Should I go on a cooking "strike" because I'm sick of being the ONLY one that cleans up the mess?

KimBaby

* starts picket line for all unappreciated wives *

edit: I am 100% with you Ms. GTO. I love cooking so much I was actually contemplating going to the Culinary Institute of America. (Was accepted even.. the whole shebang) Now that I am NOT going - long story- I detest cooking for the same reasons you stated above. Only I have my fiancee, his 7 y/o son, and my fiancees 29 y/o brother who also lives with us. So, I hear ya!

Valerie X Account #20! At Last!

Any child over the age of 7 should learn how to wash dishes.

Any child over the age of 11 should know how to clean the entire kitchen, including wiping down all appliances.

Do you have a dishwasher? This makes cleaning up all the easier for them to do.

Also, you could pick three nights a week you cook and the other 4 are on your own, with the exception of Friday, which in our house is "order out" night.

My sons learned VERY young how to help out. And they bring in ALL the groceries out of the car...that is one of many ways family helps each other.

Write out some house rules for all to follow, and stick with them.

I'm a Riot.

I'm totally with Valerie. Our famiies are lazy because we allow it.

flagger

Not at all unreasonable to expect that the cook does not clean up as well.

That's our deal, I cook she cleans up.
I hate dishes and she hates cooking, It works.

Now, unfortunately you seem to be saddled with a bunch of men(?) who need full time mothering.
How sad.

I taught my sons how to clean, cook, mend clothing, and take care of themselves.
The women in their lives do not need to be a surrogate mothers.

â€¢â€¢â—‹ PitBuLL â—‹â€¢â€¢

Yep I did and now my 8 yr old and my man clean up! hahahahaa
It taught them

Le_Roche

You don't mention whether or not you've asked them to help in the kitchen. If you haven't, give them the opportunity to help. If you have and they don't, then a strike is in order. You should tell them what you're doing and why. Something like:

"I make an effort to make sure there is food in the house and someting prepared at mealtime. I don't think it's asking a lot for you to help me put away groceries, help me in the kitchen or clean up after we've eaten. I'm feeling unappreciated and have had enough. Effective immediately, you can cook, shop and prepare your own meals. Unless you're willing to help me out, regularly and without my asking, you're on your own." THEN STICK TO IT.

sightseer

Sounds like a plan. Follow thru and make sure they know why it happened and that if they don't change or if they go back to their old ways ,. it will continue.

Trice

go for it because it actually works.

my mom did it to us, and we learned our lesson

wish you luck! =]

CindyLu

Strike! Strike! Strike!

Marcus

Have them cook next time, and you can clean up. Let them know that they will be cleaning up next time you cook or that it will be the last time. Stick to your promise, or they will not believe you.

Cassie

If you have asked them and they have done nothing, then just cook for yourself. Then you are only cleaning up after yourself. They can fend for themselves.

sunbun

The 18 year old is certainly old enough to move out....Yes, you should take care of any minor children in the house and of course your hubby. Perhaps you could prep meat for grilling outside that hubby will take care of.

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