Should I stay or should I go?

Special K

How can you say you love someone and not want to be around them. We women spend a great part of our lives trying to please our men, only to find out that they don't enjoy our company any longer, what kind of crap is that?

janitza421

After 27 years you don't enjoy her company? WOW, that's tough. Think of it this way, after 27 years no one really enjoys each others company because they know each other so well, they become predictable. I'm pretty sure she feels the same way about you, but giving the history you two have, she doesn't walk away. And If I were you, I wouldn't walk away either. Good Luck

MT Hammer

Considering that your sons are grown, if you are not happy, I would say leave. However, I think you owe your wife to share with her how you are feeling and communicate to her your unhappiness. If you don't tell her, she can't change. Perhaps, you could have her read the "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura. She is a little wacky, but offers some great tips in her book.

Warlord

Try a seperation for a while, perhaps you are just taking each other for granted and making no effort. If you dont miss her, it is probably her that you dont enjoy not just her company. Is it love or are you just too familiar?

Mike H

When I don't like someone's company, I leave. Then again I'm not married. Your kids are old enough, if her company is really bad I'd consider leaving. But look at all the alternatives because divorce can be expensive for a guy. My parents have been divorced for many years, and they are still friends. Divorces aren't always ugly.

scarlet

remember the good times you both had together like your wedding day the birth of your children you both have history together don't throw it all away like you said she loves you and most of all you love her.

fcuk974

that's a shame, can you both not find a hobby which you both enjoy and talk about? if you love her then surely its worth trying to do something, does she enjoy your company? why not meet up with other couples go out for meals etc...

beasties70

Sounds like you're in a rut.

You gotta get out together to new surroundings, new experiences, so you can have NEW conversations with eachother.

At least give it a try first before just leaving.

Ye19

If you love her than stay and go out with friends to be in good company.

Everyone deserves to be happy in life! It sounds to as if you have performed your fatherly duties and that is to be admired. Your responsibility to your family has been fulfilled and maybe it is time to move on. Think of this though you could end up all alone and your kids may turn on you for leaving their poor innocent mother. I would just make sure if I decided to leave that I could deal with the guilt! Good Luck!!!!!

Lunder B

You should stay ...

Ryder

dump her and find a drinking buddy

Lovebug123

You don't enjoy her company???? Married 27 years, and this is the best you can come up with for an excuse for a divorce? Yeah, tell your boys, I love your Mom, but I left her because she bored me to death.

LSD

How on earth do you love somebody but not like them? Think about the reasons why you married her, and what it was that you like and loved about her. Also, if you feel like this marriage is worth saving, and your wife feels the same way, just go to counseling.

lisa_08

i think you should let know how you feel so that you don't lead her on.

MR R SOLE

men can be so unappreciative.

open_phunguy

After 27 years, just what do you expect?

khiryjackson2

u should leave man leave

jude

atleast after 27 years u owe it to her to go to therapy, and try to make the marriage work. atleast be willing to put some work into it and try to save it.she must have done something right all these years. maybe it has something to do with how u feel about yourself.

T Time

Only you can weigh your happiness.

Owen E

It appears your kids are all grown up so take the initiative and tell your wife the truth and that you want a divorce due to the lack of enjoyment when around her. You are old enough to know that being happy is important so it's time for you to leave and find that happiness.

Morena

in oTher word, you're cheating....and this woman is more exiting 'coz she's new... *whatever man*

in ur face

just ake a little while apart that way u can appreciate her. being together that long can cause u not to be passionate abt that person.
its easy to run away and harder to make things work but being together for 27 yrs i am sure u know that. remember the first time u met her. that passion has become friendship and although friendship is important in a marriage it shouldnt be the marriage!
best of luck.

jay b

after 27 years,you at least should look at trying. try doing things together that you both enjoy, try to remember what you both enjoyed before kids and work became an issue.remember a midlife crisis doesnt last a life time but a wife does, with a bit of effort. try talking to her about how your felling. you might just find that she feels the same.

Big D

I would be interested in why you do not enjoy her company? If it's because you have nothing to talk about try taking up a hobby together. At the least let her know how you feel and that you want to work on it together and give it a chance. It would be a shame to throw it away after 27 years.

noble

separation is not the answer for a marriage of 27yrs. The problem is that you both need to go back to the first love and ask 'why are we not compatible again'? Open up to each other what you are not enjoying in her and Vi's versa. This will open a new chapter than becoming a single or falling into worse situation

Cookie

Its a shame after all those years. Have you spoken to her? Why dont you enjoy her company?

Why not get a common interest and do it together. Organise big family picnic once every couple of months and re-ignite your family values.

reree41

Sometimes we get to relax with the one we are with that we feel we don't need to show them that we still love them.27 years is a life time some people don't live that long.you have allowed the glem that you once had in your eyes for your wife to go out.And you probley show it we you are in her presents...stop it ...you are hurting her.look back on the times when you looked at her and she made your heart beat like crazy...when you first felt that she was what was missing in your life to compleat you.And now that you have her you no longer enjoy her company anymore.Why.... I asure you the answer lies in you and that you are the problem and not her.If she was good enough then ..she is still good enough now.Time has a way of changing us from the yesterday person to the furture person that we are meant to be.Of course she is not that same girl you married 27yrs ago and neither are you the same.Time brings about change and change is good.she no longer think and act as she did 27yrs ago because she is more educated to life.Maybe you should try putting more focus on the possitive things about her and not rag so much on the negetive things of her.Build her up instead of tearing her down...I'm sure she has changed in many ways that make her not feel so good about herself anymore and that is when you should step and remind her how beautiful she is and how much she means to you .Don't thow her away as trash because someone will pick her up dust her off and appreicate the tresure that she is.anytime a woman is in a relationship and when she realize that her mate no longer seems to be intres in her she begins to shut down because her self esteem has been battled.Talk with her and embrace her make her feel that you love her and and how she compleates you.once she begins to feel your love again she will raise up and and you will see a whole different woman that you can appriciate.Many blessings!!!

Sunshine

You two have been together for a long time. Sometimes people fall out of love, or grow apart. If you can't rekindle the flame, or are not getting along, or you can't stand to be around her, then it's time that you leave. Twenty-seven years is a very long time. Don't stay in a relationship and you are not happy. That is not a life and is very unhealthy. I am telling you from experience, don't stay in any relationship that you're unhappy in. Life is short, so make it as sweet as possible. Both of your sons are adults, so you have no dependents. Live......

carol_zee

It sounds to me like the two of you need to get out of a rut. Maybe if you tried something new together you would rediscover those feelings that have kept you together all of these years. My parents went through a few tough times after we were all grown. They took dancing lessons together and put one night a week aside for going out. It worked wonders. At the very least try counseling. Believe me when I say divorce comes at a very high cost. Adult children suffer just as profoundly as younger people do when their parents divorce.

whatsinaname58

Either leave or find new interest together

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