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For the sake of the kids??
Do you think your kids want to see you beaten?
Do you think your kids want to see you disrespected?
Do you think your kids want to see you unhappy?
Do you think your kids are going to be happy living like this?
How are your kids going to treat people in their future with this example?
What is going to happen next?
Is he going to go after you kids?
Maybe he'll just kill the one that isn't his?
What has to happen before it's enough?
GET OUT! NOW! HURRY! DON'T WAIT!
For the sake of you and your kids, RUN!
Get a restaining order. Stay in a homeless shelter.
Stay with freinds.
Stay with family.
Do what ever you have to do to get you and your kids away from him!
Give your kids hugs for me!
God bless you and your kids and good luck! |
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theadram
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Do NOT take him back. As the child of an abusive father who cheated on my mother, taking him back will do nothing good for your children. If you care about your children AT ALL, you'll keep from taking him back. Think about how their thinking will be if they see you allowing someone like that back into your lives. |
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SHAWTY GET LIKE ME
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get out of there NOW!! i had a man kinda like that, he accused you of cheating because hes cheating and theyll blame you for cheating to make them feel better about their actions ..... hes not going to stop, and you or your kids might get hurt.... GET out before its too late!! |
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nattirbee
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I hope this is a sick joke..
but just in case.
no. you shouldnt.
You should go to the police.
You should stay as far away from that man as possible.
How would having him around help you or your kids in any way,,,?
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banana6464
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Please tell me this question is not serious!
You say that he is a beater and a cheater. Just what fabulous values and morals are your children going to learn from him? What wonderful life experiences of violence and disrepect will your kids miss out on if you leave him?
You know what to do. It's not going to be easy but you know it's the right thing - you MUST leave him. |
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noteworthy5
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get a restraining order on him. File for a divorce.Move if you can to get away from his controlling chaos behavior.Do you want your children to live in fear? Do you think at staying together will be emotional damaging to you and the children? Take care of the most important people in your life your kids and you. |
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Lucifer J Satan
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The fact that you even have to ask this question astounds me.
The answer is obviously NO.
Get a restraining order immediately. |
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vanessa c
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what do you think your children are learning from this,,,if you have girls they may grow up thinking that they deserve this,,,if you have boys, they may think this is how you treat women...protect the women they will be with...be the strong role model that they deserve. change your life starting now,,,you can! good luck |
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Happy Girl
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Ummmm ... why would you want to take him back? Life is so short. Why waste time on this one idiot?
Go and start over! It can be fun ... you'll look back and ask yourself what you were thinking :) |
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deadrose1016
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you probably don't deserve that and you can always get a restraining order. Go ahead and file for divorce because it is probably better for your kids not to be influenced by your husband. |
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Bryan M
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NO!!!!! If he is beating you or the kids, stay away from him. I'm not one to say to anyone they should seek divorce, but this is the ONLY situation that I will say that I think it's ok. |
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bakfanlin
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He is not doing you or your kids any good. Don't stay there for them. He's not worth your life, or theirs.
Get out. Go to a women's shelter if there is nowhere else to go. But get out. |
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specretj03
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get him away as fast at you can. have you seen about chris benoit. that is what happens sadly when you put your children in situations that are unhealthy. i will be praying for you. please keep him away from you and your kids. specially the one that is not his. |
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Jenny June
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I think you should file for divorce and while you are there file for a restraining order... good luck. |
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Happy Camper
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No. The children must be kept safe. The children must have a safe home to live in. The children depend on you for these needs and you know you need help to protect the children.
