Should I get married?

troble # one?

now or later it dosent really matter, dont count on money...

fungirl

if you really love him then marry him. the wedding is not the important thing, the marriage is.

latinsmama

NNNNOOOO!!! you would be doing it for the totally wrong reasons, you are too young you have no money and trust me you are being rushed into this. im not saying break up but i am saying take your time. talk to him, is he rushing you cause he'll be gone and you'll be in school and he's scared to lose you? talk to your families too. make him understand. because, if you don't think you are ready then you aren't.

cnwhab4

if youre not sure and are having doubts than maybe you shouldnt but if you really do love him get married now and do your big wedding later

kimandkaitlyn2005

If he loves you, he will respect you and wait for you. If you dont want to marry now, dont do it. otherwise you will regret it later.

casinodog

YES MARRY HIM

dangit!

I'm sorta going through what you're going through; though its not marriage. Do what you think is right, even though you love him and want to marry him doesn't mean mentally ur ready. You're 18 there is so much out there for you before you want to settle down. He's a Marine, he has something great going for him too. You can't let the love you two share to get in the way of your independence to do what you want with your life. If he loves you he'll wait for you. Talk to him. Communication is key.Good Luck!

pudda

you are a little young and he is pressuring you to get married why? is he secure in your relationship or does he need to control you. that what you should be asking yourself. look at your relationship from an outside eye is it good or could it be better. do you feel like this what you want or are you just settling for him

Tasha

AHHHH! I've been there. I was talked into rushing a marriage when I was just 18 because my boyfriend was going into the Navy. I was never happy with my decision and ultimately got divorced after having two children. As far as him saything that he's not going to get married at all if he can't have you is a manipulation tactic. Why would he be trying to manipulate you into marriage? You're not ready and you have the right to say no. Repeat after me"I'M NOT READY AND I'M NOT GOING TO GET MARRIED UNTILL I FEEL THAT I AM READY! It's almost like you're telling my story so I'm gunna tell you now that the manipulation only gets worse and ultimately ends up with isolation (at best). It could turn even worse. you may not see it now, but you're being played and that ain't love.

Curious Kitty

NO! You are way too young, and you should get married for love, not because he wants to make more money.

Judging by your spelling and grammar ... FUTURE, you mean, I am assuming, I would concentrate on school instead of a wedding.

Lelo

This is what I call young love.It is alright to marry him.If you know you are in love with him and god approves it is okay.But let me tell you something love is everything but unsure.

Cynamon

I personally think that 18 is too young to get married. But if you are happy and 100% positive about this, 100% sure that this is the right thing, then go for it.

A couple of friends I graduated with were both 18 when they got married. This was back in 1998. He is a Marine. They are still married and have three kids. They are completely happy and in love with eachother.

So, as I said... make sure this is what YOU want. Explain to him any concerns you may have. If he really loves you... he WILL wait. If he don't... then find someone better.

Brittany I

Honestly, I think you already know the answer to this, but in my opinion you shouldn't. Money is the number one reason for divorce and if that is one of the key reasons you are getting married in the first place then you are starting your relationship out on the wrong foot. If its really meant to be with the two of you, he'll wait for you to be 100% sure about it. You should never start something this major in your life with doubts.

flyonthwall99

If you're not sure that you are ready to get married, then you are NOT ready to get married. If your Marine loves you, then he'll wait until you're both ready.

shepherdjohn

With a foundation like this, you'll be asking more questions in this same category!

tapple64

if you have to ask 1000's of total strangers in a public forum if you should marry this guy....then the answer is no. you seem to be having second thoughts about marrying him. only your heart and head can answer this question for you. perhaps you should wait a while....let him do a tour of duty or whatever, then see how you feel when he comes back.

You Don't Know Me!

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER get married for money. If you not ready just tell him. If he really loves you he will understand and you two will get married when you're both ready.

iyamacog

You marry ONLY when you're comfortable doing so.

pinkbooger

1st-If you don't have kids continue to use protection.
2nd- If you do have kids think about if getting married is in THEIR best interest.
3rd- personally, I think if you are asking if you should get married- that is an indication that you are not ready- and why should you be, you are only 18 years old. Now, I am 23 and not that much older but believe me between 18 and 23 a lot goes on in your life and marrige should not be one of them. If he loves you he will wait. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years- I met him when I was 18. After 2 years- we knew that we were it- we were not going to be with other people because we decided that we will get married one day- we were both in college when we met, and I let him know that there would be now way that I would marry him while I was in school.

Go to college. Make a name for yourself. Trust me- the Marines are not going to be able to take care of the both of you for long. You need to be able to take care of yourself first, love your self first- then take care of someone else and love someone else. I am going to marry my fiance but, I want him to depend on me like I depend on him, I have a degree and so does he- if anything goes wrong (hopefully it doesn't because this is not a perfect world- lets face it) I will be able to take care of myself.

