Should i leave?

VICTOR H

you need counseling, tell him this and if he will not agree then it is time to walk, even if it is for a cooling off period. you have a obligation to your children to try and make this marriage work however this is not a healthy environment for any of you.
try and think back to when this behavior started and maybe this will give you some clue as to what went wrong....good luck.

the_morris_bears

If it is a recent development like you state you may want to adress it with him and see if you can correct this behavior before it gets worse. I know this sounds hard especially since you love him but make him feel like a second class citizen at home. Show him how it feels to not have time to talk and not have time to do with him. Honestly take the computer away turn off the internet or block it that way he has to talk to you. As for his anger at you and manipulation of the facts well I'm afraid to say this but if you find a man who doesn't turn it around (or a woman for that matter) you have found a true decendant of god because we all do it. You just need him to see things the way you do and make him aware that it is his actions that make you feel that way.
Good Luck,
Momma_Bear

Tori

Take your kids and leave.

L.K. Duh

OH, sure! After several years of marriage and two children NOW you complain about married life.

Look, don't make any decision based on the knuckleheads in Yahoo Answers. You didn't do more than lob a small complaint and you've got a queue of ppl telling you to break up your family and split.

We really know nothing of you or your situation.

Find yourself a trusted counselor. A real-life person, not an internet meme. You and your hubby can benefit from the conversations that will help each of you re-align your expectations for married life, parenting, and growing old together.

You should expect that marriage includes times like these AND it gives you the basis for resolving issues and improving your lives.

GiGi

tell him how you feel..try marriage consoling if that dont work.

Chris

I'm sorry you feel like that it can be hard. Marriage isn't as exciting as we think it is...kinda boring at times. But to be honest you can't blame him for working just like he shouldn't blame you for being at home on yahoo answers. Sometimes talking doesn't seem to work if neither of you are willing to bend a little. My advice if you can stomach it, is to simply make a list of the 10 most common things he complains about, and the 10 most common things you complain about him (action or words). Then mark it off each day for each time you didn't do what he wanted, and he didn't do what you wanted (verbal or action).

Once you have a tickler you can look at it objectively from a distance and see what you marriage is worth to you on paper. Then the next week do the same only this time try not to do the things he doesn't like as much. If you did something he hates 10 times last week, try 8 this week. You'll see as you focus on the problems you wrote down they will improve (not go away). Then compliment him on his improvements when he makes them, if he wakes up late at noon on Sat but this week he woke up at 11, thank him (sincerely). You'll find that consideration can go a long way.

LovinMyVirgoBaby

It depends on your situation. If you have somewhere to go, go. I know I'd never leave my daughter behind, so if I were to leave, I'd make sure I was able to take care of her myself if need be. Everyone deserves to be happy, and everyone deserves respect from the person they share their bed with. If it was me, I'd be gone.

brabbit

I already know that there is a lot of factors not mentioned here. But let me just tell you Marriage is work! You have to TRY. go to a free marriage counselor at a church. Take a second honey moon! Because it just sounds like stress. And guess what, you gonna get into a lot of spats over the years, but before you consider walking away, explore other options to help your marriage.

ilikefood

Talk to him about it first, if you can.

sneekerz32

Ma'm. I'm a certified guidance counselor at an elementary school and this is quite easy. Ma'm I'm going to have to ask you to recline in your seat for a second and just take this all in. Now whoever said life was easy ma'm, wasn't living... i.e. Shakespeare, George Washington, and my fellow colleagues. Now ma'm if you want to go on a walk, go ahead and grab a leash and take your kid for one. Realize that the kid may run ahead but it will soon know its restraints. As for your husband. He just needs some lovin'. Thank you come again.

Fox

Not yet. Find a way to get him alone if need be hide his work, stand in front of the tv, unplug the phone, as his wife and as a person you deserve at the very least the respect of an adult conversation. You need to really have him put all things aside and give you the attention you deserve, if you can't get it through his head, try convincing him to go to a couples therapist, maybe a mediator will get him to listen better. If you love this man give him a real chance to realize how blind and stupid he's being.

KelCee

Aw. Well I think if ur not happy then leave him.

red robin

say good bye, he wants his space give it to him

cope_acetic

I say DON'T leave--
Make HIM leave!!!

hersheybar99

leave

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Maybe you should try to find out what's going on with him..talk to him about other things in life and what he's looking for and worried about..maybe you should take some time to fall in love again, but marriage is hard. Don't just walk away from it..

Emma B

This is no way of life. U need to leave at least temporarily, to give this guy the shock he needs... bring the kids to a friends, or a relatives. I can tell by your rant that youre an insightful and intelligent woman. Use the strongest part of urself to deal with this. It doesnt look good but hopefully he will come around and if not - onto the next. These days its not hard to start afresh, kids and all. Good luck xx

dmc.fanatic

I think you already know the answer to this and that you just need to hear it from other people. Yes, you should leave him. Don't let him push you around.

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Lv Dr. 4U

Talk to him, have a sit-down heart-to-heart!

â™¥hope2bmommyâ™¥

I'm sorry you are being treated that way, I have been in your shoes before with my husband, but eventually things worked out I hope your hubby realizes it's not nice the way he is treating you now about you leaving I think you should really think about it only you know what kind of man he really is sorry i wasn't much help for you. Good Luck!!!!

Young Married C

Try putting yourself in his shoes and seeing what is going wrong...probably you did something in the past or present which he didnâ€™t like and now this is happening, there is always a reason if people change......if he was not like this and recently became like that, I am sure there is more to this story then what it appears and the best person to tell is you, right now I would suggest to lay low because the more you try to remove the truth, the more it will aggravate the situation, leaving and going should be your last option, give him some time, even after that that you feel it is not improving , get a job, might be a part time job, get it and then leave, you have kids and things donâ€™t come free in this world.

Sammie Lovely

yes you should it sounds like you aren't getting any respect and a relationship is about being fair and being equal. Stay with him for a little longer but if he lays a hand on you then call the police an that should be the last straw!

You & Me Got Endless Love.

no give him a chance and talk to him about it and besides you have 2 kids to think of

Mary

I don't think based on that you should leave. I think these things you just listed are things that can be worked out either with a counselor, or a nice vacation with just the too of you, and then allow yourself to be vulnerable and talk about things with each other.

Kat n

i would go to counseling but if that doesn't work i would leave you are not his slave!!!

Mia S

Yes.

darwin e

marriage life shouldn't be like that. i'm sorry he acts that way. have you thought of professional counseling?

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