Should i tell him or not?

Willow

You should tell him, better you telling him then someone else telling him, then if he does get mad, he'll be even more mad if he found out from somone else

Cadee

You should probably confess. If he hears it from you, he could be upset, but would get over it. If he hears it from someone else, he could wonder for the rest of your relationship why you never told him.

Puppy808

Do whatever you think is right.

micheanimeart

confess, but do it over the phone while your at your parents house.

Angel

If you want to make this relationship work, you`ll have to tell him because sooner or later he will find out and it will be much worse.
There is nothing to fear since you did this before you met him.
Just say you waited for a perfect time to tell him.
Mention you`re telling him because you trust him and want to make it work
On the other hand, if both situations could make him angry, what do you have to loose?
Confess :)

Mummy to Dexter (05/01/2009)

Its up to you but at the end of the day its was years and years ago before you even got with your 1st husband never mind your partner so its not like your hiding anything, you dont have to tell your partner about every single partner in the past youve dont nothing wrong xx

under a knife

say i want you to hear this from me only... and then say that if you love me you'll understand and wont care much that i didnt tell you earlier and im really sorry but ...x

something along those lines anyway
if he gets in a temper say im sorry but i was afraid of you getting angry and i really like you!

aleen

follow your heart and do the right thing

Prince N

yea like puppy said do what ever is right for you

**Loving Me**

honestest is best n this situation i think especially if it's that small of a town

dubcgal

For a good relationship to work out, there should be no secrets. Gently tell him about that man, and say your sorry you didn't tell him before, and it's a mistake. You partner will understand, don't worry.

BeeDee

tell him but it was along time ago so i cant see why he would have that big of a problem with it

gina67000

Tell Him..What you did in the past is in the past..It would be stupit for him to get upset about it ..But honesty is the best thing for a relationship..If you don't tell him someone else might

musicmom

Honesty is the best route. He will be angry if he finds out from someone else. If he truly loves you and cares for you he will be forgiving.

blah

just tell him the truth gently. u cant hide it and im sure he'd rather find out from you than from someone else. if he truly loves you he will look past it and you will have nothing to fear. he may get upset that you didn't tell him sooner but better late than never.

it is me ! Leo

Do what you feel in your Heart is true, Don't tell him if you have asked for forgiveness from God it is in the past and you should let it go and move onward and just keep doing the best you can from now on.

pedebeed

The past is the past! Everyone makes some sort of mistakes,just like everyone else. It would seem that you made the best of things and moved on with your life for the better. Your not in some sort of TV show and controversy of "He said,She said" is cleared up in an hour. People who are not happy with themselves cause problems such as these. Who cares if someone says something, and confess to what? Your partner was not with you with you at that time of your life. Be strong! And if he asks, just tell him you live and learn.

seconddayhero

Tell him gently. Be considerate about it.

mickey

i think u should tell him, yea he'll prolly be mad u didnt tell him sooner but hell be even more angry if he finds out from sum1 else

Kiera H

Go ahead and tell him. It is better he hears it from you than from the town gossip.

shellybean832003

I think you should tell him before someone else does. If it was a long time ago, the past is the past. Everyone does things that regret. If he really cares about you, he should get over it. But don't let him hear from someone else, it should come from you, so when they do say something to him, he can respond correctly in saying I know, she told me, so what, that's the past. If you don't tell him, he may be embarrassed and develop trust issues.

MR Hole,

tell him, you did what you did,so what?.honesty is Always the best policy

Atalanta

I don't see why he or anyone else would think it any of their business to know what you did before you even knew your husband. Unless you had some kind of solemn agreement when you both shared details of every single lover both of you had ever had.
It is pretty arrogant of a man to expect to control a woman before he even meets her, let alone giving himself the right to get mad over her past before then !!!
Just refuse to consider it. It is past and gone.
On your wedding day, he swore to take you for better or for worse, from this day forwards.
That doesn't include this day backwards.
The future is for you to share, the past is for you ( and everyone else) to forget.

Ammo

Basically this all happened before you met your partner and it is in the past - if you feel you should tell him just explain that you were embarrassed about what happened and rather than tell him you just wanted to forget about it. We all have a past and some of the people we have been with are people that we are not proud of but it's life. I personally would prefer to hear something like that from someone I was with and not a friend!

duckyyoface

do w/e u think would be the rite thing to do

ann3lizz

if he asked you how many guys did you had, how many did you slept with and you kept him out, than yes, but if you didn't discuss who your other partners were.. i see no problem. If you think he'll find out anyway and he'll be upset.. just admit it now.

nyteflame7

Hang on, this was from not only BEFORE him, but also before your previous husband?

Honey, why would your current guy need to know about something that happened that long ago? He knows you have a past, he has one too. You can't have been the only girl he has ever dated.

I really don't think it's any of his business.

That said, secrets are a bad thing, and if he asks, you need to be upfront about it.

It's not something to "confess", because you haven't done anything wrong. It's not like you cheated on your guy. It's not like guys these days expect girls to be virgins until they are married.

Why would your bf be mad if you didn't tell him? Why would he need to know about every partner you have ever had?

I certainly wouldn't expect my BF to tell me about every girl he has ever been with. My only concern is that he never cheats on me, and that he has no STDs from past encounters. Beyond that, it's not my business.

I wont say I wouldn't be curious...*shrug*

I would think that most guys would feel the same way about their girls.

sux_2b_ewe

You should definitely tell your partner. They may not like what you did with that guy when you were younger, but that isn't reason to compound it by lying (omission of the truth is lying). If you don't tell them, then they'll be angry with you for the lie as well, while if you do tell them, then they can only be angry about you having had that one night stand. Also, what you did was a long time ago, but you hiding this truth from him is something you are doing right now. It's easier to forgive something long in the past than it is to forgive something in the present, especially since you aren't the same person you used to be.

Those who are telling you not to tell him because what you did in the past isn't his business are wrong. Besides the fact that everything you've done has led up to you being the person you are today, so naturally everything you've done matters, there's also the fact that he is bound to find out. So your past will definitely come to affect his present because of this. Anything you've done which could affect the person you're with today is that person's business.

Mark K

just telll them the truth and do the right thing

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