Should I tell his wife I'm in love with him?

Miss Behavin

Oh for sure. You should give him an ultimatum - it's me or the laptop! Tell his wife! Doesn't she realise that all those fishing competitions had to be leading somewhere? Follow your passion and your heart! Declare your love!

By the way, for everyone else on here, my answer is ironic because most people seem to be missing the fact that the question appears to be written by a man about a man - joking that he is gay - but not written by an obviously gay man ("my mate")...it's obviously a wind up - it's such a shame no one else on here can see that! Mind you, it is very entertaining - (Gay marriage is not legal in Ireland..) well done and best of luck to all of you!

kja63

You need your head examined! You've given him money?!?!

Honey, you are in serious need of a reality check. You are nothing to him. He doesn't love you. He is married to someone else, and they have a child. You are just a roll in the hay when the spirit moves him.

Have a little self-respect and walk away now!

mousie

get rid of him - enjoy life xx

Big hands

get a life

ajboxx04

dump the dude, he is not gonna leave her for you, he is stringing you along, you deserve better

Arely

forget about him, all he wants is ur m o ney, and well it seems as he will never leave his wife...

Violet Pearl

he's just not that into you anymore. best not to wait.

jo_jo_baby2004

I don't think it will do you any good to tell his wife you are in love with him because he is not in love with you. If he wanted to leave and be with you he would have by now.

Der Koelner

No hope, gotta leave him, coz he won't leave her - he owes it to his children. You should care about the kids remaining in an intact family - really - even if the parents have their issues.

maryjane

Are you serious??? You really believe this guy loves you? Forget about him, he's NOT leaving HIS WIFE!!!!!

shonnie

Are you crazy!

Fabe

sorry to tell you sweetie, but he's never going to leave his wife and his kids..no matter what he tells you. you just have to face the reality of that..because if he was he would've left already,..and why would want to break up his happy home anyway? i think you should move on and find your own "mate"...good luck!

Chrissy

You are being used. Telling his wife isn't going to make him love you. This guy sounds like a real scum bag. The fact that he married someone else and has kids should tell you something. If he is still seeing you through all of this, what makes you think that he'll be faithful to you anyway?!?! He doesn't love you. Have enough self respect to walk away....Cut your losses!

mother_flower

Um, I'm really sorry but he's USING YOU!!! If he truly cared for your feelings he wouldn't have put you in this "waiting" situation not to mention taken ANY of your money. Derek is a user and a liar. Stop hitting your self in the head and wondering why you have a headache. Don't tell his wife you love him, instead, tell her what's been going on and see how fast he runs you out of his life and makes it all your fault...

fivelighters

go and get your own family and stop trying to have a blue peter family get a life women people like you need a good kick up the back side

superman in disguise

If you want him out of your life - then go ahead and tell his wife.

I am a little confused about the names Mark & Derek, though? You are Mark and he is Derek? And he is married?

OK, no matter. The moral is the same, just a different twist, I guess.

If you tell his wife, Derek will dump you and never want anything to do with you. He really is stringing you along, waiting for you to give up.

Hard as it may be - you should try to get your money back (Be sneaky and ask for a loan or something) and then split.

Do not waste another minute of your life on him.

But get your money back BEFORE you dump him. OK?

Good luck and you will get over him.

EllisFan

He's MARRIED, he has a wife and children, you are obviously not going to be his priority. Time to go bud.

Schizophrenic

Tell his wife cos she don't deserve a husband like him...
And that guy is obviously cheating you of everything you can offer to him. Stop believing in his sweet talks and move on with your life. he's a liar and a hypocrite. He can cheat on his wife and he'll jolly well cheat on you too. Get back to him but telling his wife. I pitied his wife and the kids...

twinsters

you are kidding yourself he don't want you his married. and if he did leave his wife ,could you ever trust him not to cheat on you, i font think so. and why would you give a married man your money. are you stupid.....

gypsy

Are you mad or what ?

sarcastro1976

I hope you're not serious.

If you are, it's time to get over yourself. He's such a loser, and if you ever get him he'll have someone else on the side anyway. Find someone who is available.

His wife has nothing to do with you, and confronting her is SOOOO Jerry Springer.

adulus

buy a pot and boil his bunny, you know you want to!

unknown

Fall in Love with Jesus Christ. If you seek Christ he will never betray you nor hurt you...and you could always know that He loves you....

This guy that you're waiting for is Married.You're wasting your time. There will be no need to tell his wife b/c the truth will come out sooner or later about the both of you.

Ayati

u are really obsessed with him, i tell you waht though, he is not going to leave his wife for you and its high time you wake up and take your money back

godly

IT IS QUITE OBVIOUS THAT HE LOVES HIS WIFE.HE DOES NOT WANT YOU AS A WIFE & WON'T DIVORCE HER BECAUSE OF YOU.DID HE FORCE THE INHERITANCE OFF YOU?YOU DID IT TO WIN HIS LOVE,HE TOOK IT & STUCK TO HIS REAL LOVE--HIS WIFE.WHY DO YOU WANT TO DESTROY HER FEELING?SHE HAS NEVER BEEN A PART OF YOUR TANGO WITH HER HUSBAND.YOU KNOW WHAT?JUST LEAVE THEM ALONE.

kristina807

Hmmm - I'll put it to u this way....a little harsh but realistic....why should he leave....he's got you hanging by a string and you've stuck around....so he can have it both ways...a married life with kids AND a bf on the side. If neither are going to leave....why change it?

Wishing for a "sharp shock" and writing for advice on this isn't going to solve your prob...i'm sure deep inside you know what you should do - but just want validation for it.

Here it is....
leave, he's not worth it and you're good to him I'm assuming - give yourself more credit...you're worth more than the way that you're getting treated. you're going to keep hoping that he'll leave and he'll come to his senses - but why should he, you're sticking around whether he does or not...

on a nice note to you - hope that all turns out for the best FOR YOU...put yourself higher than this...

You need a wake up call; sounds like he's taking you for a ride. Sorry.

mediahoney

When was the last time you had an MRI? Because, I swear, you must have bumped your over, and over, and over, again! The guy is a bum. You need to buy some self-esteem, because you obviously lost yours, somewhere!

Move on, Honey! You deserve better!

bluebell

don't think for 1 minute he will leave his wife and kids, you obviously mean nothing to him, and ok if you tell his wife you will hurt him, but you will hurt his wife and more importantly his kids more, and why should they have to suffer they are the inocents in all this, and why can't you find a single guy of your own, why do you have to break a family up, you deserve more than that have some self respect walk away from the loser, and get on with your life.

Odessa R

you need a wake up call . you are booty on the side that's being used look for someone else. It sounds like he really took you for a ride !!

partsgirl

Sounds terrible!! I hate to say it, but maybe he just isn't that into you? Sounds like he has used you...

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