Should I marry a woman that seems spoiled, and who annoys me?

ranch_tester

Are you nuts? Hell no! A spoiled brat will drive you crazy, broke and homicidal! Cancel that check and buy another one.

Mathsorcerer

If she already annoys you now, then after you are married this will continue to get worse.

My advice: do not marry her.

deborah l

Don't ever marry someone and expect them to change. They won't change . . what annoys you today will infuriate you tomorrow. This is not the woman you want to marry . . .

cutie420311

she will run you into the ground buddy

Librarian

spoiled maybe, annoyed nope.

time to move on

tee

COMUNICATION is the key sweety, let her know how you feel... maybe she is unaware of how she runs people down... DONT put up with it... mold her now before you tie the knot....

Gracie63

She won't be so precious when your checking account is overdrawn and your credit cards are maxed out!! what you have is not love but located below the waistline. Dump "Miss Precious All About Me" and find a woman who appreciates you and reciprocates. Honestly, a whole new world will open up to you!!

Born-Again Libertarian

Consider marriage a permanent relationship. Sure, you could get a divorce, but going in with that already on the table is kind of pointless.

A relationship requires sacrifice on both sides. Both people take from each other, but the point is that both of them also give.

Stay in a long-term relationship if you want to, but avoid marriage unless you see some change.

Calculus

I don't really think you should marry her, mate, sorry! Old habits die hard, and she is not going to change any of her extravagant habits.

im sure

She won't change because she doesn't have to. Everybody gives her what she wants and caters to her every whim! She sounds selfish and immature, not really ready for marraige. But I don't think what anybody writes here will convince you or change your mind! So, good luck!

I luv my kids

NO you will be very sorry.

I got answers!

Don't do it.....

LilSunbeam

I am the same way and my husband loves it!! I'm his little princess and it works for us, but you better accept it or move on cuz she aint changin!

ndnqt1966

I think you would be foolish to.....she will always want her way and to h*ll with what you want. If you don't mind being married to a spoiled *ss woman and can give her EVERYTHING that her selfish heart desires....then marry her!

Rev

Oh Man! I just finally ran away from a situation like this a few months ago, after four years I just couldn't take it anymore. I was miserable, you'll only be able to tolerate it less and less and there is NO changing a woman like that. Run Brother RUN while you still can! Now that I've gotten away I'm a million times happier than I was, don't let her corrupt your brain, not all women out there are like her, there are plenty of beautiful women out there who will actually care about YOU and not just themselves.

just me

I did not even read all that. You say she already annoys you? Just wait.

Everything intensifies when you get married. If she is acting this way now, it will be worse once you get married.

When you are making your decision make sure to remember that!

meka33311

Shoot yourself in the foot ....because the pain you're gioing to go thru if you marry her will feel that way

kiya

Well basically you already see the red flags now so you need to take heed to them before they get to out of hand and you'll be trying to kill her to get rid of her. If you can't satisfy her needs now what makes you think you can if you marry her? Right now you're in a tough situation and if you get married it's gonna get tougher. I got married and my husband would smoke so much weed that it didn't make any since. When I married him it got to the point that he would get mad at me and wouldn't talk to me for days if he didn't get it. Saying that to say people have addiction for certain things and they start to put it before you and your feelings.

Well, you don't have to get married tomorrow.
It sounds like you two need to spend some more time together and see if it is to last, before you make the big commitment.
What's more, you should tell her exactly how you feel, to give her a chance now to try and do something about it.
It could be that she thinks that it is what you like about her and so, won't change it, whereas if you do tell her, she won't have any excuse not to make an effort and if it does appear that there's been no improvement, then she'll know herself, that you've been straight with her. She'll know that, she didn't give the relationship her best and only have herself to blame or the fact that you are just too different.
So, do it for both your sake, and tell her exactly what you just told us.
It makes sense to us; to me as a woman; It will to her too, even if she might pretend the contrary.

Mensa Head

you have to

American Beauty

If you marry this woman, you will be making a mistake. This is a selfish, controlling individual who will destroy any hope of happiness for you. She will drain you, both financially and emotionally. Understand that spoiled brats don't make good marriage partners. A woman who cares more for you than she does herself is a better match. Be wise and wait for Miss Right, instead of condemning yourself to a life of misery with Miss Wrong. Be wise.

chase5764

Sure opposites attract - you make the money and she spends it. I think you need to have a heart to heart talk with her and say exactly what you told us. She'll either understand or blow up. If she blows up - you've got your answer. Good luck.

Angela H

Have you talked to her about it? If it's something that can't be worked out, what you find mildly aggravating now might make you miserable in 5 years. Also, if you talk to her about it, and she freaks out, she isn't going to change, and sadly, it might be time to move on.

ben d

Duh! um you must like the fact she uses you! So if you are fine being her toy then sign up other wise wait a few years then ask her then ...If you still feel that way after some time of being together.

mizzhollywood26

That's a decision you should make, since you have to live with her.

lukesuperior

Hey I've been married for 3yrs and I'm 22...after a certain time in everyones adult life they will never really change unless (God Forbid) something really awful happens to them. Like she goes into major debt and you guys get kicked out of your house/apartment. Point blank it sounds like you already had the answer before you even asked the question. You called her spoiled which isn't a very endearing term for a loved one. So instead of asking us here at Yahoo should you marry her...how about asking yourself not can I stand to live with her, but can I stand to live without her? If the answer is no then well yeah marry her, but if it's yes then break up with her and find someone else to be happy with.

clio

You haven't painted a very appealing picture of her. One has to wonder, "what's to love about this selfish and greedy little girl?" Of course you should marry her if you want to spend the rest of your life with her, but once you've made the committment, don't expect her to change or get angry with her for being who and what she is. Never forget that you chose her with your eyes wide open. I don't know how old you are, but you need to understand that love becomes a lot less patient, forgiving and indulgent as we grow older and especially once kids are in the picture. When you no longer love her as you do now, will you still be able to accept her and allow her to freedom to be herself?

Paula D

You know, these aren't little things that are going to go away. These are serious issues if you take the "cuteness" out of them. It will be a 20/80 relationship. No one can have a loving relationship when there is animosity building. If you are questioning them now while you are still in the "fantasy stage" of the relationship you, my friend, are in for a real awakening when all the lovey, gooey stuff wears down. You will end up looking at her as a self absorbed, spoiled little brat that uses people any way she can to get what she wants. NOT someone I would want to spend the rest of my life with!!!! It is very unattractive, especially as she ages. Think of the temper tantrums and fits if you don't measure up or are too tired to do what she wants you to do for her. Think of the whining, pouting and guilt trips she will show you because you didn't say she looked beautiful today.......I am afraid you are in for a world of hurt and wasted life. Maybe you can talk with her, but if she is still like this at 26......she is set in her ways and more than likely won't change....When I see girls acting like that....I see immaturity to the max! I don't associate with people that are so self centered. It is sickening.

Kelly

umm if you really feel annoyed about her and think of her as a spoiled prima donna, then by all means don't marry her. Sounds like a recipie for financial disaster to me. You are much better off finding a woman with the qualities you want that won't run through all the money in a few years time...and then think, no money and expensive divorce lawyers...

Dani Bosco

NO!!!!!!!!!!!

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