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Should I marry him or not?
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I am now 21 and he is 28.He is my very close relative.He is my Paternal aunt's son.My parents always gave me space for myself.I like him and love to be with him forever but the problem is I don't like his family.My late grand mother has given word to her daughter that she will marry me(Son's daughter) to her son.She has messed up with the family that after she passed away our family is split into two.I am first girl born in my family and I have two sister to leave a path to them. one more thing His father took money from my father for his sister's marriage and my father did not mentioned to repay the money on my mom's request.It was the time when they have no money but now they are capable enough that he went to US and Malaysia on company work.He is really caring but he is having some habits like drinking and smoking.He promises that he will try to leave them for me.And again his role model is my dad.Like my dad he is a workaholic.
I have 3 questions now
1.) We have 6 yrs age gap is it too large or is it OK?
2.) I just graduated and looking for career and he is a diploma and getting a distance degree? Will this bring any complications between us in future(like through relatives and friends)?
3.) He used to make fun of me always in our childhood days,it is very strange that I used to hate his guts when he is around me and now I miss him a lot.I love him and miss him.Problem here is my parents do not like him.My father has a soft corner for him but later took place some incidents because of which my father do not like him.My mother thinks that now-a-days such close relations are not getting married so my mother do not like him.What do you suggest for me as a friend?
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<3
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"I don't like his family."
Well, that doesn't make sense does it? his family is your family. You are his family.
So you must not like yourself? |
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Skinny Dippin'
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ummm i didnt read anything but the fisrt few lines so, but from that i know my answer.
he is your first cousin. that is incest. do not marry him. dear lord that is nasty. i dont care if you think you love him or not that is gross. he may as well be your brother |
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Rhonda
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I can't get passed your statement that he is your "paternal aunt's son". This would make that your cousin on your father's side and that's just ick. As far as marrying him, my suggestion would be no. |
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cat lady
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you shouldn't marry a close relative like this - you may end up with children with birth defects (disabilities). and as a general rule, if you're in any doubt over whether to get married, then you shouldn't get married. |
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Sue C
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First, IF he's a "blood relative" you should NOT marry him. IF you do, do NOT have any children! You would be asking for problems in your genes & the children WOULD end up suffering. No, the age gap would be no problem. IF you really do love him, I would think you wouldn't even have to ask if you should marry him. You just would because you KNEW you loved him & no one would talk me out of it! But, the blood relative would be your only problem. Again, if you marry him, NO children as that would not be fair to them. I wouldn't care who liked who in the family, if you love him that's your business & no one else's....the best to you...:) |
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Sgt. Suave
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You should focus less on the age gap and more on the fact that he's your cousin. |
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♫ Mad Luv ♫
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i suggest life friend.
this doesn't sounds like a guy you want to marry.
More so because your asking if you should.
When you find the one you should marry this question will not face AT ALL EVER!
I just got marred never did i ask myself that qeustion should i marry him or is he the one. nope.. I just said I do why. beause he is the one and i have no doubt in my mind. |
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pragmatism_rules
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First, what country are you in? Secondly, from what I can gather, this man is your first cousin (once removed or not) and if you are in the United States, the United Kingdom, or Canada, you may have trouble getting a wedding license. There are parts of the United States that do permit first cousins to get married but they are few and far between.
I strongly recommend that you do not marry him as your parents don't' like him and you don't like his family. Marrying into that would be a recipe for disaster. And as for what your late grandmother said, she is dead and even if she wasn't, what she said then isn't applicable today. She made her choice and now she should leave you to make her own. But I say do not marry this man or you will be sorry, very sorry.
Good luck and God bless! |
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Sierra dawn
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1 Age dont matter
2 Shouldnt make a difference at all
3 It doesnt matter what your family thinks |
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