Should I stop the wedding?

souljagirpart2

Girl I would tell him it could be the best! I would however, advise you that if things don't work out you should be prepared to deal with it if there is some arkward tension between you or he sever ties with you you shouldn't be too disappointed!

rkrell

Keep quiet...if your best friend felt the same way towards you he wouldn't be getting married. Don't ruin this special time in his life just to satisfy your own needs.

Mean Carleen

Find your own man!

BoomChikkaBoom

You have no power to "stop the wedding". It's HIS wedding, not yours.

Why didn't you tell your friend how you felt sooner?

In any case, tell him how you feel before it is too late in case he feels the same way.

You really don't have a choice about the "ruined friendship".

It's one of those all or nothing situations. You either tell him and risk everything or keep your mouth shut and regret it for the rest of your life.

bjsmama

Wow, you are very selfish. Do not stop the wedding. If he loved you the way you "think" you love him, then you wouldn't even have to make this choice. Let him be happy and stop thinking of yourself.

awommack

leave wedding alone

Lynn

You need to watch my best friends wedding...don't dare say anything, he's happy and in love and sadly, you're just going to have to deal with it..be happy for him!

I'm Gonna Tell You

Oh you're too late. You need to back off of this. You didn't know your best friend was getting married? What kind of best friend are you...obviously not as good as you imagine. You don't want him, you want to establish power over him. Best way to do that is remain his best friend...or at least whatever it was you think you are with him.

penwater1

If he felt the same for you he would have chosen you. While he may want to bang you after a night of heavy drinking, if he wanted to marry you, you would have the ring on your finger, not his Fiance. Stay out of it, go watch My Best Friends Wedding, and learn something.

ExplainThisClarissa

well it looks like you dont even care about the wife that he asked to marry, for all you know he doesnt want you like that, otherwise would he be marrying someone else? it sounds like youre jealous, and maybe you should forget about yourself and go to the wedding and be happy for them.

modelchick

tell him hiw you feel

NNY

well a fewthings will happen if you tell him, you make an enemy (his current fiance) or if he doesnt like you that way, you have an akward freindship, or both

Laissez_Faire

Don't ruin his happy day. If you do tell him it will be disasterous for everyone involved. Looks like you may have been too late so just wait and see.

brenda r

well tell him how you feel and if he says hest

yulnores

No,, you have no reason at all to stop the wedding because, in the first place you did not have any mutual relationship at all.However, if you do really want him that bad..tell him so before the wedding.. If he loves you, he will be the one to do the otherwise. If not... accept the fact that you are not for each other.
And then and there you cannot and should not stop the wedding..
Good luck and GOD Bless.

Red

Don't interfere. it is his life to do with as he pleases. If he is getting married then he must love this woman. Your being selfish in even thinking about doing such a thing. Keep him as a friend, try and stop the wedding and lose his respect and friendship with you.

nat_00420

tell him!! AWWWW!! thats too cute, watch the movie my best friends wedding and you'll see that you really should say something!! You dont want to wake up and realize its too late!

notyochic

STOP THE WEDDING BEFORE YOU RUIN TWO LIVES YOU SELFISH *****!!!!

patrick b

That is not right, dont even do that to that girl. You should have said something along time ago and you blew it. Back off and let them be happy

Curiousmom

Tell him how you feel, but let him know that's it's ok if he doesn't feel the same way...that way you can still be friends. Just tell him you had to let him know, before he got married.

Billy

DO NOT STOP THE WEDDING. DO NOT TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. If you do, it will be out of selfishness. He loves another women enough to marry her. Be happy for him and move on. Also, it's probably not a good idea to remain close friends with him. It can only end badly, for you, or the other women. Life is not a romantic comedy and if you tell him how you feel odds are that it will only complicate you life and his. And it will not stop the wedding. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but I'm being honest. Please, move on. Easier said than done, trust me I know. But try, huh?

Fred G. Sanford

Hmmm...I would wait because the marriage my not last and then you can tell him.

nkingdom2000

Personally I would tell them.
It may make for a really awkward situation but you should have said something a long time ago.
I want you to really reflect on yourself though and ask why now? Are you being selfish?
Do you really want to be his wife forever or are you afraid of losing him altogether?
Only you can answer the questions of you motive.

peculiarpup

Well, your timing is really off - you could have mentioned your feelings at any point before this.

Let's face it, there's a reason you haven't dealt with this before now. How long have you known you felt this way? If a long time, ask yourself why you never did anything about it. If a short time, you might be under an infatuation because you're seeing your friend in a whole new light, as someone's husband.

Not yours, though. Presumably, he loved this other woman enough to propose and plan a wedding, and a future with her. No one forced him to do that.

If you really love your friend, you won't throw this on him now. If you were sure you were in love with him, and ready to spend your life with him as his wife, you'd be ready to tell him this and risk the friendship rather than be without him.

Is it possible that it's just that seeing him this way, in a relationship, about to settle down, makes you look at him in a new way? Fear the change in your friendship? Is it possible it isn't him you want, but someone with some of his traits?

You need to answer all of those questions before you even think about saying anything to him. If, after serious thought, you're convinced that he is The One Forever and you are also the best thing for him, and you'd rather lose his friendship than not tell him how you feel, then your course will be clear, but don't charge in and throw what should be a happy time for your friend into chaos unless you're absolutely certain.

dukalink6000

Keep it to yourself

Ahmad

Do not tell him.He is going to complete his marriage,and you ,ll find a better one.

farien3

Tell him. If you don't, you'll always wonder what might have happened.

clouds

LOVE COMES ONLY ONCE AND ONCE IS ENOUGH FOR A LIFE TIME
GO OVER TO UR FRND AND ASK HIM FRANKLY IF HES REALLY INTERESTED IN THE MARRIAGE, ALSO ASK HIM IF SOMEONE CAME UP TO HIM AND SAID THT SHE LOVED HIM AND WANTED TO MARRY HIM WHT WOULD HE DO IF SAYS YES HE WOULD MARRY HER
GO DOWN ON YOUR KNEES AND TELL HIM''''''' I LOVE YOU ''' IF HE SAYS THA HE WOULD MARRY THE OTHER GIRL TAKE IT AS A JOKE AND WALK AWAY

Sean J

If you're going to say anything ever, say it now. Don't wait. You don't want to ruin his marriage later. Tell him how you feel, and then if he feels the same, he can call of the wedding, and if he doesn't, then he can tell you and you can close the door.

island3girl

i'm sorry to say that he is committing himself to someone else and you need to accept that and move on. Don't disrupt his wedding or tell him because it will be the end of your friendship.

Keep busy, make new friends, volunteer your time to good causes and just try to be happy for him

good luck

Angel

From experience. Tell him and be direct, I've been in your position and was too scared to confront the situation in fear of loosing a friend. Guess what when he gets married he most likely will eventually stop talkling to you, even if he promised you'll always be friend. You will loose a friend anyways and never know what could have happened.

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