Wait. You can love him and wait, he can love you and wait. You still have a lot to learn. Don't sell yourself short.

Helen W.

DO NOT GET MARRIED! Getting married is a huge decision and it should never be made for reasons like the ones you've given. Moreover you are extremely young and need some time to grow up before you get married to this man or anyone else.

504reppa

2 years and some ain't enough time to really know some one to the core. There are plenty of things about him that can surface and take you for surprise. Money is comes and goes especially but marriage is supposed to be forever. Ask yourself this"can I see life/ a future without this man?" then make a descion.

cope_acetic

Marriage should never happen unless you are 100% SURE!!
I think you should wait at LEAST a year...if you are still not sure, wait another one.
It is a LOT easier to delay a wedding than it is to go through a divorce!

jeweledfruit

I am married to someone in the Navy. Not the same branch- but still military and it works the same.

First- its a BIG commitment. If you are on the fence about it then dont do it. Your first answer without question should be YES. If not then maybe he's not the one.

If you choose to get married in the next few days then you have signed on to be his support system. You need to move where ever he is and be there for him- and he may at any given notice be deployed for some ungodly amount of time. Yes, he will get housing money, and a little more money for being married. And that will help. You will have free medical and not free but cheap dental. Those are pluses in todays high cost insurance days. People knock the military but the benefits are great. Not too many jobs pay for your housing, utilities and insurance without it comming out of your pocket. Also, you get the commissary and exchange benefits. So, with all of that you dont have to worry so much about the small stuff and you can put your attention to school like you mentioned. I say go for it- but if you are hesitant then that is a sign you arnt ready.

Nicki

I would wait until he gets out of the Marines, you don't sound like your really sure that you want to be married. Never marry someone because they want to get, you marry when you feel you want to spend the rest of your life with him. If he really loves you he'll wait until your ready, if not then he only wants to marry someone. Marriage is a big responsibility and you don't want to rush in to anything. Wait until your older and make sure you love him enough to spend the rest of your life with him Best of Luck To You.

ala pb&j sandwiches

I got married at age 20 and I was in the Air Force. He was also in the Air Force. I have to say that for me, I didn't even know who I was really, or what I wanted out of life. Needless to say, I am no longer married to him, it only lasted two years. Now I'm a lawyer in the Air Force (I'm now 35). The divorce rate in the military is very high because it is a very difficult life, being away from your husband every time he has to deploy somewhere. Sometimes it works out, but most times it does not.

I have to say that given my own life experience and also my experience as a military lawyer where I advise people all the time on how to get divorced, that you should definitely WAIT. It is NOT WORTH IT for the money! The extra money he would get for getting married is because he would have to support you, and really it is not that much extra.

My advice is that you should go to school, get your education, and if he really loves you and wants to spend his life with you, then he will wait for you until you are both ready. You will both be better off if you get your college education done before you get married. Your financial options will be soooo much better then, too, once you get your degree.

You are going to be a totally different person 5 years from now. Don't sell yourself short. This is your life and your future!!! If you have any doubts at all - I think waiting is the right decision.

Good luck!!

damaris

I think you are too young to get married. You can have a beautiful relationship with your boy friend for many years to come... A marriage brings along a lot of problems and that is why I say you are too young to deal with that. And also you don't need someone to tell you what to do. If you feel that you are not ready (although you love him very much), then don't get married. You should tell him how you feel, without being afraid that if you say "not now" the relationship will be over.

mom of twins

Don't do it. You are too young and you will be left alone to fend for yourself when they send him away. It will be very lonely for you and you are too young to sit home while your husband is away. If it is meant to be wait until you are older and then get married. YOu can still date him but do not get married the divorce rate for military is very high because of this!!!

jrsgurl62

If you have any reservations at all, then the answer is no, you should not get married.

The fact that it will help HIM save money is not a good reason.

If you both love each other, then you should wait until you are sure...and aren't asking strangers if you should get married.

Best of luck to you and your Marine.

Semper Fi

dheck03

Getting married is always a scary thing for young couples, if you are unsure or have any doubt do not do it because you will regret it afterward, get your start at collage and get on your own two feet before starting to live with someone else it will give you more confidence and the time you will need to focus on you futcher.

bahamian.beauty

No sweetie, i dont think so. You and your guy are way to young to even think about getting married. If you love him, fine, try to take your time to see if you still love him in lets say 5 years, if yes, then you can start to think about marriage

veganmarshmallows

DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!
You are having doubts, please, please give it time.
So what if you two will have more money if you get married now. Do you know how costly a divorce is?
Also, do some research on the divorce rates for people whom get married before age 25. I believe the divorce rate is around 75%. This has a lot to do with how much people change between the ages of 18-25. Give it time, maybe in the future it will become the right thing but for now, your heart seems to be telling you to wait.

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