Should I give the ring back?

lez k

You should give the ring back. The ring is basically a contract, when the contract is broken it should be returned.

Are you really going to give it to your daughter or are you just trying to punish him?

tessa1198

Im not even going to read this I believe he should have his ring back It was in his family before you ...wouldnt you want the same?

Jab

yes, please return it cos' you have already said that ring means alot to his family...

he can always keep it & give it to your daughter when she grows up or maybe to another loved one in his life..

the ring was given to you in the first place cos' you are then going to be married to him... now that you two are on the verge of divorce, return the ring...

the wedding band you can keep though..

Jamie K

I would return it. I was in the same boat and I returned the ring. It makes you a better person.

Wanda

Why don't you buy that the grandfather wants to give it to your daughter? Do you think he will be giving it to someone else.

I find that when people fight over "things" that it looses all the sentiment and becomes a reminder of the bad behavior.

It's a ring - give it back to them. You can give your own rings to your daughter to provide the sentiment.

That Atheist chick

Yes I think you should return it. Yes it is yours but, it must be really important to them to ask for it back. I know that you want to give it to your daughter but, its just a ring. You'll still have the wedding bands to give to her.

starrjan2874

i have my husband's grandmother's ring as well. i also have a daughter who i plan to pass it down to, but i think you should give it back. it is their family's heirloom, not yours. i understand that you have reservations as to if they will hand it down to your daughter, but that is not your choice to make, that choice along with the ring is theirs. i know you feel like it was given to you, but in all honesty it was loaned to you for as long as you were married to their family member. since you will not be married to him anymore, it is no longer yours. is it possible that you want to hold on to the ring as a way to hurt him, and or his family? Maybe you should ask his grandfather if he will sign a contract stating that he will pass it down to your daughter. that will ease your mind as to that matter, then the only reason you will have not to give it back would be that maybe you feel like you need to have it because you can't accept that the marriage is over. it is not helpful to yourself to keep believing that having the ring is important, it is just a ring to you. it is THEIR family's heirloom. if in the end they do not pass it down to your daughter, she will be old enough to see what kind of people they are.

bones

This could go either way. It was given to u and u have all rights to the ring. On the other hand since he wants to give it to the daughter u can keep it to make sure that happens. Honestly if it was me I would give it back because i wouldnt want anything that he gave me. I also wouldnt want my daughter to wear it either maybe bad luck. Its only a material thing. Who's to say that your daughter future husband would want to use that same ring anyways?

walker9842

If your divorce is amicable then I would give back to grandpa personally, to make sure he gets it. If it's an ugly divorce talk to your atty. before doing anything.

Charles S

give it back

True

YES

In any other situation, I would say no. However, this ring is sentimental to his family. Iâ€™m sure there are reasons why the grandfather wants it back. Perhaps there is someone else that he wants to share the ring with, maybe a daughter or a granddaughter. If your ex-husband keeps the ring then he can decide to give it to his daughter later if he wants to.

Typically the ring that gets passed down to your daughter is your own grandmotherâ€™s ringâ€¦not someone elseâ€™s grandmotherâ€™s ring.

Oh and wouldnâ€™t she get an engagement ring from her fiancÃ©? What is he going to do? Buy it off of you? Is she expected to be proposed to and sayâ€¦no thanks, I have my own?

Give it back

faith

If it is a family heirloom then I would give it back. When I got divorced I had to give back the ring because it was made with his mothers ring. I just felt like that was the right thing to do.

cutebunny1122

yes you should give it back

you should definitely give it back. it's his family heirloom and it's truly up to his family what should be done with it. it would be nice to give it to your daughter but i just don't think that's your call. sorry but best of luck

Freedle S

I guess you can do what you want to do with the darn ring and you probably will

However, I think it is pretty mean spirited of you to want to keep and engagement ring that came from the ex's grandparents. Legally, you probably have all the rights in the world to keep it, morally, it is absolutely wrong. You know it is sentimental to his family and you are just getting the final dig in. I'm just glad your husband got away from you when he did. He will probably consider the rest of his years without you as the good years.

Marble77

I think you should. The ring is a gift attached to the promise.If you initiated the divorce than for sure.If he Initiated it then put it up for auction.But if ultimately it is to go to your daughter what difference does it make to you if you give it or the grand father?

rebmcns1

The ring was a given in hopes that it would remain in the family. No longer will you be family, if your daughter is to have the ring it should be given by the grandfather, or her father not you.

C M

If you are no longer going to be in the family technically, giving it back would be the classy thing to do. If it is going to go to your daughter, then it should be someone, be it your soon to be ex husband or someone else, that gives it to her.

darlin

I would give it to the grandfather. He gave it to you with the intentions that you would be married and carry as his sons wife. I don't think you have any reason to keep it, your bonds were broken and this ring belongs to the grandfather. The other ring is yours to keep. Pass the wedding band on if you want but your divorcing, thats not a good ring to pass on.

I would pass one on if the couple was married for a lifetime and one spouse passed away, but not from a divorced couple. How is that good? If you remarried and stayed married I could see the point in that. Don't be insensitive, give this ring directly to the grandfather, it means a great deal to him, and he wanted your marriage to last a lifetime as his did.

Colonel Obvious AM

Yes you should return it!!! It's his family's not yours. It is their decision to give it to your daughters, not yours.

Clair C

yes

Slick

My thought is if its going to your daughter who really cares who gives it to her. I would spend your energy fighting over the important stuff like silverware, lol. Kidding I know things are rough, been there done that, just from my perspective I wouldn't fight this battle and it may give you leverage on something you may want some latitude on.

Good luck!!

EDIT:

OMG...I see now why so many divorces cost so much and get so dirty. Its like why fight over this? I don't know your ex or your ex's dad but you think they don't have the integrity to pass this on to your daughter? This is nothing more than a c**k fight and not about whats important, that is your daughter getting the ring. Certainly grandpa has some harsh feelings about the divorce and he bought the ring originally and he is probably old and set in his ways. Just give him the ring back and move on to something real. You will fight over this and spend more money over something so trivial. your not going to wear it anymore so give the darn thing back.

and for everyone else......"dont be haten!!" LOL

Darren0901

I think that you should give it back with the understanding that it will go to your daughter.

sweetypie9

y'all have been married 10 years? I mean to me, that's like forever and he broke that trust of marriage with someone else.

Does the grandfather know that it's going to your daughter just like he wants anyway? I mean what's the big deal if you give it to her or he gives it to her. The end result is the same.

I'd say keep it and give it to your daughter when she's older. That way you are sure it goes to her like it should. You treasured the marriage. You can't help that your ex didn't. It's not your fault. Wedding rings and engagement rings are given. If you break off the engagement prior to marriage or aren't married that long then I'd say give it back but it's not like that at all.

Good Luck!

i agree w/ M v

leeuhh2008

yes you should give it back!

M v

I would return the ring making sure that all parties knows that it will go to your daughter.

abc

yes you should give it back; if they want your daughter to have it, they can give it to her when she is 25

velma dinkley

yes you should ...i think your being alil nasty here ...ofcourse they will give the ring to your daughter ....she is their grandchild after all ....just give the ring back
im starting to see y ur getting a divorce

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