggest if you want your marriage to work to get counseling,although i love my husband i could never forgove him for doing what your husband did,you are more of a woman than me,because he would be kicked out of my house.

idgaf

cheating is cheating, no matter if you are involved in relations or not. If he is spending quality time with other women and not you.. its cheating.

He wasnt sorry before he got caught.

Go to counceling, and see why he is cheating. If there is nothing you can do to fix it- it falls on him. Kick his @ss out, and make him regret his decision to step out on his marriage.

why is everyone saying forgive him whats wrong with you people? he should be taking YOU to lunch. not these stupid
****** es that donteven know him. he should spend his money on his wife. not other women. and do you believe he had no physical contact with them? you are telling me that you REALLY believe he took a woman out to lunch that he didnt know 5 times for NOTHING? come on people. married men dont take random girls to lunch over and over unless they want something in return. he is not doing this out of the goodness of his heart. lets be serious here.

1 more thing:
ever heard the saying "thou doth protest to much"? only a guilty conscience would cry and be depressed. when someone seems TOO upset over something , its usually because they are wrong and guilty. hes making you feel bad about it and making it YOUR problem, when its his. you shouldnt have to deal with his sadness and anger, you should be dealing with your own.

floridaman39us

Yes, forgive him. He likes the excitement that he gets when other girls find him attractive. He had his fun, be he should restrain from doing it again. I can talk to you more about it over lunch.

Anonymous

i think he should have thoguth you and the children too. every women feel sad and broken in this situation, and he doesnt need to have perfect intelligence to guess them. obviously, he didnt mind your feelings and trusted that you can not finish the marriage. i really annoyed when i thought like that.. i am sorry. if i were you, i wouldnt feel in secure and happy, so i would fisnih the marriage or relationship. "i feel bad, we have problems, we dont have a perfect marriage, so i will find consolation at other women" isnt something i can accept. he said there wasnt a physical contact--> what did he expect to hear ? "you are sooo generous ! thank you !" ??????? he is married with you, he is your husband, of course he shoudnt share any physical contact with other women. it is not a reward, it is a commitment between two people. once the glass is broken, it never become strong again.
he gave his time and energy to other women, for lunch or somethign else. he didnt give these to you or your children. in other words, he stole time and energy and care from you and your children. why stay with him ?
you dont need him, you need love and care as much as everybody. the children is out of the subject, it must be him who should have explained the reasons of his behaviours to the children. if he didnt make a serious mistake, you wouldnt mind it.
dont worry for children, the most important thing for them is growing up in healthy athmosphere. best wishes..

Death By Snoo Snoo

.....*tears*

just joking around

you should n't beacuse you never will know what he actually did... i havent forgave my husband for doing things kind of like that i just dont bother with him anymore

e_deckwa

well he is either very sorry or upset that he was found out. It's up to you if you can forgive him and move on. It will take a lot of work on your part as well as his. Can you ever trust him again? That in itself will take a long time , is it worth it? These are all things you have to figure out. Don't think cause you have kids that you should stay. Sometimes the children are more hurt by you staying in an abusive relationship whether it's physical, mental or emotional.

It is my experience that for every 1 truth you find there are several lies you don't know about. Is he sorry for his actions or just that he was caught? If he didn't come clean about meeting other women (if someone else told you or if you somehow found out a different way) then how do you know he's being completely honest? Once trust is broken the offender has to do everything they can to earn it back.... it's not a 'I won't do it again' thing. You should forgive him if he is willing to do right and put you and the children first. I don't know your whole situation and I'm not trying to say he's still lying. Just take it day by day, but always be on your guard.

Crazy

yea you should forgive him this time.. ANd make it clear to him that it better not ever happen again or your getting divorced

maddy

I would tell him to change this habit or forget about his wife and 2 beautifaul children. It is not fair on the family that he is thinking of cheating

confused123

Sounds like you two need to seek counseling. If he's telling the truth, he may not have had a physical relationship, but that was obviously his goal. If it wasn't, you would have been the one eating lunch with him.

drsteve362005

Right!

He took them out but didn't get any poon?

Sure!

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