Should i take her back...?

bg4gb

The next time you maturbate, make a note of which girl you were thinking about. Stay with that girl, but don't marry her. You're not ready for any kind of committed relationship.

ghostwriter

Option 4 - (you left out)
Meet the new girl since you really don't know where this is going. Your girlfriend is busy taking care of her life (without you). Why 3 months? She's a wack job. How can anyone say they'll be ok in 3 months?

She's playing you and for you to wait if foolish.
Go out with the new girl and see where it goes. You'll know better in the 3 months and will not be waiting for her to show up and want you back.
What are you going to do if after 3 months she says she has decided to blow you off? Fall to pieces all over again.
Get on with life.

twelfntwelf3

retox

Don't go back to the ex - it rarely works and you will only be waiting for the moment when she "gets scared" again. Let her go and move on. She sounds like she will mess you around. If you truly love someone you don't go around asking people to wait until you have a job.

Mephisto

NO1 left leave when the going got tough
she will do it again
no2 does not deserve this treatment

punxsutawney phil

Ditch the old one. She has no respect for you. She is using you to suit her own methods.

rpetch007

scott dont wait ... at all... go for the new one the one that got away is unable to be with you now so why wait..

ChocLover

Find someone else

misskitti7Â®

number 2,

she dumped you once she could do it again, just tell her that you have found someone else and your happy and sorry, get her back for what she did to you

regards x kitti x

slimgoodie166

. if the 2 year relationship mean any thing to her why did she call it off if you love some one it's heard to call off a relationship 2 years is a long time. I think she has some one and just keep you on hold in case things don't work out, by the way how do you no if she cheated or not.she broke up with you right find out before she hurt you're heart again

kim h

#2. I would not wait on her. What does a job have to do with anything. We all juggle relationships, jobs, family, kids and a ton of other things and still manage. She is trying to keep you in the wings in case whatever it is she is trying does not work out. She wants a back up. You deserve better. This new girl might be perfect for you. Give her a chance. Good luck.

Dreamer

Don't just be readily available when the ex comes back. She left, let her suffer a little to see if YOU want HER back. When people dump others they know the pain they are inflicting, but they still go ahead and do it anyway. She didn't think of you, just herself. So I would say, continue to see the new girl and when the ex comes back meet with her once in a while, at your convenience and when you're not seeing the new girl. Do not move in with the ex, but take the time to explore your options. How do you know she wont leave again. Don't be, or act desperate whatever you do.

Justme

Scott, none of the above.

You need to keep your options open. You said you still love your ex and that's good so still keep in touch with her, but there's nothing wrong with also keeping in touch with the other girl friend. Anything could happen in three months, your ex could change her mind again. I suggest keeping in touch with both and be up front with you ex and tell her is she asked. After all your friend is just a friend.

Best of luck with it all.

bettysr2002

For now just enjoy ur single life. U can't sit around waisting ur life waiting for someone just because they say they will come back to you. Over those three months things could change they way both of u feel about each other. I dont think u should forget about her but keep ur eyes open. if u want to talk to the other girl then do so and see what happens...ur heart will tell u what it feels and if u and ur ex are meant to be then it will happen but dont waste 3 months of ur life just sitting there not doing anything. LOVE CONQUERS ALL! AND ONLY TIME WILL TELL
GOOD LUCK!

samy d

Hey u seems to be lost. One who can dump u after two years whats the gurantee she won't do the same again. cahrt out a new course its safer and of ur choice

Protik Maitra

You girlfriend is fickle minded and not really ready for a committed relationship. You did not abuse her, did not cheat on her and yet she left. So it is her fault.

I suggest, meet this new girl, tell her the entire truth and tell her that you do not want to use her. She will trust you more for your honesty. Do not sleep with her yet but you may see each other at the cafe or something.

Wait till 3 months are over. Then you can decide whether to take back the girl who left you for no reason, or you want to hit it with your new found love!

Good luck!

DASHLOC4ever

The ex treated you like crap, dumped you for no reason, now she wants to string you along.

She does not want to have a relationship with you but she does not want you to move along. She is trying to keep you around as a spare or as a kind of property.

Make a clean break with her and see what happens with the new one.

The new girl might not be Miss Right but at least you do not know for sure she is a vindictive ***** like the other one.

