Should I let my wife quit her job?

Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths

We'll I think you need to rephrase the question. Sounds like your controlling. Talk about it. Is she going to find another job? Does she want to stay at home with the kids? Can you afford for her to quit? I think it should be both of your decision.

sofia

if your wife wants to quit her job, it is her choice.

it is not your place to "let her".

you do not own her.

crct2004

Let her? What is this 1950? If you can afford to and have children and her job is making her sick, I can't imagine why you would have to think twice about it.

Chris

"Let" your wife quit her job? If this is really what you meant, I would say to you that this decision is your wife's, and that she is entitled to do as she pleases.

realist not racist

What do you mean "let"? If she wants to quit her job and she can afford it, by all means, tell her I said to do so.

P V from S C

You should discuss the pros and cons of quitting with your wife and make a decision together. The idea of 'letting' her quit is not healthy for your relationship--you should base decisions on mutual discussions. If your family can afford it, and if your wife wants to, quitting seems like a good idea (to me), but you will both be happiest if you talk this over and decide together.

Dana

if you can afford for her to not work, and go to cooking school...then why not. Maybe she will also have more time for your children, and volunteering. Life is too short to be miserable.

flamingo

If u make enough money to support ur family, then why would u not let ur wife quit her job. If she chooses to go to cooking school, she could become a chef someday, and not only be doing what she likes but getting a nice paycheck beside.
Change is good if one is unhappy in what they do.

Christian L

i think that yes u should

stedyedy

Just reading your question pisses me off. You sound like a control freak. If your wife doesn't want her job isn't that her business. Why is it your decision?

if she wants to quit and your financially stable, then yes

Frozzangel

If she likes her current job,then dun let her quit her job.

wise44

If you have a decent enough financial nest going I would have to say,it wouldnt hurt.That is if it makes you both happy and more comfortable yes I say yes.

kimandryan2008

If you don't' need the added income, then yes! If the role was reversed, would you want to stay just because?

scarlettstar

why doesnt your wife get involved in your business and release herself from her own....

Gnurse

If she is unhappy, and you can support your family without her income, why wouldn't you let her quite the job?

woohooo

I'd say go for it! As long as u are financially stable and sounds that u r, then why not! There's no reason she should work a job if she's not happy with it! If she wants to do cookin school go for it!
i am sure ur kids would love to have someone be home all the time!
well best of luck with whatever u all choose!
have a good night!

ravenna_wing1

Do you love your wife? If you know that she is having so much trouble, that you need to support her and help her get through this difficulty, and if that means you let her leave her job and discover other things/careers in her life that she loves, then that is what you have to do.

T_Bone

I think that if it's causing her physical harm and you make enough money, you should let her quit. Let her do what makes her happy as long as you can still support your family!!

califdreamer_2000

LOL I was a medical student and my husband thought that it was such a waste when I quit the first time.

After we had kids, he saw what happens in schools these days and we started homeschooling. Plus he traveled for work and we would go with him. When our kids were sick or when he was, I took care of it. Then he saw the difference in our family compared to others and it was to our advantage. He got to see and enjoy our kids even more because I was able to be a mom at home. Our kids got to see the whole usa and not just read it in a book. You see, things happen for a reason.

Be happy that she wants to try other things. When the momma is happy, everybody happy!

ravendiane1

if you can afford it give her some time off to explore, remember if momma aint happy aint nobody happy

nawnndawn

Sure, if you can afford it. Tha way your wife can go to cooking school, or whatever and she can do something that se truly loves if and when she chooses to go back to work.

hate the sand ~ love the castle

Well sound like a good idea.
If she wanted too then i think you guys should.
BUT just dont make her. Cuz then that would cost problem for you latter on.
Good luck. :)

Man I'm bored!!!!

If you get enough money to support your family and feed them well and still have a little bit of extra money let her do what she wants.

az_mommma

She did the right thing to consult you. This decision effects both your lives and should not be made unless everyone agrees.

Seems to be you would have no problem supporting your family if she was at home.. so why not give it a try and see how it works out!

Magaroni

If she doesn't like her job, she can:
a) Find another one
b) If the money is not necessary for your standard of living, quit and pursue other interests
c) If the money IS necessary for your standard of living, change your standard of living

CUrias

You may not want to label it as "letting her" because that's opening up a can of bad stuff. However, what is it that you both have agreed on? Have you ever discussed your jobs and what your financial expectations are from each other? I ask because these decisions belong to the both of you. If what she brings into the household isn't necessary, then maybe you have to start evaluating options. If it is money that is counted on to accomplish the life that you're accustomed to living, then her option should be to replace what she's doing with something that will supply your family with the same or better as far as income/benefits goes.

Freakout

Tell her to quit...my wife is a full-time housewife and I earn less than S$2000/month. But we have a happy family and I let my wife enjoy what she wants as that happiness shows in everything else she does.
I hope you will do likewise if money is not a concern, as she has more time you will see it improve your family life and when she get bored if she ever than she will go back and work part-time.
So encourage her to quit..........

Kevin

Only you two can make choice.

chocolateknight69

if she wants to, yes. No point in doing something you don't like if you don't want to do it, and don't need the money that bad.
if it's really about money, she can find another job she'd like better?
yup.

is it really YOUR choice, or hers?

barbie1121

I left my job. But my husband doesnt support me. I have had three surgerys and he can support us. Our kids are grown. We been married less then a year. so am I with someone controlling. or just dumb for trying to get myself healthy again. I just want to find something part-time for now and school. I guess I was wrong he cant even make love to me. I feel so sad even though I had been working for 20 years

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