Should I stay or go? My husband say he may have a baby. He want a DNA test. Dont wanna talk bout it anymore?

strawberry

Even if the baby is not his he is all ways a cheater! I would leave him if I where you. You can all ways give him a second chance, but you will only suffer.

BabeHeart

To stay or go is up to you. If you stay I highly suggest you get yourself tested and insist he do so. If he was screwing around with a chick who had multiple partners, no telling what he might have brought home to you.

Can you forgive him? Can you learn to trust him again? If so, do what works for you...if not, you're wasting your time with him.

Travis

If he cheated on you, how can you ever trust him again? I wouldn't even bother worrying about the DNA test, that is his problem. You should run and never look back. Go find someone who loves you and only you.

mrs_G

Baby or no baby, I'd never stay with a cheater. Cheaters don't love you, so why stay?

Hello2u

RUN!

LeeH

mandiliz06

This is a hard situation. If you love your husband, and really believe that he wont do it again, maybe let him have another chance. If the baby is his, remember, it's not the baby's fault. All you can do is welcome it with open arms. Feel free to email me, mandiliz06@yahoo.com

Rachael

If it is his then he is going to leave you and be with her most likely. I would wait it out and do a at home dna test which you can get at cvs i think. You will know the answer in about a week. I really can't see this as happily ever after though. I hope he isn't the father. Do you two have any kids yet?

cindy

Stay if you want to continue feeling the hurt and distrust.
Also if you want to continue to make him pay for what he has done to you and your marriage.

Leave, if you want to honestly get on with your life and realize that staying would only continue the hurt and allow you a lot of revenge by humiliating him and continuign the distrust and hurt feeelings.

Not wanting to talk about it, means that he knows he is wrong, but is just sick and tired of hearing about it from you. You want to continually berate him for what he has done and he wants to put it behind him. Very difficult with a child involved, but if you wont let go of it either, no child was needed, you would keep his indiscretion alive and well throughout the rest of your relationship

sarah

If you stay with him your nuts. He will do it again. You have to show this man that you are worth more than that. That you will not just let this go. Make him suffer like you are suffering right now.

hannermark

Well you know that he's cheated.

So the question is really yours to ask yourself.

Can you forgive him? Do you feel like forgiving him? Will his cheating put a burden on your relationship for the rest of your life?

Some people can forgive, but for this type of violation in trust, it takes a lot. You have to determine if you'd be stronger with him, or stronger without him.

carol

This not how a husband treats his marriage and shows his wife how much he loves her.
If the child belongs to him he will be responsible for child support and a life time connection to the mother.
Loving someone does not mean that you can remain with them and put your life through so much stress.
The damage has been done and no matter what he can never fix your broken heart.
The only way you can deal with this is by walking away so that you can heal and start your life over in time with someone that respects you..
It may be easier for your husband not to talk about it because at this time he does not want to deal with your emotions over it.
This is not fair to you that he wants to shove something this big under the rug when it changes everything that you ever had with him..
Life does not work that way and he needs to be accountable for his actions baby or no baby because he has affected your life.
He has harmed your intimacy with him and he carelessly took advantage of your emotions and feelings of safety and security.
He could have endangered your life by an incurable std and that is just selfishly wrong to a woman you intended on loving for a lifetime.

shal1ma

my father said same thing to my mum several years ago!
Now my mum regrets her whole life and even regret for conceiving us with a cheater.

RUN RUN !! DONT LOOK BACK!!!!! you will be ruined and if you have kids they will suffer as well!

golfnut5565

First, learn to talk in normal english......and get an education.....then get out.

iiidontknowdoyou

How does he think he's going to "fix" the problem? If it's his, he has a daughter to support and raise! Do you plan on being step mom to this kid and have YOUR family's money go toward supporting his "mistake"? You have a ton of thinking to do. Nobody's doubting your love for him, but could he love you and still have done this to you? It's HIS love for you that's in question. Do you want to stay with a man that didn't have enough love or respect for you that he would cheat and not even make sure a child didn't come from it? You can love someone else that may love you back as much as you love them and won't cheat on you! Will you ever be able to TRUST him when he walks out the door?

Yellow Rose

Your marriage is broken. What is broken can not be fixed. He has taken your trust and thrown it in the trash. A baby is a lifetime commitment and that means he will still see her along with the baby. The wound of cheating will be re opened over and over again. If you do decide to stay you are willingly saying its okay to cheat and he will be back at again with someone else. Its best to leave. Let him sort out the mess he made.

Curious

The worst possible thing to do is bottle up the feelings! Don't let him tell you that HE don't want to talk about it, it was his mistake and he should face the music! You shouldn't let me or anyone else decide if you should leave him, that is your choice. Get a DNA test and decide from there what you want to do.

Alex R

Get rid of him ASAP

kris.blore@yahoo.com

It's really hurting. I feel, he is honest, may be thats the reason, he couldn;t smartly hide it. After all its just a condom that hides the sin from every good relationships. What a shameful invention of mankind..
The girl who got a baby is also in a risky situation. Just ignore whomever says anything against you 3 who are in this dilemma. Solve it within yourselves. There is nothing so called dignity for this society and why the hell you should be concerned of what others are thinking about you? If you agree with the institution of marriage, you must support your spouse in any situation. Don;t leave him.

Mia

Give it time. Time is always the best remedy! I think it is an extremely hard situation and none of us here can feel what you are. In my life I would forgive cheating once but am not sure if I could live with him later on. Doesn't he make you feel different now that you know?
I think he needs support and I would give it to him, we are human we make mistakes but we also need support so I would go ahead and support him but if it does not feel right then leave him because then you will know you have done all you could and it still have not gotten better. Do it for yourself.

Greyhound Mama

I can understand your hurt in all of this.

Give some time for the DNA testing to be done. If the child is his, this woman and her baby will be part of your lives for a long time. That, in my opinion, is a lot bigger issue to deal with than him just cheating (although neither situation is a good one).

He asked you not to leave because he realizes how badly he's messed up. You have to decide if you are going to go forward with someone who would treat you like this. No one here can tell you what to decide.

Miss Zaakhirah

he's man enough about his mistake, I know it hurts, but, I think you should stick around, he needs you, and loves you.

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