Should I tell my ex-husband's new wife he still loves me & he is cheating on her with me?

Carly

yes tell her but give her proof. she probably won't believe you

Devdude

Holy crap how do people get themseves into these messes anyway? I cant imagine life this complex.

Dr. Richard Fitzwell

How about you f-ed his life up once. Why do you keep ruining his life with your sweet v-gina. Your goal in life is to control and destory someone that cares about you. How does that make you fell? You feel like a powerful person because you can control him. YOU ARE WEAK because you can't find pleasure in anything postive. You should help him be a better person. You should also try to be a better person yourself. The first step is to move out of the trailer park, second get his name removed off your shoulder, third fix your teeth, and last wash your kids and their clothes..

kitkat

Your poor chilren, they got the JackPot with you two for parents..............

Maureen B

I think the real question you need to be asking yourself is why are you such a pathetic loser.And then you need to tell the new wife what a loser her husband is..Sound's like you and your ex deserve eachother you are both pond scum...I can see why you have remained faceless..You have all the reason in the world to be ashamed of yourself..

and_y_knot

This questionable triumph of yours comes at the cost of your honor, as well as his. If there is something his wife needs to be told, it should come from him. And if he doesn't tell her, you should be showing him the wrong side of the door again.

OneLilithHidesAnother

No, but you should definitely stop playing games. It isn't funny, and in the end everybody gets hurt.

If you both think there was a mistake, then take it out in the open (he should be the one to speak up), and take up the paperwork to get it corrected.

If he doesn't want to speak up, he is not in love with anybody but himself, and both you and his wife are better off without him - but if you speak up it will look spiteful and revengeful. Is it what you want?

Then again, I cannot imagine why you would make place in your bed for a cheat...

mom of twins

No, this is up to him to tell her. By the way this doesn't sound like a man with much integrity why would you want him back?

Valerie

"He only married her to have someone to help take care of our children and him. "

Wasn't this at one time you? He is using you ....and you are letting him.

Ms Brown Eyez

You sound confused.
You are obviously the ex-wife for a reason.
He is cheating on his current wife, but at the same time you are being used as well.
What benefits are you getting by sleeping with him?
Do you want him back?

It sounds like you should back off and get someone of your own. You could be putting yourself in a dangerous situation if the new wife find out what is going on.

Celia

i don't think you should and you should even stop doing it with your ex anymore. Be fair, we are all women. Why stab each other in the back like that?Why the hell do you both divorce in the first place and make an innocent woman pay the price?

writeroftheyear1

No you shouldn't tell her. You know why? Because you think that if you tell her that your husband will come back to you and this will get her out of the picture. If you really cared about her, you would have told her that your husband still had feelings for you before she got married to him and you would have NEVER slept with him. This is about you. You are correct that your ex does not love his wife, but he doesn't love you either. Don't you find it funny that your ex can all of the sudden shows you the attention that you wanted, but still goes back to live with his wife. And don't tell me that he's not sleeping with her because we both know that he is.

You want to let her know how her husband feels about you, here's what you do: Tell your ex that he needs to tell his wife that he is still in love with you and that he doesn't want to be with her anymore. If he does it, then you know that he does still love you and I am wrong. If he is not willing to do that, but still wants to sleep with you, then you know that this has nothing to do with love.

dadof7n2001

You make me laugh! Who wanted the divorce? You are both despicable and deserve each other. His new wife doesn't deserve the crap you are putting her through. Prove to her that he is cheating with you so she can kick him to the curb and the two of you can go back to each other and live in your pitifulness.

KoKo.Licious

Okay, this question literally turned my stomach...this is disgusting. You can tell her but Im pretty sure that she will find out very soon on her own. Men are not very good at lying about anything...especially cheating.

toyanlee

SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE A LITTLE PROUD OF WHAT YOU'RE DOING. YOU SHOULDN'T BE BECAUSE SOUNDS LIKE YOUR EX IS A LOSER. DON'T TELL HER BECAUSE SHE'S NOT GOING TO BELIEVE YOU ANYWAY. LET HER FIND OUT FOR HERSELF. KEEP IN MIND YOU ARE ALL ADULTS WITH KIDs.

tom a

You seem to be so sure as to what your ex-husband is thinking and feeling. You should remain open to the possibility that you are wrong. He seems to be man with the plan who is playing you both. Clever guy!! Consider what you are trying to accomplish by 1) continuing to have a physical relationship with him and 2) wanting to disclose the same to his wife. Has he even made an effort to reconcile with you?! I'd bet the same problems he had when you left him remain.

