Should I have one last fling before I get married?

Daddy H

If you have to ask that question you are definitely NOT ready to get married. When I was engaged the only woman I desired was my fiance. I can understand being attracted to other people even after you're married but an attraction and actually sleeping with someone else is 2 different things. ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION. Would you approve if your fiance slept with someone while engaged to you just to have 1 last fling? Be Honest with yourself. You Never want to risk hurting someone you truly Love if they are really your SOUL MATE. 1 Night of Passion is not worth A lifetime of misery or regrets. The answer is no.

oracleofohio

No, you're in a committed relationship. I think you might want to re-think getting married.

hank

You seem to be answering your own questions. Dont do it. That will be on your mind forever.

wentfishing2

If you need a "fling" you need to reassess getting married.

Why do you feel the need? What's going on inside of you that is causing this desire?

If this is the guy you really want to spend the rest of your time with and you need a "fling" now, who's to say you won't need one after you get married?

You're on dangerous ground here. Time to really look inside yourself and see if this truly is the man for you.

G.V.

Please, don't get married. I can already see trouble ahead. You will cheat if you can get away with it, and will have no qualms about it.

What would the point of a "last fling" be? If you did decide to have one, I doubt it would be your last one, in or out of a marriage.

kittykatsback

I really do not see the point of this at all. You need to realize A LOT can go wrong:

Your "fling" can be a dynamo in the sack...you still going to get married?

Your hubby can find out years from now, how would you respond?

You can get an STD (some STDs are NOT condom proof!)

You can get your heart broken.

Now...does it STILL sound appealing?

squidsgirl97

If you feel you need to have one last fling before you marry a man you are committed to enough to set a wedding date, maybe you need to rethink that committment??!! Trust and honesty in a relationship start before you say "I DO" ....

myteemo

Are you sure you're ready to get married? It doesn't sound like you are ready for commitment and I don't think dishonesty is a good way to start.

elle

That breaks to covenant relationship between spouse, you've made the commitment to be with your hubby. Which would you rather do, flirt or get married? You can flirt with your fiance for goodness sakes!

jjjjjjjjj

No. If you are seriously considering being with someone else in any form, then you aren't committed enough to be engaged. Accepting the ring and proposal of marriage bond you to a promise of being committed only to that man. Doing as you suggest, even thinking about it, is breaking that promise.

Do not get married at this time and tell you fiance why.

giggles

Why are you even getting married then!! If you can't stop thinking about having one last fling then you should definitely not be getting married!! you should be thinking about the life that you are about to have with your new husband/wife!!!!
don't do it, it will ruin your life forever!!!!

daljack -a girl

If this is how you think about it I think you're not ready to get married.

If you already think you're missing something you're headed for trouble.

You should be committed to the relationship when you agreed to get married.

EazyBreezy

If you are in a committed relationship, then being with someone else and not telling your partner is still cheating. The other way for you to stop thinking about it is to just think about how much better you will feel about yourself if you just don't do it! What would you say to your man if he asked for one last fling with someone else?

BabyGirl

I don't think so....unless you don't mind him going for a fling either...put yourself in his shoes

YUMMY1

Grow up! If you're serious about getting married then don't do it. Don't be a cheater, Karma is a B*TCH!!

Manny

If you do it you should just call off the wedding now. It won't be one last fling, it will be cheating on your fiance.

kalelmark

are you seriously going to marry this man if you love hIm you would not cheat

Lucci

How would you feel if your fiancee did the same? If you have no problems with your man doing it, then discuss it with him and let him also have a last fling before marriage.

cherryblossom

You are not ready for marriage. Be honest with your partner and move on.

I don't even know if this if for real or not. Is this a joke? Are you really that morally reprehensible? Wow, I was hoping women like you didn't even exist. You're like every man's worst nightmare. So you've been with this poor sap for over 4 years, are engaged, and you still want a "last fling"?! You think it makes it better because you're not married yet? You're in a committed relationship, idiot. Why bother asking a retarded question you already know the answer to? No, of course you shouldn't, but I don't really give a damn whether you do or don't. Just do one good thing in your life and break off the engagement. You don't love him. In fact, if you have that little respect for his feelings and welfare I doubt you even like him. If you could "live with it" if he never found out then it simply points to the fact that you don't have a soul, which explains a lot. Of course it's immoral to lie and cheat on someone and put them at risk from contracting an std because of your own failure as a human being. Most normal people already know this, but apparently you need someone to spell it out for you because you're such a freak. Please don't ever have any children.

Princess J

If you could live with yourself then you are not ready for marriage.

Also starting your marriage out on a lie is not the right thing.

If you really feel so strong about it then talk to your fiance and let him do the same thing.

You really should not walk down the aisle....you are not ready.

I hope he sleeps with the stripper and falls in love with her...lol he would probably be better off...LMAO!

Mrs. Jack Sparrow â™¥

Absolutely NOT!! What if he did? How would you feel? Is it worth him calling it off? Or you feeling so guilty you would? You should have gotten it out if your system before the engagement.

poodle mom

yeah, he is thinking the EXACT same thing, only his fling will probably be the one that rocks his world, and he wont ever stop thinking about her...go for it

bulldogclover75

What's the point?! Grow up. You're getting married...hence you are engaged. Cheating is cheating. You might be able to live with it, but it isn't right or fair for your soon to be husband!! How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot....and be HONEST with yourself!!

tersey562

If you know it is wrong and you still want to do it, this is not the guy for you long term. There are no guarantees he would "never" find out about it, you'd be surprised that things that can go terribly awry when we lie, cheat and are deceitful. If you really feel you need to date someone else, be honest with your fiance and break it off, otherwise you have some major thinking to do about yourself, your values, what you think marriage and relationships are all about. How would you feel if your fiance did this to you? Would you be terribly hurt? If not, then again, you two aren't meant to be together. Good luck and God Bless.

Lt Col Killgore

If that's the way you feel, you shouldn't be getting married.

happywjc

NOPE DON'T DO IT even if he never found out, you's know forever!!!! Guilt is like carring a big bag of rocks around. and if you've been together that long, why cheat now????????

Angel D

Marriage is very scary, especially if you look at it with an outlook that it is until death and you will be solely committed to that person forever.....so I could see why you would possibly be thinking this. I do want to throw this your way though, if the only way you can get having one last fling out of your head is by having it, then how are you going to get the regret (that WILL come later on) out of your head other than confessing or something? Then how is you husband going to feel? Then where will that leave your marriage? I will tell you, in a bad spot.

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