Should i take my husband back?

a1tommyL

get over him. a leopard does not change it's spots.

john b

Stay away hun, It will happen again, because if you took him back, then he know he can play you again.

shelly v

Be smart about it.. he only wants you right now at this time because, whatever He was doing did not work out..... you owe it to yourself to move on because, he is not going to change..thats the problem with some people... they never move on and wonder why their relationship is messed up. Duh!!

disturbed

Move on with your life as much as you can, It will never get any better with him.

pebbles

He wont change. He must not have a girlfriend at the present time so he's going to call and pick on you. It will happen again if you take him back. Tell him to take a hike.

Megan Z

Count your blessings sweety and cut the cord. Aparently he has done this more than once and he will keep on. It sounds like he is still a child and doesn't really know what he wants. Trust me, there is someone out there that will love and appreciate you AND your daughter so much more than he ever could. Good Luck!!

Wondrin Dude

Your over the initial hurt; don't put yourself through it again.
I know you love him and you have to determine if it's worth the risk of re-living the pain if it happens again. If your up to that, then yes give him another chance. It could work out, never know. But history has a habit of happening more than once.

freeman3905@sbcglobal.net

no no don't go back. he will hurt you it will happen again

Jaymeister

You know the old story: the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Don't let him anywhere near you.

-----JAFO----

Never not in a million years should you go near this animal who has no self control and only makes evolution take that much longer .

reifguy

well u sound way better than him ,if u never had any other man when married to him ,u r too good for him ,let him go,if u r into both on and off relations u r one of a type ,so get him back ,sorry for the too hard comment but its the truth.

Mrs.Neville

don't take him back, he will only hurt you again and it sounds as though you have suffered enough. focus on your daughter :) good luck.

Gasman

Don't do it. He's a loser.

rhorho

Love is not enough! He left when you were out of the country! He is a coward! Be strong for yourself and your daughter! This is your defining moment with your daughter as well. Are you going to let him back in to your lives so he can hurt you again or maybe worse he may hurt your daughter. He has no respect for your family unit and he is just trying to get back in because he sees that you have moved on and are doing well without him. You and your daughter are just his posessions! Set an example for your daughter, and make him stay out. Show her that what he did was not o.k and that just because you love somebody doesn't mean that they are right for you. Most importantly show her that you are not only a strong Mom but a strong woman, that deserves to be happy and deserves to be in a relationship that is respectful and equal. Take care and stay strong!

Roger W

I believe in reconciliation when ever possible. But what I did not get from you was how do you know He has changed. Without Him making a serious change the same thing will happen again.
Saying I am sorry is a starting place not the conclusion. If you are wanting to reconcile with him There needs to be some actions on his part to show you he is a different man. You know that to keep doing the same thing expecting different results is insanity The both of you will need counseling

Dr Dee

You have trusted him before and got screwed over. Tell him to move if he still loves you.

canuticklemepink

I guess if you still want to keep thinking about him and writing this type of stuff take him back and keep going through the same life style.
On the other hand sounds like you have wasted enough time on with him so give it up let him go and move on.
Life is to short to waste any more time. Good luck

Common Sense

Nope..Don't let him back in your life.

jude

don't do it unless u want more heartache,judging from his past behavior, and the facts that there have been many affairs, he is certain to do it again. those who fail to remember the past are doomed to repeat it.

tx_earthangel

I would not accept him back. He obviously did not have enough respect for you to work this out when you were home and rather "chickened out" when you were visiting family and moved. You have created a new life for yourself which has taken a lot of hard work on your part and now he wants to come back into the easy part of life. You stated that "you love him" and you will always have a connection between the two of you because of your daughter. If for any reason you do decide to take him back, go to consueling before he moves back in and work it out there. Do not try once he's moved back in. Please do not go back to him just because of the child. It only hurts everyone in the process and leaves the child more emotionally wrecked than the parents.

smeezleme

You have been through hell with this man--don't go back and do it all over again! Stay where you are--you have fianlly gotten your life back and have yourself established for you and your child. It's not fair to take a child and chase someone who's probably not going to be there long anyway. If he's so serious--make him come to you. Stand your ground and don't move.

Esma

You should absolutely NOT take him back. He is a bad person, frankly. He cheated on you and then ran out on you and your baby.

Do you want your daughter to grow up with this as her only example of how women should be treated? If you stay with him, she will follow suit when and if she has abusive relationships in the future. And, yes, this is a kind of abuse.

Anita P

NEVER!! These kind of guys NEVER change!!
Please donâ€™t throw away your own happiness and your new life for somebody who has did you so much harm and will be doing it again to you in the future...
You still feel love for him? I understand that, because we are human beings and nobody can change what somebody feels from one moment to the next one...
But youâ€™ll get over it and Iâ€™m sure, that there are many men out there who will be happy to get to know you: A strong, intelligent and independent lady.
Be strong and think of your future and the future of your child. You donâ€™t do a favour to your child if you go back to a rotten relationship.
Life is too beautiful to throw it away for nothing....

rockylike007

Why you want repeat the history again, Now you are quite settled, Than why you want that old bad days to come again.

Smriti

It sounds crazy but sometimes you are so helpless because of your own heart. I think it will be better if yo can just go and visit him instead of inviting him to your place. It's just 15 days right! May be that can give you both a chance to talk about your future and clear out everything.

stacy

How is it possible to love someone who treats you like this?

mom_single_sexy

do not take him back. he will not change, once a cheater always a cheater, you have made it this long without him and you will continue to make it without him.

Bouvier

GOOD GOD! you are actually thinking of taking a habitual cheater back, exposing your daughter to that type of man??? It's bad enough that you do not have enough confidence in yourself to tell him to pack sand. He's the rat, you are the one who is allowing him to be a rat. You give him 2nd, 3rd, and more chances. He repeats his behavior, ABANDONED YOUR DAUGHTER, Think of her. Sounds to me like you are rebuilding your life, keep it up, and think of him as a financial support only until he grows the hell up!

kitty jenny

never

keyman_o

Once bitten is twice shy. Evaluate why he left you in the first place, no honourable man would simply leave his family for anything trivial. Then evaluate how serious he is this time. Has he explained both these things to you to justify his first step of leaving and the subsequent step towards coming back? Are you actually convinced? Please be 100% sure before you invite the trouble back.

gen2

NO-NO-NO.U should kick your dog husband aways n come to me.l'll take care of u sweatheart.

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