Victoria78

Why did you divorce him if ya'll will still act like married? I don't get it. What you are doing is very very wrong.....!!!

itjustdawnedonme

Tell her, then RUN don't walk Right out of that relationship. cheaters always cheat.

Vivita

First off, why are you participating in this behavior? Yet he who is without sin cast the first stone. You're going to call out your husband for his wrongdoing but don't think you're going to come off as a saint because of it. The wife is going to be livid with you as well (as she should be!). You are going to destroy their relationship and probably piss off your ex-husband. You really want to do the right thing? Quit seeing your ex-husband on the sly and demand that he tell her himself what is going on. You should not be willing to be his mistress.

mufflerbearings1967

You and your ex are a prime example of everything that is wrong with our society.

Your deception is deplorable. it is even more disturbing that you are flaunting the fact that you have the morals of an alley cat and posing this question as though you are on the moral high ground. You have no rights in this case. You are disgusting and I only hope that SHE is raising your kids in the way that YOU will never be able to.

You should do the decent thing and tell her that your husband and you are both scumbags. Then you should put your pants back on and get therapy to address your need to degrade yourself in this manner. Hopefully, with professional help, you will not end up influencing your children to live lives as messed up as yours.

This question is nauseating.

Lady Dee

Only tell her if there is a definite that you two will be together forever. Don't do it if you don't love him anymore. Leave it be and she will find out in due time on her own or by someone else.

LIPPS

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO TELL HER? WHAT WOULD THAT GET YOU? EVEN THOUGH IT'S NOT 24/7, YOU'VE ALREADY GOT HIM AND HIS CHILDREN. IF YOU WANTED HIM FULL TIME, THEN YOU SHOULD'VE KEPT HIM. AND IF YOU TOLD HER NOW, AND SAY -- THEY BUSTED UP -- AND HE CAME TO YOU (TOTALLY), WOULD YOU STILL WANT HIM? HELL NO!!! YOU GOT RID OF HIM ONCE, AND YOU KNOW HE'S NOT TRUSTWORTHY, BECAUSE HE'S CHEATING ON HER WITH YOU....SO WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WANT HIM AGAIN? I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE DID THAT MADE THE TWO OF YOU DIVORCE IN THE FIRST PLACE, BUT IF THE TWO OF THEM DIVORCED NOW, AND YOU WOUND UP WITH HIM, WHAT IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU DO WITH HIM? YOU DAMN SURE COULDN'T TRUST HIM. THINK ABOUT IT........YOU CAN'T EXPECT ANY MORE OUT OF HIM THAN HE'S CURRENTLY GIVING HER!!!

lukkyB22

why does it matter to you? if you want him back then tell her. but there must have been a reason you got divorced.

sexy_ndn

Well if you really want her to know than I guess you should...plus its a good thing! I mean he's playin both of you...so whats the point in keepin him....tellin the truth is best! Just sit down with her and start tellin her whats goin on...then tell her she deserves better cause what he's doin isn't good...!!

yep, it seems to me like the two of you should get back togeather

like it is

Mind your own business and let it go. What good are you going to get out of this by telling his wife about your affair. You are being used and I guess you think it is cute that you are hurting the new wife. What is it - since you don't have him you don't anyone else to have him. Your ex is your ex for a reason. Get on with you life and stop back tracking.

missvictoria30

Why did the two of you divorce if you still have that kind of connection??? Why can't YOU care for your children???

It is not fair to her, but it is up to him to tell her. Meanwhile you should STOP helping him cheat, if once he is free of her you want to get back together that's fine, but he will never get the chance to make it work with her if he is still treating you like a wife.. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too...

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