Should I snub my husband?

nekochi666

Why don't you make yourself clever and learn how to do the existing website yourself. Don't tell him, just learn and use what is already there. Success is the best revenge.
YOu will also feel better when you find out what you are capable of and you don't have to rely on him.
Go girl, do it.

Eagle1

Do it

Mizer

Do it yourself. It doesn't sound like he's planning to get off his butt and do it himself. To hell with the consequences.

B0uncingMoonman@aol.com

Yeh, go it alone. You should have done this in the first place.

You should always start marriage as you wish to go on (too late now for most of us I know). But in hindsight, that is the secret.

mosaic

He will probably be happy that he doesn't have to do it. Definitely handle it yourself if you think you can. If not then hire somebody.

Jimmy

Well you should do it yourself becuase it sounds like he just keeps putting it to the side and if you have your own business you need it done asap and not wait around. he might see it has a waste of money and get upset becasue of it but he needs to understand that you are running a business and need it up asap and if he wont do it you will becasue it has to be done.

kitkat

Of course you should, he has no intentions to do it.

Mean Carleen

Its 2009 and if he can't or won't do it, you have to do something so I say go for it.

free_angel

Take control of the situation yourself. You asked your husband to do it and he fell down on the job. If he gripes and complains about it, remind him of that.

At this point, who gives a rat's a$$ what he thinks? Do what you have to do to get this done.

Scott

Do it. He has had plenty of time to get it done, and hasn't done so. Therefore, he has no reason to get upset over you doing it yourself.

Joe

Talk to him honestly and sternly; don't seek childish revenge. It's very serious and you can do it and change things if you're determined and if he knows you're serious.

Kevin

Do it yourself. Its been 3 years, he is obviously not going to do it for you.

Tee

Id give him a deadline, theres nothing wrong with that. Say 'you know its been a few years and if its not done by 'so and so date' Im either going to pay someone to finish it or make my own.' Obviously try to make it as nice as possible. Then let him choose, quite procrastinating or have you spend more money...

Robin

I'd do it. If he asks why, tell him your reasoning. If he has any respect for what your trying todo, he won't get upset.

motorcycleguy

it has to be done..

NONAME

just hire someone else to do it for you. obviously he doesn't believe in you or your little "business" or he would have finished it already. he is probably cheating on you with a coworker.

quixoticalthoughts

My mother, the most tech illiterate person I know, was able to design a website... it honestly surprised me. I say go for it, your husband sounds lazy on the idea... so I say just get it done.

Ms. GTO

If he refuses to do it, I guess you'll have to do it yourself. And when he complains about you wasting money on the domain name/website, refer him back to when he sat on his duff and REFUSED to do what he'd already agreed to do!

Brandy

I'm sorry to say it, but sometimes men are threatened when their wives have independence such as running an online business. His way of "holding you back" could be to never finish your website knowing full well that you can't do it yourself. The thing is though, you want your business to run well as well as your marriage. So try this. Sit him down tonight and say something along the lines of you love him and understand that he's busy, etc. But that you MUST get your website completed ASAP and if he can't commit to having it completed by (give a date) then you are going to have no choice but to do it yourself and/or hire a consultant. You realize it will be a financial pull but you have to spend money to make money. DON'T come at him like an ultimatum, take the blame off of him and say "I know you've been trying, etc..." even though he hasn't. This will guilt him into doing it or at least let him know you are serious about your endeavor. Again, the thing is to keep your business AND your marriage. Good luck.

cutsup

do it your self and get help doing it if you need to. what's his problem anyway?

Jennifer

I think you should first cancel the other domain contract if possible.

I think you should do it yourself. You're not offending him, you're just doing something for yourself. And though it is a small rebellion, it is not a bad thing. He may huff and puff at first but I think he'll learn from it and realize that he will have to improve on this area.

When you talk about it to him though, do not talk sarcastically or mad. Be sincere, look him, in the eyes and let him know that you really want to make it happen and it's just something you need to do for yourself.

Also, working on it through a PC might be better because although MAC has awesome designs, etc., many of them do not translate onto other people's computers that well. So, you have to try to keep it simple and not too fancy cause it may not translate well to other comps.

Freako S

Do it... sorta. Just make the html files so that you have a webpage that works on a local machine. All he'd need is to drag and drop the files into the domain and you're good to go. But explain that you want it up there ASAP or else you will dish out the extra cash for a new domain and host. Hopefully his cheap side will take over and help you out since a simple host and domain will run about $80/year! What's the worst thing that'll happen, his fragile ego will be hurt? As a web designer, keeping a project for a VIP client open for more than 2-3 years is worse than heresy - I'm ashamed of my fellow designer for this.

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