Should i be offended?

It depends bro ... Maybe she thinks at this point of her life that she doesn't want to change her last name (maybe coz she feels that it's her identity) ... I know a couple of girls who always say that and I respect that to a certain extent ...

But if she meant that she doesn't wanna change her last name to your last name ... then maybe she was hinting at something

Otherwise it's totally normal for unmarried girls to respond like that ... it's more of a self-pride thing ... that's cool

Just ask her out ... you'll be fine! :)

Deborah k

I'd be offended that the idea was so offensive to her.
If a woman wants to keep her name, fine, why be snippy about it?

E D

First of all, you haven't proposed ....yet. So this isn't really an issue. However, now that it has come up, you need to voice your concerns about it.

This came up during my emgagement, and I considered it a "deal breaker." If my name isn't good enough for you, then perhaps I'm not either.

Just my thoughts.

Pet

Personally I loved taking my husband's last name. I still love writing it when I sign my name or whatever. :)
The only person I know who kept their last name is my mother in law. She kept her last name through all four of her marriages and is a heinous *****.
Just saying.

Jazzy

No
she has worked hard and felt like you were trying to take some of the credit. Just go with the flo. Go buy her a paper weight with her name on it and tell her her last name is not important but knowing she loves you is.

Shalomi S

no because many women keep there maiden names. So don't be offended maybe she just wasn't ready to here that.

kateAlina

i wouldnt marry anyone who wouldnt take my last name. that kind of person is bound to fight you on everything else too. everyone i know who insisted on doing this to a guy were heinous b-ches.

Lela A

let it go

life goes on

no many people dont change their name like
teachers
drs.
etc,

No, you shouldn't.

Gunther FitzJerald IV

hell yes you need to keep that women in check so she doesn't question anything u say ever

Debbie B

Why should you? I started using my husbands then went back to mine cause I didn't like his and he is fine with it.

Blue

I don't think so. I didn't change mine, my husband's okay with it. It doesn't make you any less married. If it bugs you a lot ask her if she wouldn't mind hyphenating. It's becoming less and less common for women to change their last name.

Rocky Balboa

No one of my friends has two last names it O.K!!!

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Adina L

no, you shouldn't, she wants to keep her family name, what's wrong with that? that doesn't mean she doesn't love u and doesn't mean she doesn't want to marry you

Amanda

Well, it really depends on how she said it.
Just looking at your situation, I wouldn't be offended. However, I feel that you somewhat got offended because it was like..in your mind, you were testing the waters to see how she would react towards the thoughts of marriage (seeing how it's in your head already) and it seems like you're feeling like she already said no to your proposal.
Don't freak out tho. Many women don't change their last names, or they get it hyphenated. Look at Jessica Simpson and NIck Lachey. She didn't change her last name but they were married. Jada Pinkett-Smith and Will Smith (as well as Eva Longoria-Parker and her husband) had their last names hyphenated. There are a lot of options. Her saying she doesn't want to change her name doesn't mean anything bad.
However, if she said it in the way to where she doesn't want to have YOUR last name, I'd wonder about that. I would have asked her more questions about it like "oh okay, that's interesting. So when you get married, you don't wanna change your last name? That's cool. So what made you come to that decision" and etc etc. Just ask hypothetical questions and once you're satisfied with an answer, just let it go so she doesn't think twice about it. Just don't ask about it randomly out of the blue, lol.
Good luck!!

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