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♥Martini Shake♥
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Just move on sweetie - he did obviously |
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Godless AM
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No, the marriage is closure enough. But I would be going for child support and for him to have partial custody (ie, every other weekend or something to give yourself a break) |
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Grainne
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Move on. You're better than this. |
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VY
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You should be thinking ahead and your future. Don't be calling him, call a lawyer because you will need child-support etc... that you and the child are entitled to. You will need the support raising this child.
The past is the past, you need to worry about the future at this point! |
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doclakewrite
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I wouldn't let myself be so vulnerable...
He obviously is a cad as he carried on with both of you at one time.
Did you really think he would stay with you and leave her????
I think you need some counselling and you should wake up and smell the coffee.
You need to get a court order for child support and if he wants to see the child, arrangements should be ordered by the court. You need to have him support the child and don't feel sorry for him... The child should have what a normal father could provide......do not let the child suffer or you suffer....
As far as if he misses you or the baby, you can't be,really thinking he does.
This kind of man will tell a woman anything she wants to hear.
I believe you got off easy and didn't get stuck with him for 13 years.
It is time to move on, be a great Mom, love your child and if you need to get more education now is the time.. get yourself a great job and be the successful woman you know you are...
We all make mistakes but fortunately we have lovely children and they become our lives...
Move on my dear, he was never yours in the first place..... |
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Go Bears!
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No - He made his choice. Time for you to move on too. |
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erselius
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he's a loser. why worry about him. just move on. it seems like a lot of the people up above think you're an angel. you both screwed up badly. now you have a child that will grow up without their dad. i'll give you credit for owning up to your parental responsibility. good luck. |
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curious101
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I would say let him go, if he doesnt want to be there for you and the baby you shouldnt want him there, but go for child support, he owes you that much! |
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Bondgirl
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He is marrying someone else. That is closure enough. Spend your time and energy bettering your life for you and your child. And never settle for anything less than a man who would slay dragons for you. |
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sarah jane
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No, you have your answer. He is getting married. If he missed you, he would be with you. Time to move on. Make sure you file for support so that your child will be taken care of. In the future, don't get pregnant with someone who you're not married to. |
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g
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No, if he hasn't spoken to you then you know his answer and that should be your closure. |
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ROC_1
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You should just move on and find a man who will love you and you child.You would be happier, plus trying to work things out with him would just be a headache for you and your child. Its not about him anymore its about you two.Good luck! |
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Jackie
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No-dont contact him-contact the state offices and get the ball on the child support rolling since he obviously doesn't seem to want to be in you OR your child's life. |
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JD
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Your own relationship with this man is over and you need to accept that. He cheated on anothe woman and used you and now you are left with a child that he seems to have forgotten about. Why would you want a man like that?
HOWEVER, this man is still the father of your child and he has a moral and financial responsibility to care for that child. Don't call him; call an attorney. You need to make sure this man stands up and takes care of his child and you need to do it legally. If the love of his life doesn't know about you or the baby, tough. She's gonna find out now and that's his problem to deal with, not yours.
Call an attorney today and establish your rights and those of your child. |
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LovingLife
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If you haven't heard from him since they reunited...chances are he's moved on. That's your closure right there. If he wanted you, he'd have contacted you. He's trying to mend things and move forward with his fiance... It would be in your best interest to leave that alone... Get child support for your child though. |
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Why would you want a man that thinks so little of you, he's making wedding plans with someone else? You shouldn't even have to ask him the questions you were talking about. If he missed you and the baby, he'd be with you and the baby. You and your child deserve someone that would be more dedicated to you than that. You do need to make him financially responsible if nothing else, for his child, though. As far as a relationship with him, that's about as smart as sticking your hand to a red hot stove eye. You're BOUND to get hurt. Let him walk, honey, because anyone that can walk away from you anyway is not someone you need in your life. I know it hurts, but on the other side of this will be someone that really loves and respects you and doesn't run off making wedding arrangements with another woman, and you deserve more. |
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dani-gal
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i say you just let it be....honestly because look just live your life with your baby and enjoy your life. you never know he might come back but it will be to late cuz he walked out. go find or let a good man comeinto your life and enjoy your baby while he/ she is little ...=] |
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luvlisteningtomusic
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If you were to do this you need to understand that you will probably not hear what you want to hear and it will break your heart again. If he was having feeling for you then I would think he wouldn't go off and marry her. |
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beachbabe530
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That was wrong to have a baby with him. I feel bad for the baby |
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Gun Dream
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No, you shouldn't, there is no closure in putting yourself on a silver plate and offering yourself to him. You want closure? Meet him again, in court, fighting for child support. |
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klarebear
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Nah if he were mature he would have stayed with you after getting you pregnet like a responsible man.
so just move on dear! God bless and Good luck!! |
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swagles
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you need to do what you think is best for:
a- your child, foremost, def keep it civil cuz i know that you have to be hurt, so if you think you might say something you will regret later, just write a letter to him and then tear it up (that helps with closure)
b- yourself... which do you think you need more, knowing for sure he is getting married, or knowing that he does not want to be with you, but with his girlfriend instead.
if you think that you can talk nicely and civily, i would def give him a call, explain how you feel, and let him know that you are calling for closure on your part.
good luck to you.... i hope everything works out well for you and your child. |
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Goober
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ok do this ask him it can't hurt u might be scared of his answers or hurt just stay strong ur a strong female and none else can give you those answers but him and also need help with the kid nail him for child support its 100% legal and u will get ur money when u need it just go to court or go to ur lawyer and ask if u don't have a lawyer go to the court they can give u one |
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Xtra goodies
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move on hun... she has 10 more years on you and that is a heck of a lot of time... If he hasnt contacted you then he must be happy. i know it is hard but you need to move on. BIG HUGSS things will get better. I would have alot of crying days/nights with lots of ben n jerrys . Then you have to pick yourself back up again and get aboard that train and chug along. I know you dont want to believe it but you will find someone who wants to be with you like he wants to be with her that much.. |
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Leany
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just leave it alone and move on because if he wanted to be with you he would be there so dont sit around just to be hurt |
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lovehealer
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Try this great article:
Is Your Relationship Healthy? Some Questions To Ask Yourself
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-is-your-relationship-healthy.html |
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JD
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I'm not trying to be mean about this but are you just trying to make him feel guilty or something? Think about this, what are you accomplishing by asking him if he misses you and his child? I think that you already have your answer - he is marrying this other woman, if he wasn't happy do you think he would be getting married? Don't you think that if he felt he would be happier with you he would be with you and not this other woman?
Having said those things, I think it's best to do what you feel is right and what will give you the closure you need. What I've said is only based on what I imagine I might do in a similar situation but I don't have the whole story and this is your experience. Follow your heart.
I say, let him go. However, I do hope that he plans on being a part of his child's life or at very least be offering support. |
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twinkletoes
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no i think you should leave it. if he has been unfaithful to his long term partner with you, there would be nothing stopping him from doing the same to you. you and your child are better off starting again now than having to do it in 13 years when he has cheated on you and your child is old enough to understand.
hang in there |
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T_T
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Leave it alone because chances are if he goes back with you he'll just hurt you like her hurt her. |
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noodles
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I'd take him to court for child support and let that be the closure. He should be paying for his child whether he marries someone else or not. |
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brian m
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No way stay away. Just let him know that you will going after him for child support, if he has not already offered to do so....now that would have been the right thing for him to have done. Life right now should be about you and your child. |
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