Should i stay with my husband?

Ok me and my husband are both in college he is 25 and I am 24 and I will be graduating this year. We got married this year on march 20th, we have been together 12 years. But I am wondering if I should stay with him because this year has been a roller costar ride with my husband. He was diagnosed with Epilepsy and that has been a whirl wind and he also has adhd, bi-polar, PTSD and sever depression. And his moods have not been stable. Since they are tinkering with his meds a lot and I had to have him baker acted last night, because he was very suicidal and I learned he had been cutting himself. And I love my husband more then anything I have ever loved before but I am also pregnant with twins which are due on august 13th. My husband has never been violent or anything like that. Its just all of this is so overwhelming and I am confused as hell. I just feel like marrying him was a mistake even though I love him so much. Advise?

It's a sure thing

Through sickness and health right? He needs you and you need to do everything you can to help him. I don't think it's fair to walk away from a marriage when you haven't put everything you've got into it. Plus, you have been with him for 12 years..all these problems couldn't have come up in a months time??? Give some time for the docs to straighten up his meds!

RandomChick

Marrige is for better or worse right?

CNM

The disorders you are describing are not some that just popped up. You've been with him 12 years, you say, and it was never a problem before? You did know this about him when you married him, right? It sounds like you are probably going through a lot, especially being pregnant while all this is going on, but you don't run from a marriage at the first rough patch that comes along.

melissa

you need counseling now....and you are pregnant with twins? do you know how hard it is to take care of twins and someone who is sick? You need all the help you can get, your family needs to step up, you are really gonna need them. As far as you staying with your husband, didnt you know what you were getting into? Would he leave you?

Fonz

Did they skip the parts that said "for better or WORSE and in Sickness and health"? Have you considered getting him help or just dumping him? I would do more for my dog that you for your supposed mate..
My advise to him would be to get as far away from you as possible. There is nothing worse that having someone that you think you can count on but, really can't.

Well if you feel like it was a mistake and you arent ready then leave him. Sometimes you have to do what is best for you. If he isnt the man you thought he was than leave him and never speak to him again.
But understand if you leave him now you will never get him back. Make sure you really can live without him.

oldmarine08

"I love my husband more then anything I have ever loved before"...this says it all...you wither do or you don't!

mike

He needs you more now than before...this will take sacrifice and understanding on your part.You love him so through that love things will become easernot the same time will help understand what he is going through as well

kitty

PTSD, bi-polar, depression suicide? Psychologists have to go to school to learn how to deal with this, how can you without some days wanting to pull your hair out? That is a lot for a person to handle, stress sounding and that isn't my life. You are a strong woman because you have been with him for twelve yrs and even though he was recently diagnosed I am sure you saw signs. You love him, so that's a good base to begin with, but love isn't a cure all.

If you are feeling overwhelmed find an online support group. Share your story with people who are in the same situation you are in. This is a good site http://www.dailystrength.org/

Talk with his doc to see if they can offer coping advice.

Good luck.

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