Should married women work?

Agent99

honey this is the 2008 woman can do what they want

Starshine

Fighting and infidelity depends on the people, not if you work or not. Only you and your husband can decide what is right for you and it sounds like he is supportive of you working. It will give you more income to do the things you want to do now and to build a nest egg for a more secure future. You could always stop working later if/when yall decide to have children.

Mrs. Duncan

Working married women these days are normal. I think if you are worried about infidelity and divorce, you don't need to worry about the job, but your marriage and your relationship.

Megan B

Seriously, it is 2008 and most couples cannot afford for both people to not be working. I make the most in my marriage so that is certainly out of the question. I don't understand how working could be unhealthy unless it is a job that takes up all your time and energy. In fact, having a job makes me feel really good about myself because I am contributing to my marriage and society.

talarknhansum

Are you trying to find an excuse on the net , so you would not work.
Here's one . If I had good income then I would not allow my wife to work .
If I had good income no children I would make her work and once the baby come that's it.
There are a lot of women working and are loyal and good wives.Sure some extra $$$ is always good .save it for a rainy day.You are 20 work till you are 25 have a baby then save all the money and you will be glad you did that.

Owen E

It is very common and almost necessary nowadays for the wife to work. Everything costs more and if you do not have kids or not thinking of having any anytime soon get a JOB. It is your respinsibilty to help pay baills and make life easier for the twoof you do not leave it all to him. If you do not want to work better make sure that house is spotless like eat off the floors kind of clean.

You should fell good making some moeny for your marriage. Only your and you hubby can make the choice if you working will destroy anything. Stop with the paranoia and just live your life.

My wife has worked full-time and is now a full-time student and we have been married over 8yrs stop listening to this crap marriage is what you make it everything is hardwork and two incomes will always be better then one.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

wishbone..

I firmly believe this world would be a better place if every husband worked and every wife stayed home with the kids. But we all do what we have to.

BlondieW

wow u sound just like me i am 20 also and so is my husband and i don't work and my husband has a good paying job. yeah i wanna get a part time job just to make a lil more money and there is nothing wrong w/ that i don't think it will cause problems u guys should trust each other. it is healthy for u to work.

Tina

Your husband is asking you to help so that you can achieve the goals you have. If you don't work he is going to end up resenting you...so you had better get your butt out there and find a job to help him out!!

Lucy

I have a friend who is perfectly content with staying home all day, cleaning, cooking and taking care of kids. Nothing brings her more joy then catering to her husband and keeping her appearance up- she's generally upbeat and happy.

I stayed home for 6 months after having my son. I damn near went crazy by the end of 6 months. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and I love taking care of them, but I NEED to go to work. I NEED to have a career, a life separate from running a home. It's what fulfills me and keeps me happy and upbeat.

What me and my friend have in common is that we both figured out what makes us happy (as a side note- her husband actually wants her to work). So it's up to you, because either way hubby is stuck with you, do you want to work? If not, then don't. Nice to be married.

Riderya

Of course get out there and get a job and help your hubby in achieving both your goals. You can stay at home when kids start coming along.

Paul&Fran

Just a mans opinion here...If there are no kids i see no reason to not work for the extra money.. When a child arrives if you have the funds to stay home and this is yalls choice then go for it.. Once a child arrives there is more then enough to do around the house.. As far as the cheating divorce and yada yada if your sitting at home while hes at work that to me is a much easier situation to find a lover...

shatteredDaily

you should defintely work to help him out to reach your goals. he wants nice things and your income will help that. it will also keep you busy and prevent you from being bored and spending money during the days you have nothing to do. i am learning that as a newlywed, we fight more that i quit working six months ago. now i am starting a new job next week. dont worry about it causing divorce, if it gets to that point quit your job.

mommyetc

Working outside the home does not cause divorce. I worked for several years in my marriage before we had our daughter and we felt extremely close to one another and valued the special hours of time we got together every day. The divorce rate in the country is, what, 60% or so? You ALWAYS have to work at your marriage and continue to date your spouse...no matter if your a working wife or a house wife. If a woman or man is going to cheat on their spouse, they are going to find a way to do it regardless of having a job outside of the home...

Look for a job and help support the dreams you have of finishing your house and vehicle...if your husband doesn't want you to have a job outside of the home, count your blessings. But I enjoyed working out of the home before my daughter was born and now that I'm home, I couldn't imagine being anywhere else. In both scenarios, my husband and I are extremely in love.

wildwillyinva

Hi Heather,

If you are interested in keeping up with the Jones' then I would suggest that you stay in school, get your degree and then get a job. Your husband may keep his good paying job now, but you never know what is going to happen tomorrow. You may also note that if you stress your hubby out about not being able to get those nice things, you'll find your self kicked to the curb and have no legs to stand on.

Find what you want to do in life and then go do it.

Ms. GTO

Why don't you have a conversation with your husband about it??

Discuss the pros and cons of working vs. staying home. And as for divorce and infidelity....there is plenty of that going around, whether the wife works or not.
Do what works for both of you.

kill_yr_television

Most people I know consider it quite a luxury to have an able bodied adult living under the roof who is NOT bringing in some income. Why not take a part time job and see how that works? I would think it would be staying home all the time getting lonesome that would cause infidelity, not having a job to keep you busy! Besides, money is good. If you're husband is too insecure to endure his wife having a life of her own, then he needs to grow up.

midnightrambler

In many parts of the country the economic reality is that one income is not enough. For some families one income is not enough to live a certain lifestyle. For other families one income is not enough to keep food on the table and a roof over the families head. A strong marriage based on love can survive this and other trials. The wife working should not create infidelity unless the risk was already there to begin with.

Anna Banana

Where did you hear that a woman working causes divorce? Just my opinion, you're too young to be married if you can't even figure out whether you should work or not.

tamara

well it depends on if you work the same hours or not, if you work different hours you might never see each other and that can cause major problems or at least it did when i worked

DCDARLING

How taught you that you get to sit on your *** while your husband works and you do nothing. Where did you grow up? Poduck, KY? If you guys want to have nice things, you need to do it together. there is NO reason why you should NOT work.

Miss Priss

Seriously!

If ya thought you were mature enough to get married at 20 you should surely know the answer to your question.

jas h

it depend on you ! and this is the first time i hear this .....

NurseBetty

people get divorced for many reasons but the wife going out to contribute to society and her household, is NOT one of them. Where did you get that ridiculous information by the way? That's just absurd.

*~*Fischer's Girl*~*

if you feel like you should go to work then you should. if you have self control you shouldnt worry about devorce. work can strain a marrage but everything usually turns out how its suposed to. good luck hope you figure it all out ok. :)

ChromePlated

The only reason you should go to work is that you want it for yourself. I have always worked and take great satisfaction from the fact that I can and do afford many of the luxuries that my husband and I enjoy. I also believe that work broadens your mind and offers you challenges to grow that staying at home does not. I took two years off from work just for the heck of it (mostly to travel because we can afford to) but I was bored to tears within the first 12 months. I started taking on consulting projects just to have the stimulus of an outside challenge. At 20 I doubt you will understand what I just laid out but if you have any ambition to travel and experience the world on a grander scale than your local supermarket, you will go and find a job that you can enjoy and learn from.

Jessi

uhhmmm this is 2008... yes you can and should contribute to the household... definitely!

free_angel

Think of it this way: Get a job so you and your husband can have a better life together. As for cheating, don't do it.

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