Should I tell my husband what happened?

Truth Teller

By the way he acted, it appears he did in fact cheat. But I think sometimes things are better left unsaid.
The kiss you engaged in was a drunken one time thing. Not to mention your mentality at the time, which has proven to be correct after the fact.
Understand what you did wasnt right, but it was completely meaningless. I dont think I would feel much guilt about it.
If it bothers you to that degree, then be honest with hubby, but if the two of you are doing good now, why bring up a negative issue to make it bad again.
Its up to you, but i honestly dont feel like its a big issue due to your mentality of him having cheated at the time. You didnt sleep with someone for revenge but undoubtedly was so hurt, you wanted to feel better and tried something else.
I wouldnt sweat it, and i would leave it under the door mat unless he finds out about it and asks u about it.
Then, b honest......but he aint talking about his actions is he?
Good luck to you hun.

free_angel

Let it go and stay away from the booze.

snvffy

Sorry to hear about your having problems Danielle. But the fact is, you and hubby have much bigger problems than just a drunken guy friend kiss. You 2 need to get some counselling help. Get to your pastor or trusted counsellor soon.

Until you and he start communicating, the transgressions (yours and his) are meaningless.

Good Luck

sanj

The truth will come out eventually. It is better that he hears it from you then someone else. Tell him.

john b

You should always be upfront, open, and honest with your spouse, and vice versa.

her_royal_jennyness

I'd only bring it up if you feel like ending the relationship.

Let it go. It was just a kiss.
Find a marriage counselor.....

Apples to Apples

Let it go, it will just cause hard feelings between you. What he doesn't know won't hurt him!

zzHoUnDzz

Let the sleeping dog lie.

wuxxler

Unless you want to hurry along the next "really tough time" with your husband, you should not keep secrets from him. You don't want him keeping secrets from you, do you?

Work is for Busters

Why play games in a marriage like that?

Two things are known for sure here:

One; you cheated on him

Two: his brother is a not a vry good brother

You are not even sure if he cheated on you. And he changes the question? Do you stick with the cubject? I wish my wife let that fly.

unscathed_sheep

Personally I would tell him because if it's playing on your conscious than I can't see it suddenly stop doing so unless you confess, what you did was wrong but like you said it meant nothing and you were drunk. You need to talk to each other he may be avoiding you because he may have done the same as is trying to cope with his guilt. Maybe go out together and talk about whats in both of your heads.

Also if someone else tells him and then you would look really guilty and if your argument would be "its just a kiss" than that would probably make him more angry thinking that cheating isn't anything important whether it meant something or not. I'd be honest...
I really hope it all worrks out for you

20 and lovin' it

Please tell him now. Also let him know if it had anything to do with what you heard about him, or not. You do not want to keep letting this run around in your mind. I think that this will allow him to trust you more, but next time don't let it happen (as you've probably learned).

asya

If it meant nothing to you, then you don't need to tell him. He didn't tell you of his adultery! I say to let it go. Do you really want to know if your husband cheated on you or not? If you told you he did, how would you feel about it? Would it make you more content knowing that he did, and told you about it, or would you feel less of a woman and hurt? Neither of you need to discuss what went on with eachother when you were seperated. Neither of you should have been doing anything, because you were still married to eachother, but that is besides the point. DON'T TELL HIM ANYTHING!!!! It will only hurt your relationship even more.

foxxmay2001

His brother told you that he cheated on you, so you kiss a guy friend.

Do you think kissing a guy was meanful to you? no, so why would you care. LOL
Don't tell him untill he come out clean!

frabi

No sense to talk about all things without importance that happen .

Dan

If you're not honest, then you're no different from him, and guilt is not something that's easy to live with

ironlady42

no need to tell.

ramy

Dan I really love u, you have just kissed a guy friend and for that you are feeling guilty, don't feel guilty,forgot it ,once again ask him firmly about his cheating, and even at that time he refuses to tell the truth, leave it, it is because he loves you and if the truth comes out you may leave him, which he does not want, he wants you with him. Just like the meaningless kiss,this would also pass.

TONY B

as you say it was a meaningless kiss and he has cheated on you and you have forgiven him so let the matter rest.be happy and don't feel guilty

shedevil

I suggest you tell him, I dont think it's that bad compared to cheating. A kiss is nothing compared to the actual cheating and you will know how he will react to it. Just a simple way of you getting even with him, That should break his heart also, there's nothing for you to feel guilty about. What you did was very minor compared to what he did to you.

Not Of This World

if you tell him it will bring some problems it always happen like that!!

Gerry

The truth is, how did you feel when you cheated on hiim? I would tell him because in the end, if he finds out he will be really mad. I am going through a tough break up. I want a divorce and my ex doesn't want it. He thinks we are getting back to gether. I have even gone out of my way to get an apartment of my own. To tell him that I don't want to be with him. So Please tell him

deakjone

If you want to get his attention and talking... Just say, "If you tell me about your cheating, I'll tell you about mine..." That should open him up...

lily

Keep it to yourself. What good could come of it. Matter of fact forget about it yourself, I am sure the guy you kissed has.

H.B.K. 2

let it go.

dog8it

Do NOT tell him! Even if you had an actual affair,the advice is still not to tell..that is if you are sorry and do not intend ever to do it again!! All that serves to do is alleviate your guilt and hurt him.I've heard lots of marriage experts say this.

sparkleythings_4you

Talk to your husband and find out what is going on, to keep ignoring the subject with you is so immature!! Perhaps it may have been wiser to talk to him before you went out and kissed your friend, but things are always easier with hind sight.

Melissa

I wouldn't say anything to him. Keep it to yourself.

Bondgirl

He cheated? Not only would I tell him - I'd offer him pictures!! A petty kiss out of revenge after he put his thing elsewhere? Not even close to being the same!!

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