Should I tolerate this situation, would you?

rkilburn410

This is a very sad place you are in right now You have a husband that doesn't want the world to know he is married, and he wants the financial security that you can provide.As for him never having done any thing for himself he has not and it is about time he does, all on his own hook. You are better than this and you know it, I think it is fear Of being alone that keeps you in this situation, and you dear have to get past that fear, Honest living alone is so much better than going threw what you are . An if need be there are a lot of men that will and can appreciate you, but first you have to find out your own value because you can not see it. I do so understand where you are and could go on for ever but please think about what I have said best of luck

noel_1939

Simple answer...........move on.
I think you already know the correct thing to do....maybe you should listen to your true self or find out why you are playing Q&A with yourself.

dizzy

oh my god...this is crystal clear...I'm sorry to tell you but from this 'side' i see that he's just using you for your money and your body...he's probably out during the week evenings spending 'your' cash on other women!!....tell him where to go and find someones who cares for you the way you should be cared for!

Pat R

He wants money off you...and thats all!!!

Ian :-)

Get out...move on...be loved....
in that order.....

jo w

get rid 4 your sake !!he really is no good, and i think you know it otherwise you wouldn,t be asking us. plz listen, he,s not worthy of you, he,s a player. tell him 2 take a hike, stand on his own 2 feet, and spend his own money.!! believe me i know. i was in the same situation 2 months ago, and now i,m a happier person, only got myself to please, and best ofall; peace of mind. good luck 2 you.

I went back and read your previous questions. You need to call a locksmith and change the locks, then an attorney and divorce him. He is using you for your money. Kick him to the curb. He has lied to you from the beginning and he is lying to you now. It is time for you to face the truth. Your marriage is over.

yvemaria1937

Take heed from the other people writing on here.

Be strong and tell him outright that you have had enough and Dont Give him a Penny either.
Part time Husbands are a Pain in the Butt.

mentallyill

I think you know its time to leave this guy he's not been playing fair. So before you get hurt any deeper ...maybe you should leave

Good luck

Kylie P

Sounds like he wants to be single but wont break it off completely because he wants you to support him financialy. Make it easy for him and just move on. You deserve better. That is not how a married couple should live.

sugar

when someone cant return the love that you give then you have a choice- you either accept that this person is going to walk all over you (which is what he is doing) or you cut him loose and meet someone who can give you something more. This man is clearly selfish and does not love you. But its your choice.

Jax

I'm sorry Nancy...I'm sure you're sick of hearing the same things over and over again, but I think you need to. It sounds like you are the only one trying to keep this marriage together. The more you give in, the less likely he will respect you.

You have allowed him to get everything he wants,and to me it doesn't sound like you're giving him enough push back; how will he ever know what he's losing?

You need to tell him you don't want to see him for a while. Say you need time to evaluate your life and what you want out of it.

Turn it around on him, let him know how he's not perfect either. He's putting all this on you, saying it's your fault and he needs time away from you to think, but what about you!?!

Don't you (after all this) think that maybe he's not the one for you? Don't you think maybe he can no longer make you happy? Tell him that...let him get a taste of you feeling that way and treating him the way he's treating you. Maybe it will give him a new perspective. Maybe it will give YOU one...

doodlenatty

Get rid of him, he's just using you! What an a** hole!

Joel

I think you really already know the answer to your question. You say you are pathetic to keep asking for an opinion but who told you that your husband ?. what advice would you give to someone in your situation grin and bear it ? I think not. If your marriage is worth saving try your best but don't try it one sidedly. You have every right to happiness and it is certainly not too late to find it. Do not be bullied and brow beaten by someone who clearly has their own interests uppermost try and be strong for your own sanity.

Caffiene Junkie

sounds like you need to move on before he breaks your heart. he's ready to be on his own and doesn't know how to say it

berry

He is trying to get your money. The fact that he wants to live as a single man also indicates that he is not to be trusted. Why not move in with him. Don't ever give him any money. He will never return it to you and he might dump you. Mark my words. Don't do it. If you do, be sure to remember what I said when he does dump you and doesn't return your money. I feel scared for you. Sincerely.

shellysnapz

sorry luv....it's doomed, he can't even give you a direct answer, but he's willing to get you into bed...he wants to live 5 days a week as a single man in his OWN place, even though he's married to you..hmmmm not good....and in a "jokey" way he's hinting that your loaded and wants 50 grand.....in a "jokey" way....tell him to get lost he's using you

Common Sense

No, I would not tolerate this situation..
Divorce him immediately...

aholmes12003

dump him or have a break and get someone else, it seems like no one is happy and he may not like getting wed so Young.
if one or both of you are unhappy then go, it's best to move on than hate each other.

donua1022

wow get away,he has his own apartment, and wants to live a single life during the week, can't believe that you have been married 19 years.............and have you put up with this for all those years, i would hit the road fast........move on and make a new life for yourself. cheers good luck and god bless

cheyanne

if that is the kind of attitude your constantly getting from him
then you need to spend time alone single at your home as well

life is grand

on wards and up wards hun x

jelly1909

Sorry but you are being used in more ways than one. You are worth more than that and life will get easier over time, think of yourself and your future, let him worry about his. If you have the money to lend him and did, you may aswell say goodbye to it, sorry. Good luck.

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