Should i be upset?

George

I don't know -- -generally he should not intentionally do things that upset you, but really if this is all you have to complain about in the relationship, I would suggest putting it in the "choose your battles" category.

The fact that he even cares about getting the carpet cleaned and is willing to do anything about it puts him in the 1% of all married men category, maybe just be thankful fo that?

â™¥~The Human Bandaid~ â™¥

If he's your ex why do you care?!

Jenny

If he is your ex - it shouldn't matter.

EDIT: Your husband did this? Then yes, I would be upset for clearly disrespecting my feelings and thoughts on the matter.

where is everybody?

is he your ex because you have a need to feel in control? he borrowed her carpet cleaner, didn't clean her carpet!

MikeBrien

Just curious why he should listen to one ex in order to decide what to do with another ex?

quantumrift

While there are probably LOTS of things to be 'upset' over regarding an ex-spouse, a CARPET CLEANER ain't one of 'em.

DUH.

gamerwench

"my ex borrowed something from his ex wife after I told him that I would rather him not. "

If he's your ex why do you care what he does?

If that is a typo - if he did it to save you the cost of renting a carpet cleaner then I wouldn't be upset. It shows that you are jealous and insecure. People can stay friends with their ex's even if they were married.

Michael R

leave him

Nancy M.

If he is your ex then it should not matter who he borrows from. Afterall, he is an ex now.

BenTheFolker

you have to pick your battles. This may not be worth it, especially if it works out well. You have expressed your disagreement, now express that you trust his judgment. This wont be the only time you will have to agree to differ. Use this as a rehearsal for situations that will require much more faith and trust in your husband.
Good luck!

ben

Mickey.Slick

if he is your ex then it shouldnt matter what he does. why are you cleaning carpets with your ex anyways? are you still living with him???

Epiphany

He's your ex, right? Just want to make sure I understand this correctly. Because if he's your ex, what do you really care?

You want a steam cleaner, he got one. Big deal. Get over it or rent one yourself.

Say no to drama, kitten.

tan0301

why do you care what your ex does? But yeah, if you told him it would upset you and he went ahead, then this was clearly a disregard for your feelings. Although he may see it as no big deal. You need to make him understand that to you it was.

~Simply me~

yes

Quiet Curiosity 1970

Did you say your "ex?"

If he is an "ex" husband, boyfriend or whatever, then his actions are completely "ex"clusive of your input.

However, if there is a typo and he is your husband, then it would be appropriate to be a little upset. If finances are not an issue, then you both need to work on mutual respect.

Turquoise

if he's your ex, why does it matter?

John P

EX/boyfriend or EX/ husband. Use it, return it and use the money you saved to go out to dinner and then forget it.

wildman6982

hey don't get upset over the little things just stay tuned to any change of character in him and go from there. the worst thing you can do is get jealous. godspeed.

~leaving traces~

If they divorced on mutual bases, then I don't see what the big deal is about him using her carpet cleaner. People can divorce amicably and still get along without having feelings for one another...I know this from experience.

However, if you made it clear to him that this was going to make you uncomfortable and he did it anyway, it doesn't sound like he really cares what you think or feel. His priority should be YOUR feelings, not the carpet. If he did genuinely care, he wouldn't have wanted to make waves in his marriage with you just to borrow some dumb carpet cleaner.

gorjussgeorgia

Well i think you messed your question up, because it says "your ex" borrowed something from his ex. Well if he is indeed your ex, then you shouldn't care.

I would be upset, you clearly told him that you didn't want too get it from her, even though guys are cheap and carpet cleaners are expensive he should have listened too you.

Make him clean the whole house,

Tony R

if he's your ex just let this issue go

Dobber

Yes you should be very upset. First of all he should have the love and respect to not even think about having any interaction with his ex unless the interaction had something to do with children if they happen to have any together and if not then all ties should have been severed as soon as he got into a committed relationship with you. Plus not to mention he should always respect how you feel about something especially when you vocally expressed to him that you would rather rent the cleaner. I just really think that he wants to stay connected to his ex for some reason or another because you obviously expressed how you felt about it and second he should always respect your feelings and he should already know that that is just something you don't do. So why is he trying to go out of his way to have a connection with his ex. If I were you I would be very upset and I would really investigate the whole thing and find out what he is up to and why he can't put you first above all others. Hope this is helpful. Good Luck.

Magnix2k

What? You have no business to be upset because your relationship with your ex is FINISHED unless friends. You can't control him. It looks like you still have feelings for him.

Radtech1996

No it is none of your concern it is your x....what do you care what he does?????

emdotcom

good point molly

face9202004

well, id be upset that your say in it didnt matter. if thats the case then why ask for your opinion. then again why is he talking to his ex??

J Swizzle

Yes you should be upset. I believe we women have a 6th sense and when we feel uncomfortable about somethign it's for a reason... why couldn't he just listen to you and not go.. did he want to see her that bad????? what the hell is his problem?.. you are with him now., so your opinion should matter... did he just want an excuse to talk to her or see her?.. ASk him why the hell he couldn't just rent on like you said!!!!

Yeah you should be upset, because he should respect your feelings, and never should have borrowed it.

pictureshygirl

I would be upset too. It is so easy to go rent one that it would have been easy for him to not overide your feelings by borrowing it from his ex wife. Most men do not see doing this as something wrong, you need to explain to him why it was wrong for him to not consider your feelings. After doing this, then just let it go, I am sure his intent were only to save money.

â™¥rachâ™¥

yea u should b upset.....i wouldnt want my man anywhere near his ex..cause if u think about it...he shoulda just left her alone alongggg time ago

chik7896

Why are you freaking out over this? He saved yall some money by borrowing one and not renting one. You need to chill out a little bit.

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