Should I tell my boss' wife that he has been cheating on her for YEARS?

Devdude

No stay out of it. She probably already knows.

just me

First get your new job secured, then drop the bomb!

Silhouette

Take a photo and send it to her anonymously.

Common Sense

Yes, tell her, but make it anonymous...

kaspa_da_ghost

I'd show her proof instead of just telling her.

primamaria04

Yes its the right thing to do , do it though after you find and get this other job. Or better yet do this accidentally give her some kind of proof but remain anonymous . Proof like lipstick in his office, hair ties, women's clothing etc. Get her to come down to the office , or if she comes over she will find it and put 2 and 2 together.You won't need to say a word.

or I second that photo idea.

What he is doing is wrong, lots of people will say to not get involved , that is what is wrong with the world too many people " not wanting to get involved" due laziness or selfishness. He is risking the health and welfare of his wife and children(?) . He could give them STD's. Which will only perpetuate the spread of them.This man is disgusting, If he doesn't want to be with his wife then he should leave her and let her be HAPPY. He should not be allowed to have his cake and eat it too. No one should.

funkychunky7000

yes tell her, Cheaters should all rot in hell

make sure you can prove it if you do! she may not believe you and you will get fired!

Brad

yes, what a ******

Pythagoras

For your own sake, you may want to make sure you have another job before you break the news. You should also consider that bridge burned once you do.

PatriotWhit

I also would want to know. However, I would for sure have a new job lined up. As long as you're covering for him you are enabling his cheating ways also. Get out of there, tell her, and move on with your life.

Lisa A

I have a lot to say to this. Of course you would want to kow, but we are funny human beings when confronted with truths. When my exe cheated on me, I went through my stages of grief on a chat forum that really gave me a good idea of the psychology of cheaters and their spouses.

If you tell her, she will probably not believe you and/or will be extremely angry with you. If my memory serves me correct, I believe that what the experts on that forum suggested was to confront HIM with the fact that you are quitting and that he has until X date/time to fess up to wifey about said infidelities. If not, write her a letter and mail it. Stick to the facts and how she can confirm them. Take a picture and use that. Send her copies of something that she will be unable to deny.

Good luck.

Singthing

I would highly suspect that she knows already. If she doesn't know the whole truth, she probably assumes he is cheating on her. Some women will put up with a lot to live a comfortable lifestyle. It sounds like that is what he can provide for her.

Listen, I am all about honesty and there have been many times that I have disclosed to or confronted someone. You really have to "pick your battles wisely". if you already have your foot out the door and you do not fear repercussions, I guess you have nothing to lose. If however, it could come back to haunt you, just stay out of it. She will more than likely see the writing on the wall soon enough, if it really isn't a cozy situation for her.

Really though, do find another job. I know i couldn't work for someone with no integrity or morals like that. You will be much happier.

mare022

I was put in the same spot when i worked in an Italian resturant. My Boss (the owner) had a girlfriend who WORKED there but only in the mornings and i couldnt figure out why she wasnt working night shifts, and getting paid with everyone else. Well i figured it out when i walked in early one day. I ended up being fired and yes i did tell his wife. She didnt believe me but to have something like that weighing on my concious wasnt happening. I did what i could. I would recomend finding a defanite job before you tell her so that way he cant to ruin other prospects for you and you can still use him as a referance. Just wait until after the fact

Luis

I wouldn't, remember just becuase you leaving you job doesn't mean you won't hear from him again. Remember he still needs to give you a reference!!!

nursecracker

i'm sure your boss's wife KNOWS about the girlfriend(s). with all of your boss's "activities" he can't be home much... the wife likely has had a lot of hints and clues over the years.

for some, financial security beats a loyal husband.

take care.. all the best on your new job!

Peppa J

Don't get involved. It's none of your business and you could do irreparable harm. She must know anyway.

Blitz

You need to ask yourself why you think it is okay to tell her. Are you friends with her? She may already know or she may the kind of person who really doesn't want to know what her husband is doing. Hearing this news from you might not really doing her any favors. You say you are looking for another job so it sounds like you are not happy. Why not focus on making yourself happy? Would ruining your boss' marriage make you happy? I would leave and not worry about it.

intewonfan

Oh my goodness...did you take over my old job? Sounds just like my old boss, which is why I left.
No, stay out of it. Chances are that she already knows or will find out soon enough. You don't want to be in the middle of it.

gaby5

make sure that you have another job before you say anything!! and i don't think you should.. i mean, its their business. but if you do it, do it anonymously!!

bee

No! It is none of your business what your boss does in his personal time...since it is interfering with your professional life, I totally agree that you need to find a new job ASAP. But, it is still not your place to interfere in his/her marraige.

chicyuna

Not unless you want to become involved with their private life, and be known as the "snitch". This is a private matter between him and his wife. If this has been going on for years, surely to goodness his wife knows something is "up" (forgive the pun). It really is none of your business anyways, and unless you plan on becoming a major part of their marriage after you leave the company (which I'm hoping you don't want), stay out of it.

Athena

I think you should stay out of it. She might take it the wrong way, you never know. You say you have to cover for your boss, well, I don't think that's part of your job. Tell him you won't do it any more but you won't tell. It's really unfair for the two of you. [You and his wife.]
Good luck!

kentoe

Before you do anything, consider how you will feel if she calls you a liar. She might deny it all and blame you if anything goes wrong. Oftentimes, it is the bearer of bad news that receives the brunt of fury from someone. For that matter, how would you feel after hearing they have divorced. Chances are, his wife already suspects something.

beckyvincenzes

It's not your place to tell the wife unless you are friends with her. I think it's a really good idea to find another job - you dont want to be in that position.

Wenke_91

tell her... the woman merits a better man than the dip ****! and no money won't fix it for him...so if he offers you money for your silence don't accept it!

chilanga26lasvegas

Before anything get another job.

If I was her I would like to know, but if you do not know her that well you might just want to stay out of it. She might already know and then you would just look bad.

Be careful

Foxykg

you should e-mai it to hm and cc's her on it.. LOL.. if the shoes was on the other foot would you want to hear the news from a co-worker or a firend.
this may hurt your position with him/her.. noone likes bad news.. NOONE!

deeshamon

yeah thats a great idea!!! If you want to get killed, how do you know that she already isnt aware of it!!I say dont cover for him but dont ruin anyones marriage thats his job!!

SGT. Dillers Wifey

i would let her know discreetly. make sure you have some proof though unless you know she will beleave you. also wait until you find another job so you can avoid having any awkward moments with the boss and avoid him firing you on grounds that shouldnt be brought into a work enviroment.

tersey562

Since you are already looking for another job, just stop covering for him. If his wife calls asking for him you could say that he isn't there and you don't know where he is - he might be with "girlfriend or golfing" or whatever but you'll give him the message she called when he gets back or something like that. You are right that he apparently feels "entitled" to his life and his wife is probably totally in the dark and unsuspecting and undeserving of this kind of treatment. I totally believe that what goes around comes around and some day he will get his due. Only you can make the decision of whether you can live with yourself if you do tell or live with yourself if you don't. Good luck to you and God Bless.

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