Should I get a divorce?

Jazzy

Your husband doesnt understand your illness and doesnt know how to help you so feeling powerless he tries to put it back on you and accuse you of faking it. He needs to have your medical doctor talk to him and explain to him that your disease is just like any other. Tell him he wouldnt want you to go without insulin if you were a diabetic.

Do you think you should make a major decision about your marriage when you are suffereing so much? Your illness causes you to feel hopeless and only to see the bad in every situation. You say you both love each other. I think there is hope for you but you need to be under a psychiatrist s care. Make an appt. You dont have to have his permission. There are hospitals that have sliding fee scales and you may qualify for free care. Do you have health insurance that will help pay for it? Your medical doctor needs to explain to yourhusband how real this is an dhow important you get treatment.
You dont need to be ashamed. There is no shame in suffering from depression...the shame is when you waste your life untreated.
good luck hon

jenk

Try marriage counseling first. Definitely don't have any kids until you're sure you're staying.

Phoenix mom

have u tried marriage counseling, or talking to him. Divorce is permanent. but only you can know whats right for you. Good Luck

Paddington

It maybe your anxiety disorder and depression, first off, dont make any rash decisions yet. Get a counselor and explain your situation and continue your medication. I mean, something in your spouse must be special between you two that made you love eachother, try to look for it.;D

poemonkey1980

If he's not going to be supportive of you and your issue, it will only get worse. There really isn't anything else you can do unless he realizes it's not something that just 'goes away'. My ex husband was like that. I had severe social anxiety and he just assumed it was something that I was doing to myself. Also, are you receiving professional help? That might also work for the situation. Best of luck, though!

Usagi

if you don't want to be with him anymore, than the logical thing would be to go ahead and get a divorce. If you still love him, go and get seen by a doctor and have him diagnose your condition. Then he can't say its all for attention because you have proof.

Hani

Stay and give it a little more time. He understands you, what more can you ask for?
If the closeness is smothering you, sleep in different rooms for a while.
Deal with your issues, the depression and the anxiety. Get help. Find ways. Good luck.

JEROME B

Divorce and remain friends. You are too young to be married.

Barry D

Yes. If you are not happy go. Life is to short to be unhappy.

massiel248

are you getting help for your condition . if not get it and get help for your marriage aswell. you two are young though and he is probably very immature. good luck

GLORIA

I believe you should get yourself better first. You can't give anyone something you don't have yourself. I believe you need to work on yourself first and then it will all fall into place. Counseling is a good place to start. Best wishes!

Cee Eff

When you got married, you promised and vowed to be there in good times and bad. This is a bad time.

Go to counseling, or have him sit with you through one of your sessions with your depression counselor. You two need help to work this out.

Don't just walk away because it is hard. Life is hard. Marriage is hard.

Have you thought that maybe he is depressed and stressed out? Maybe he is going through some tough stuff that he hasn't shared with you, and that is why he is so quick to fight. Take a glimpse at what it looks like from his point of view.

redhead27

if you have a disorder, you should be attending therapy to take care of that. Obviously the effects of your disorder are having negative effects on your marriage, I advise that you take care of YOU before this marriage. Whats most important in this world is that we take care of our own problems and figure them out, our spouses are there to provide love and support... so don' poop on your husband when you are depressed or anxious. Work on you for a while, seek some counseling and therapy for help.

ADD: sounds to me as if you are making excuses for the lack of help you can get for yourself. If you are that dependent on a husband that is unwiling to provide help for your disorders then I suggest you get out of that relatinship. If you are unable to get a job, then there are plenty of non-profit organizations that will provide help. But you have to be willing to do the research and get the confidence to do it. It takes strength and courage to confront your own issues, but nobody else will do it for you.. you must do it for yourself.

rpb

I agree w/most answers. I think you should seek counseling..for yourself. Trust me, it makes things better for you in a long run. At the same time, yes, maybe he's stressed out too, maybe he also has issues and when you pick up a fight for whatever reason, he will take it out on you and make you feel the bad guy.
Go to counseling, it will help you realize if you really want this relationship/marriage..by the way, if i may ask...why are you married at 21? Shouldn't you be out there and have fun, travel, do whatever makes you happy? There's plenty of time to get married..you're so young...i married at 30 and don't get me wrong, i love my husband dearly, but sometimes i feel i rushed..i admit, sometimes i miss my Single days...and nights...

Good luck and i hope everything works out for you.

P.S. if he has a job and can get insurance through his company, he can add you on the insurance...and if he really loves you, he'll do that for you...for better and for worse, right?..in sickness and in health...

he sounds like a d1ck, telling him how you feel about not wanting "US" will only start another fight, but maybe it will be the last one you have to worry about. but you do need to get help, hon.if he cant support you enough to get you that help, then he needs to get a better job.

Satanic Lily

Holy sh*t....
I also have anxiety disorder and depression, cant keep a job without crying and having a breakdown and my fiance says it's all in my head.

I've been told that Easter seals can help and will get you whatever therapy and meds you need. I haven't tried it yet but it's worth a shot.

Jazzy also has an awesome point.

Serene E

Well, so??? Break up then.

gurrrrl

Ya you should. If you're not happy in the r/ship, get out.

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