Talk to the police and talk to a social worker in your area. Accept the help that is available to keep your children safe from him. Excuses are lies you tell to yourself for which your chidren will have to bear the cost. He has nothing that you need. |
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kri-shell
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you should get out now!!!!!!!! move far away if possible if not at least get a restraining order. |
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Countessa
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Do you want to be a "Stand by your man wife" Tell him to hit the road Jack! enough is enough! Ask yourself are you doing any favour for keeping him? Do you think he an example to your kids? |
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Andrea C
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no way! is that the life you want???? is that the life you want your kids to think is right???? the best thing for everyone involved would be to get a divorce, if you take him back its like its saying its ok to do that and its not! I have divorced parents (similar situation to yours) and I was so happy when they split up as the house was peaceful and I got to know both of them individually (plus double present etc ha ha!) dont be scared, you know whats best for you, and for your kids. Your amazing and you deserve a fabulous life with someone that treats you like the goddess that you are xxx |
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dirtyoldman
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in one word-----------RUN. |
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donnakygirl
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get a restraining order, leave screw the house go some where anywhere but there. Your kids are in danger. Even if he doesnt hurt them, they see what he does to you, and sadly do you want your children to grow up thinking that its okay to abuse or be abused. You need to move on, find someone to love you and your kids, and let that man teach your children what love is supposed to LOOK like. |
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yasten69
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hell no move on he proved how much he loved you already NOT. as the kids get older they will understand why he doesnt live with them. he always has achoice to be in there lives if he wants too it shouldnt be becaused you are making it convient for him. girl that for the kids sake went out when the first woman started working. |
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Drakona
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get a restraining order against him and his ex...definitely wouldn't take him back because you would be putting you and your kids in danger |
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heartwhisperer2000
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Children who live with domestic violence are scarred for life. The boys believe that it is acceptable to beat women and do not know how to deal with anger effetively. The girls believe that it is acceptable to be beaten. They live in fear every single day. They have nightmares for years after. There is nothing worse than hearing your mother being beaten, screaming and crying for help and not being able to help her.
It effects every aspect of relationships that they have in the furture. And don't think for a minute that they don't see and hear everything that goes on because they do.
The best thing to do is to move in with family or friends. You need someone around you at all times.
If you don't have family and friends to help then call the local YWCA or Domestic Crisis Center and they will help you.
Do it for the sake of your kids. |
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mmedina96
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no and you should be calling the police on him and his ex..............don't be a victim make smart decisions not decisions that you know you will regret |
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Tatem
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You should definately not take this loser back? Why are you even considering it?!! Do you want your kids growing up thinking its okay to treat someone the way he treats you? Get as far away as you can from this guy. |
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RockieRoad
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Get the divorce. The sooner you get your kids out of that type of environment, the better off they will be. The longer they stay in an abusive environment, the more apt they are of repeating the pattern when they become adults. He isn't going to change and you aren't going to change him. You are just asking for more abuse if you stay. |
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Vegas
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This is the easiest question to answer. RUN as fast as you can, pack up those kids and leave. You should probably try to find ways to regain your self-esteem, this shouldn't even be a question, you should know the answer. Kids will do much better if they are in a safe environment. Home is supposed to be the safest place for kids, but when home is the place that they are fearful and so is their mother, you could be damaging them more than if you raised them on your own. |
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crjesq
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Hell no. In fact, in some states, letting an abusive spouse back into the home is a reason to remove the kids and place them in DSS. Even if the kids aren't getting beaten, they are being emotional abused/neglected by all the conflict and unhealthy images, emotions and examples. What you should do is go to the police and ask for assistance in getting a restraining order against him. And then, don't let him get anywhere near you without calling the police. You need to keep him away from you and the children, and also to prove that you tried to protect the children from his influence. |
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23reasons
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I don't incourage it, but it seems like you have made up your mind already. Your gonna take him back! and if your not; what is so different now him beating on you or before? I don't mean to come down so hard, but your first line says, he goes into these jealous rages.......how many jealous rages, or beatings you gotta take before you realize your worth as a woman. I'm not gonna tell you to leave your husband, but I will tell you this... you got to decide what makes you truely happy in life. You fall in love with yourself. Cause if you were in love with yourself like you want a man to love you....your husband would beat you, and trust and believe it anint got nothing to do with your first son....that's the excuse and guilt don't go for it. This has everything to do with him only! |
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ginalorean
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forget about him. |
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♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥
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You are on the right track. You don't need this looser in your life.
For the sake of your children? What do you think they feel when they see their mother getting beaten up? Or do you want to teach them that this is the way women should be treated? |
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