Well, said Alberto

Option 2. Go back now & this kind of thing will just happen again later - only next time, it'll feel even worse.

Anyway, good luck with whatever you choose.

Catwhiskers

It should be an easy decision. Your ex has treated you like dirt. Ditch her. Shes obviously got wind that you have been seeing someone else and is jealous, thats the reason she is saying for you to wait 3 months. Plus she dumped you on msn for goodness sake, that should be good enough reason never to take her back.

Addicted2Rock

First of all, does your ex know about this new girl?? If so, then maybe that is the only reason she is sniffing around again... you know the old saying 'you don't know what you got till it's gone'.

However, if she knows nothing about this new girl, then maybe she really does want to try again. I have to say number 1 and 3 are bad answers - either way, you are deceiving the new girl, and that isn't fair. She doesn't deserve that. If you are emotionally unavailable to her - tell her. Don't string her along.

I personally think number 2 is the best option, however, only you know how you feel, and if you are still in love with your ex - then you need to take it no further with his new girl. Be fair to all involved... it's called 'karma' :) Good luck :)

sfjadeia

do what you feels is right in your heart. if you want to risk staying with someone who might get scared again, then go with the ex. if you want to be with someone who has the potential to be a great partner, open your heart and start dating. your ex had turned her back on the two years you guys had together. do you think you can trust her again?

Pagan Pip

None of the above.
I've emailed you the answer now - I couldn't get int to edit it before.. sorry about that!

kyliekissesx

She could change her mind again, but if you think she's worth it, take the risk.

Well, it's not that difficult really.
Your ex treated you really badly; Fair enough, people do get scared and because of that they behave in the most weird way sometimes.
Now, you did manage to pull yourself together and it wasn't thanks to her.
She sent you packing with a text message, after two years???
Now, she wants you to put your life on hold for 3 months while SHE gets herself ready?

Well, you two probably needed a break anyway, but the way she went about it wasn't mature in the least.
I think that there'll always be an issue of trust in your relationship if you two were to go back together.
I think that now that you have managed to pick up yourself, AND got some freedom, keep it.

Your girlfriend was not ready fort a commitment, but, this still doesn't explain the way she let you down after a two year relationship. She is not reliable, and I don't think she deserved a second chance on that basis.

Still, you've been to hell yourself when you've been dumped, and probably felt used; So, why on earth would you do that to someone else who hasn't done anything to you?
Is it what you learnt from being dumped from your girlfriend?

Well, maybe you do deserve each other after all!

Sesoid

Well, its not really about anything else but what your heart feels. It is normal to get scared now and then, but probably she didnt manage it well enough. If she hasnt done anything wrong and you say you still love her, its unfair on this new girl that you give her false hopes regarding you two, so you should be honest with her and explain the situation as its happening. She will then make the decision on whether to try and gain you, or just leave you alone.

Good luck!

aileen a

You need time too, to heal from a broken relationship. When your ex girlfriend broke up with you, the relationship has probably run its course. Let the relationship end. Don't go back.

If you stay with the new girl, you are on the rebound from the break up. Chances are your relationship with this new girl will not work either, if you still have feelings for your ex...She does not deserve that kind of treatment from you if you just want her to keep you from being lonely.

Find time to grieve first, get over from the past relationship, learn something out of it, find yourself before getting emotionally involve with another girl. Don't go into a relationship just because you are lonely, chances are you might end up hurt again.

You don't need a woman or another person to complete you. You have to be whole again before you could enter into another relationship. Enjoy life. You can be alone but still be happy. Or you can be surrounded by many loved ones, but still be lonely.

lottie

Hmmmm do u love her? If yes then get her bk!

Wait 3 months see if u prefer th other girl!

Star1001

Surely if she wants to be with you she wouldnt want to wait 3 months i would want support if things at work were up in the air not to be on my own!! she just doesnt want you to be with anyone else. i would go with number 2 gd luck.

mrssexyboots

do you really want to be at the beck and call of this woman she is jealous that you have got some one new if i was you i would not Wait the three months that's to much to ask of anyone try seeing where you go with the new girl if it doesn't work with her then you have lost nothing and the other girl will still be in the back ground she has walked of once what is there to say she wont do it again think on this before you make your mind up good luck in the decision you make

mikydotcom@btinternet.com

Nothing to be lost about!! 2nd option is best:))

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