Should I marry this girl that i have seen in person for only 15 days..help me decide?

ok to make long story short guys..i really need each and everyone of your honesty.

ok, I met this girl(my current gf) about 3 years ago(nov.2005 actually). we met on the internet and since I met her online we have been chatting on yahoo messenger or on cell phone when ever we can(we talk about everything that comes to mine). on may of 2008, I decided top go visit her in her home country...I was there for a month(since i have relatives there and must visit them too) but I only spent tim w/her for 15 straight days, we did everything 2gether during those time, things like movies, parties, resteraunts, and other personal stuffs that we talked about on cell/online.

We talked about marriage even before i met her in person. Soooo, is seeing her for 15 days really enough? or does 3 years of knowing her from chatting online and talk on cell part of the knowing her as well? i mean we even share webcam so we see each other even though its not in person.
some of my friends say the online chat/cell phone crap doesnt count as really knowing her.
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thans everyone for the nice advices. I will sleep over it and who knows maybe I'll spend 5-8 months w/her to see what she has to offer..yes indeed it is me that makes the final decisions.

Alpha

I usually advice against internet relations,only encourage using it as a means of 1st step to meeting a woman.

However, your relationship is Long,with Cell phone and Cam, voice and video are a major thing here,and I would say if you got along well the 15 days you were together,then you got something real here.

You're the only one who can decide, trust your guts and go for what you believe in.

It counts, but not as much and the younger you are the less it counts.

There's no substitute for time spend in person with someone you're interested in. You see their initial reactions, mood swings, etc.---the little habits and patterns that you'd live with on a day to day basis that make that person who he/she really is.

KRIS

act in haste, repent at Leisure...

take your time, is there some kind of rush?

observer

Julie <3

I would say no people can be different on the internet and 15 days isnt really enough to see their true colors, she may be a nice girl but you never know if she's "the one" right?, try spending more time with her, even though she lives in a different country if you feel like it's worth it give it a try.

redhead27

you never REALLY know someone until you have lived with them.... thats my advice. I'd say marriage at this point is a bit of a rush, how well do you really know this person. Sounds to me as if you are more intrigued with the idea of marriage, rather than the person you want to actually marry.

why don't you move in together first?

this is not a good idea at all.

Lolli

NOOOO, you may love her personality but living with someone is TOTALLY different. She may be the nastiest untidy person you've ever met, not flushing, leaving out food, ect. i mean, cleaning is not everything but there is more to spending your life with someone than loving them. You have to be able to get along too. that means for better or worse when there's no closing the text box or hanging up the phone. You should get to know her ebetter. Waiting a few months or so will be nothing if you plan on spending the rest of your life with her.

Natashia

u should probably spend more time with her get to kno her in person. it's good that u talk about everything but let her come visit where u live so she could meet ur friends and other family. u want to make sure and get there approval

Jess

Yeah I would say this is not a good idea! I mean my parents met online. My dad lived in Oklahoma..my mom in North Dakota...so i think this is a shorter distance than what your talking about. They also seen each other alot more often.......I think you need to have her visit you for a while and you visit her more as well before you consider marriage...that is a huge step!

Clementine

no, not enough

manda TTC baby #1<3

i would sujest moving in with one another, and if you still feel the same way after a few months then ask her to marry you. But deffinatley go with your heart, it usually knows best. I would say that if you ahve been chating for 3 yrs you know her pretty well. but my one concern is how many other guys has she been talking to for those 3 yrs, you never really know. That is why i say move in with her, that either makes or brakes it. Shows you how well you guys live with one another. best of luck to you, hope it all works out in the wash

Sue C

I would love to be able to say yes to you, BUT I'm going to be honest in my opinion. You do know her to an "extent", but you do NOT know her that well. Of course you're going to get along just FINE for only 15 days of just meeting one another. Yes, you have spoken & seen one another via different ways & devices, BUT you did NOT have a very long ONE ON ONE time spent w/her. I truly would NOT base that short a length of time to do anything "permanent" from it. How true are the words, "you don't really know someone until you've lived w/them" mean. They DO MEAN A LOT! Everything is all "roses" so to speak, BUT you can be sure there also are some thorns among those roses. Of course we all know every relationship is NOT perfect by any means. But I just feel that 15 days of being w/someone doesn't honestly give enuf time for a person to truly know them. It just all depends on how you feel of course as you're the only one who has to make the final choice. Best to you...:)

Lloyd

no,15 days isn't enough time,u should date for at least 1 to 2 yrs and maybe live together. Just remember u want to marry someone that u will spend the rest of ur life with so make sure with a lot of dating and spending time together before u make that big decision. Also make sure u get to know her parents because they will also become part of ur family.

rusty_is_hot

It does count in one way but whats the hurry to be married?
I would live with her for a while first and see how you go

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