Should I marry my boyfriend after only 4 months? I have a lot of mixed feelings.?

You need more than four months to decide whether you want to marry someone or not I could see if you knew him for years before,and were already friends,but if you just met him,then 4 months is too soon to get married.
You do not want to rush into something that you may later on regret. Take the time to get to know one another better,to build a trusting,and long lasting bond.
If you both like one another that much,then you can wait to get married.
Marriage is not something to be rushed into and should still be considered sacred. Take it slowly at first and if in a couple years or so you both still feel the same way you feel now about one another,then go for it! I hope that this advice helps.

let me get this straight, you planning on getting married, spend the rest of your life with this guy after 4 months of knowing him.

wtf is your rush?

are you going to be dying in the next 3 years or something?

mxxoxoxo

He's baiting you with the trust me speech. Maybe you need to ask yourself why he ask that question? You are long distance and maybe he's carrying on with someone else and wants to see if you suspect anything. 4 months is too early and being long distance you know nothing about this guy, You should wait over a year and save yourself the drama of a divorce.

tcc_00676

you got you answer!

bandaid_46

No. I think you know that. You don't really know him that well, clearly. Not even enough to build any kind of trust with each other. Take some time and see where it goes. Marriage is no shortcut.

Kal

What's going on here? This may be camoflage, maybe he did something and is trying to put it on you. Maybe he wants carte blanche to do whatever he wants and you to trust him. Do not marry this guy until you've known him for a very very long time, you need to know him much better than you do now before you can make a decision to marry. This is a red flag.

caaaad

Lets think this out. If you marry him then you will be with him the rest of your life. So why the hurry. You have committed to be with him forever. I think your feeling insecure and want the marriage to feel secure. Big mistake. Learn how to build an intimate relationship based on trust and not on fear. A fear based relationship that is needy is of little to no value to anyone. Learn to deal with fear first and a healthy relationship will follow

Curious

You are asking if you should marry him? If you have to ask the answer is no and on top of that you have trust issues? Trust is the foundation of any relationship.

Soon To be Daddy to twins

you and this guy want to marry after 4 months i me and my wife waited 11 years before i proposed and we just got married this year in march wtf is your rush anyways?

Starlite

Okay 4 months is far too early to get married. I made the mistake of marrying someone too fast (we were friends first ..somehow I thought that made it okay...IT DIDN'T!) You don't know someone well enough in 4 months to make a life long commitment.

Jim P

After only 4 months I would say NOOOO!!!! Give it a year or two before you jump into a perminant life long commitment. I rushed into my last marriage and it all fell apart. The thing is that, in most instances, someone doesn't really know the person that they are dating after only 4 mo. It can take years to fully get to know everything about a person. I can honestly say that if you rush it, then you most likely will not be a success story. Go ahead and prove me wrong I dare ya. I tried to prove all the skeptics wrong once, and was sure that me and my FORMER wife could do it. I sure was wrong. She and I thought that we were pretty smart, but we couldn't fool reality because reality makes it's own rules.

duck

You should not marry him. You both need to know each other completely. If he has to ask you that then you need to look at the relationship in depth.

Jimbo

You don't even know him yet and he doesn't know you either after 4 mths.

whrkwm

if you feel that you love him why wait after all life is too short and you never know what tomorrow brings and as long you know that he loves you then that's all that matters

Tangelina

I don't think so. 4 months is not long enough to REALLY know someone. Give it time. Why are you in such a hurry? Being in a long-distance relationship can be a blessing because it helps you to focus on the friendship element of your relationship. Plus, trust and communication are so important in a long-distance relationship.

Also, since you don't get to see each other as often as you'd like because of the distance, being apart helps you to truly value the time you have together.

You should just relax and give it time. If you both are meant to be married, then it will happen...IN TIME. Don't rush it. Spending the rest of your life with someone is the BIGGEST commitment you will ever make. You need to really think it through. It should feel right. And obviously it doesn't.

Good luck!

Dr tracy is here to help!!

I have been with my bf for over 13 years now & we still are not married. I choose to do it this way. Do not marry him. Trust me u wont be ready!

Shawn R

It's hard enough to make a relationship work these days. You don't need to make it harder right off the bat. I would wait until the time is right if I were you. Long distance relationships are very hard and will take their course one way or the other. Marriage will not make anything better in this situation in my opinion.

tweety

NO sorry wrong move. You don't know this man.....It may feel right but don't do it..If he really loves you and wants to marry you then he can wait for atleast a year or two..

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