Should i cheat?

veryniserack

like Nike says......JUST DO IT!!!

Tera L

Just leave him. He doesn't sound like he cares that much. If he did, he would go to councling. The worst thing to do is stay in an unhappy marriage because of the children. That won't make anyone happy.

Molly323

I think if he wont try and help solve the problem, then go for it, he obviously doesnt care that much then. Also, he probably is still having an affair...once a cheater always a cheater!

ryanderhino

NO just divorce him dont be the bad guy take the high rode

Luke's Wife

If you cheat on him you will not get over it you will never be able to get over it so if he does not want to help you for the thing that he created then leave him and get a divorce then find some one but you will just make it worse.

pwwatson8888

No. He did so you are allowed to divorce him.
But remember this:

Romans 12:17 - Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.

1 Thessalonians 5:15 - See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.

1 Peter 3:9 - Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

If you cheat on him you will be cheating on yourself.

Jessica A

dun stoop to his level...its not even worth it...if he doesnt wanna go to counseling with u then he doesnt care as much as u do about ur relationship...he is lucky u had even given him another chance...i couldn't be with sumone who cheated on me though cuz it would haunt me...dun cheat on ur husband though cuz its not solving anythin...he had already cheated so thats not gonna change...if i were u id divorce him and find a man whos gonna be loyal to u...

I have the best husband ever

Pray to god he will give you an answer. you say you go to church so you should know that god condem cheating. you shouldn't even ask this question, you need to go pray. and i will pray for you as well.

soldato05rr

2 wrongs dont make a right...but......It still feels good. I'm the type to not just get even, I get worse. Go for it! just don't get too used to it

smcopeland16

follow your heart!

blazingbulldog

I am sorry you got hurt but do you really think by you becoming what he is is really gonna take your pain away?
Is it really gonna make it easier on your kids?
I would say you go to marrige counseling, he cant take away your pain only you can work on that...
Maybe he is afraid that it will be a man bashing party and that is why he wont go, but i would be very careful to make sure its not because he doesnt want to fess up to his mistakes that he his still making

dezchamp

Cheating on him doesn't mean that you're going to feel any better, if you really can't get over it, then i'd suggest that you and him don't have a future anymore, especially if he's not prepared to "re-live" it. I know that it's not easy considering you have a child, and you don't want to ruin their life, but you have to consider that mayby staying with your husband, or cheating on him, might also have consequences that could ruin your childs life. Personally i know how you feel about thinking cheating might be the answer, but i don't really think it is, i believe that in the short term you might get some positives from it, i reckon long term you'd be left with all negative feelings.

banghi

don't cheat on him to get even despite what others say. that is the wrong reason to have an affair. if you get caught up with the person from work, get the butterflies and such when you are around them, really start to have serious feelings, then you have some soul searching to do. but please don't go out and do this just out of spite.

your husband doesn't want counsiling, maybe he is over it. then again, maybe he isn't. having it come out and then not addressing it in a professional setting where you can get closure speaks to his priorities. if he is over it then he should be able to go in marraige counsiling for you so that you can get the help needed in dealing with this issue that is still haunting you.

shayhi

No cheating is not good, an its hard getting over the past especially something like that. You need to forgive him and start living. and dont look back. but if there is more to this story then you must sit face to face and be honest with each other..it may hurt. Either it gets better or worse. but be Honest and tell each other the truth of your relationship. from there you should know what to do..

yoh_exprg

Be strong .......
I know it is the hardest time for you

If you decide to cheat, that will be make you in another new trouble...
And Your relationship won't get better

My suggestion.....
Be patient and keep praying....

Sound silly and no result......?

Maybe....
But In my experience....it's the best way

Keep strong..... ^__^

Jennifer

no never cheat! if you really wanna make u to work out then dont do that bc that wont help just make you guys more apart. i been chaeted on i no

Dulce O

Dont lower your self like that.Cause i dont think you are a mad person.And if you cheat and he finds out dont you think he might leave you and take your son away.Please thinik things well and think about your child.

Survivors Ready?

He doesn't want to re-live it so he won't go with you....it didn't have a problem reliving it every day for a year! Then you need to find someone to talk to (don't just go to church, ask for a spititual counselor) to help you work through this with or without him. You love him and don't want to leave him then you need to find peace with what he's done and learn how to trust him again.

But don't cheat, because two wrongs do not make it right. But there's nthing wrong with a little harmless flirtation to make a girl feel desirable!

bob g

email me and I will tell how my similar situtaion was handled

Vic

I dont' think its the answer. Two wrongs don't make a right. Think about that decision, it would only make things worst. It sounds like you haven't moved on and still are hurtful or need some sort of closure. If he is willing to move foward and your not, sounds like you need help. Get it, but cheating on him is not the answer.

Justis101

You can't change the fact that he cheated. You can only control yourself, and therefore only you can only decide whether to foregive him. But, if you can't foregive, then it's time to move on with honesty and dignity, so I suggest forget about the cheating part.

Dont cheat and stoop to that level.. I think you should seperate and possibly divorce. If you meet someone else down the road would you let him know that you have cheated before while married.. regardless of the state of the marriage. You have to be fine first your child will be fine you will both put him first to make sure of that.

Find someone who will care and apprecitate what it means to be with someone and love them. Dont be like your husband be you...good luck girl.

La Chica Loca

Noo sweetie!!!! You wouldn't feel any better, only worse! Trust me! The best thing to do is either persist in working it out with your husband or seperate for a bit. You have to think about your child here. I know it hurts and the trust is probably gone, but please don't make your child pay for what your husband bought. Stay strong sweetie!

arizonaprincess2

i guess you have to do what you need to do to get over this

Why not me

Remember how you felt when he cheated on you, & stop thinking that way. Cheating will never be the answer & it won't make feel better about your situation. As far as him not wanting to re-live the experience, that's BS. He needs to understand his actions caused your pain, it's not about him! "re-live" it's about the marriage, doing what's right for the marriage. You wanting to go to counseling is what you need to live up to your end end of the marriage, tell him stright out. You can get on the bus & ride with me, are you can get thrown under. He's already planted the "broken" marriage seed. By cheating on you, all you're trying to do is honor him (for better or worse). If he can't respect that. Then my advice to you is. Don't waste your time on someone, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

Mr nice guy 2U

cheating will not make anything better. I cant imagine you would be happy with yourself so then you will have 2 hurts to deal with what he did and what you did. My wife cheated on me and it took me 3 years for the hurt to subside. I did not cheat cause I know I would have a very hard time with the guilt. Before she cheated I would have said the guilt would kill me. See what happens? My heart scared as it healed. Yours will too, but 2 wrongs never make a right. Your relationship is screwed up cause it now has 3 people...just imagine what it will be like with 4

Two wrongs do not make it right.

Why make a bad situation even worse?

If he won't go to counseling, go by yourself, none of us are qualified to make this call. But Cheating is never a good idea.

Good Luck and God Bless!

Staci S

you say you love him... but the real question is: are you IN LOVE with him? that makes a big difference.

don't swoop down to his level... just slap him with the divorce papers - if the trust is already broken, then it'll be very difficult to gain that trust back.

April

Two wrongs don't make a right, hon, but once a cheater, always one......And for sure, NEVER get involved with anyone in the workplace.... you become the gossip of the entire office... not a good thing. If your husband won't seek some counseling, you ought to get a few sessions.... it is unhealthy for your marriage to seek revenge. And, maybe this marriage is over, and you don't even know it.

Goldman

Do not copy when you think something or someone is wrong. That won't make difference to anyone or anything but only you. You will become wrong by following wrong

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