Should i take my ex girlfriend back?
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Should i take my ex girlfriend back?
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Hey everyone how's it going. So I'm definitely stuck in this little conundrum right here. I have what some would call a love triangle, or maybe even a square.
My ex and i dated for near two years, lived together, planned our futures together, our lives were perfect. I had gotten an engagement ring and we were planning our marriage for later this year. It was sunshine and rainbows, until things started going south and the rain wouldn't stop falling. I swear she changed, her entire personality was different.
She would pick fights over nothing, tear my down and break my heart over small stupid ****, just so she could feel better about the whole thing. She would lie to me about where she was going, meeting new guys both in person and over the internet, and she would pretend like she was single with them.
She was also very disrespectful and unbelievably ungrateful for the home, the food, the clothes, and the hard earned money i gave to her. she had it made with me, yet every few days there was a giant blow up about something so small.
We had a few rocky moments and she broke it off several times. I found out that on at least two occasions she went and slept with another guy, and then came back to me to work things out. Soon after all of this i was fed up with lies and deceit so i broke it off. moved out, changed my phone number, completely left her behind.
I started dating a few new people in the past months, but nobody has quite the same spunk as my ex. Although i do care about these two girls that i have seen, i cannot bring myself to open my heart to them. And i don't allow myself to get serious with them.
One of these girls B and i are so alike its crazy, while C is more of my other half. They both respect and appreciate me. and show me that they care, something my ex was not great at.
I recently started talking to my ex and i told her that it will take a boat full of animals and a miracle to get me to forgive the things she did and the way she treated me, and she claims to be willing to go the distance to do whatever it takes.
So my question comes down to this, do i give her another chance? Her 4th or 5th one at that? And do i do it because i love her, and that i know I'm not the same person without her.
Or do i move on? do i tell her she had her opportunities over and over to love me and let me love her? Do i travel this long empty road alone until the day i can find somebody as special as her?
BECAUSE I'M NOT QUITE SURE I WILL, she was my angel for a reason.
Thanks a lot guys, please any advice is welcome
:-)
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It wasnt always just her with the fighting, sometimes i provoked it, but she has admitted to being a little psychotic.
What we had was special, and that will not ever be replaced. I know that i will start something special with someone else, but there is still a part of me that feels we are soulmates.
She cries that she has changed. That she cant go another day without me. And that there is no guy that would ever match up to what i am. How do you turn away the girl you would die for?
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Em C
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I'm sorry, but she doesn't sound that special to me. I don't think she will change her behavior with you. She will continue to take advantage of you and keep begging when she messes up again. It is better for you in the long run to just not talk to her like you did before. She had her chances, she will have to live with the lose, learn from it and hopfully when she is ready to move on won't treat someone as badly as she has treated you. You will find someone again. I never thought I would after my divorce, and I dated a lot of guys and none of them were quite right for me.. they were all nice and great people but were not for me, until recently, I found someone perfect for me, and who says I'm perfect for him. We are not perfect people, but the faluts we both have are things each of us can accept. She'll come into your life when the time is right and you'll realize she is more than you can imagen, and you'll feel ridicilous for even considering getting back with your ex. |
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♫ Mad Luv ♫
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my motto if you have to ask the answer is no!
that and i never redated.. if it didn't work out the first and we spilt who's to say one fight and your out the door agina!
no thanks!
i find someone else to hurt me! im not going to hurt myself! |
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Nena S
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Exes are exes for good reasons. |
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Pinki N
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sorry to say but no |
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smallcocklongtongue4444
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if you take her back they should put your picture next to the word wuss in the dictionary. |
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cc
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First, put a shirt on. Second, you seem to blame her for everything. There are two sides to every coin. No relationship will work with her or anyone else unless you accept responsibility for your part in the mess. You seem much more concerned with what a woman has to offer you than vice versa. Perhaps that's the real problem--not whether "A", "B", or "C" is good enough to be graced with your wonderfulness and perfection. |
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Ivo C
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Hey I have been on the same ship before. Here is a fair warning...she won't change. I have given my ex dozen of chances...and just when you think they truly are sorry and they forgive them...bam they do the same s**t again. Trust me I did the same thing, changed my number etc. etc. But one thing is...I couldn't get over her for atleast 8 months...but now I can truly say I am over her. I recently saw her at a store and talked maybe 5 minutes with her but that was it. Recently found out she ahd 3 boyfirends during the 8 month span and treated them the very same way.
SHE WON"T CHANGE....I FELL FOR THE TEARS TOO MANY TIMES BEFORE I LEARNED MY LESSON. YOUR POCKETS WILL JUST KEEP GETTING EMPTIER AND THE B***CH WILL BE THE SAME HO AS UAUAL. TRUST ME |
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pfmohr2
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Honestly man, I just went through a very, very similar situation so I feel you on this. The bottom line is that she took you for granted to the point that she was basically ******* around on you (those breakups were probably so that she could **** these other guys and not feel guilty). She was basically dating around while she was with you (the guys she was meeting). She just wanted to shop around, keeping you there in case she didn't find anything. She wasn't grateful for all that you did for her. Once you were gone, she realized what she was missing. I know you guys probably had something really special, but she ruined that. Going back to her, things will never be the same. Sure, they might be nice at first, but nobody really changes, guys or girls. You're still the same person, and so is she.
Look man, as hard as it is gonna be you need to let her go. Taking her back is only going to open old wounds and hurt you. She had her chance, and she ruined it.
You deserve better. |
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Britney
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Well my answer is give her another chance : |
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