Should my friend come to my house after my husband admitted that he would date her?

Lindsey

It sounds like he is a little over attracted here to be making this comment to his wife. It is nice to have best friends but when you are married it is often best to keep things between you and your husband! Often it is our friends that we need to be carefull about. I would not be including her into to many things where you and your husband are involved. continue a relationship but keep it separate from your marriage. Also spend a lot of intimate time and make things intresting with your husband. Communicate and stay close to him and keep your marriage strong. Best wishes sweetie.

jen_808

Why is that her fault? Maybe you should be worried about what your husband is doing.

janicajayne

And? He's not dating her...why do you feel threatened by her? It's not her fault. Obviously there are serious issues in your relationship with your husband that makes you not trust him. Get couples therapy immediately.

teresathegreat

It's your husband that shouldn't be allowed in the house, not your friend.
It isn't her fault, and it's not fair to punish her or lose a friend just because your husband's a fool.

Twisted Fairy

One of the biggest things that cause problems in marriages is insecurity and mistrust. He's a moron for telling you this, because now you're going to be concerned. How long has she been your best friend? Talk to her...she'll probably be offended. Don't stop having her over, just be cautious.

mrsknowitall

The ? is would she date him

Lil_MissVal

He might feel that way, but does she....Ultimately, he can't date someone that won't date him. I hope he was joking. I also hope that your friend it true enough to you that if you and your husband got a divorce she wouldn't deal with him period....keep an eye on him!!! Good luck!

lyndsey7323

Start marriage counseling. NOW. And don't have her over till you figure out if you want to be married to the guy or not.

You either trust him or you don't. If you don't then keep her away. However, there's nothing stopping him from dating her while you're not around. Better to have her over and watch how they interact.

Maddie and Jacobs mom

i don't think i would be comfortable with that if i was in your shoes.

wolvlynn

I would say if you trust your husband there shouldn't be an issue having your friend over she did nothing wrong. However if your husband is an idiot and would flirt with her or pursue her in any way I would say no. I think it's fine if your husband was just joking or even being honest about thinking your friend was cute or whatever but if you trust him know that you are the woman in his life he has chosen to spend his life with so you have nothing to fear.

subrata

yes and let he experience her.The real taste should come up and then only he will not think to date her.His temptation should not be stopped.That will rather worsen your relation .Take the risk and chances of winning openly are more.

CC Babydoll

I think that would depend on how much you trust your friend and your husband.
True friends are hard to come by and are to be greatly valued.
If you trust them both 100%...sure...if not, then no.

be cool...

luv_badgirls

even though that was not cool to say to u , it's up to your friend to date hime or not

deanorjon

do you trust them together?

There's problems in your relationship and having your friend at home would not be a good idea...first work on your couple problems and then bring her home.

Kitty

I feel this statement is taken out of context here.

tiuliucci

What!?!

If my wife made such a comment to me, I would not worry about the friend. I would have a million questions for her about our marriage.

If your husband is saying that about your best friend, he is looking at other women too and he will eventually cheat. He is not as dedicated to your marriage as a husband should be. He does not respect you and therefore will feel free to cheat.

You might want to re-evaluate your marriage.

Take care,
Troy

shdwtalker2002

Why do women punish men for answering rhetorical questions honestly?

IamherewhenIhavenothingtodo

bf or gf? then tell him you would date someone else if your relationship didn't work. don't make him have the control over the relationship. like he can live without you. make him feel the same way.

Moraima H

I would not let her come over. ThatÂ´s like taking food to the wolves.

Rock H

Would you date any of his friends? If so, does that mean you are going to while you are married? I know my wife would date most of my friends, that's because we have similar likes and interests. If he wouldn't date any of your friends then I would wonder why he is with you.

Barbie

Did u ask him or did he just volunteer this info? If he just came out and stated your friend is hot and if I break up with u ,I am going to hook up with her. Thats lame. HOWEVER..if u asked him say "if we aren't together would u ever date my b/f/f?" and he said "yeah" then I think u have nothing to worry about. It is human nature to either be attracted to people or not. There is nothing wrong with that. You should allow your friend over . For u to be questioning this so deeply I feel like there may be something else in your relationship that may need attention. You are going to drive yourself crazy worrying about it so I would just trust your boyfriend and your best friend. Don't go looking for things a lot of times you will create an issue that isn't even there. Best Wishes.

thirtytwoflavorsandthensome4

I have a tendency to be a jealous person. I have had issues with females trying to move in on my husband, but I have never been concerned about my husband. I can totally understand your fear. I would let your friend still come over, just don't put each of them in tempting situations i.e. all three of you have too many drinks, she walking around your house in something slinky. Just watch your husband for signs not just with your friend but anyone. You will probably know if your husband is cheating just by slight changes. And the bigger deal you make about the more you will push him away.

noonchy

my opinion is he probably still likes your best friend and i think no matter what your relationship with him work out or not he would probably go and have and affair with your best friend if she's that kind of girlfriends who would dates her friend's husband. and i think you should be concerned about that and go see a therapist and talk to her about that so she can talk to him to see what he got in his mind because you never know man and never really know what they have in mind.

richardz74

Was he joking?

Desha C

First off is your marriage in any trouble? Second is your friend that type of person? I think you should work on your marriage first. Because there is a reason he said that. Were you 2 kidding around or was he serious? I think you should question him and ask him is there a problem in the marriage. Ask him if he is happy and if he is not ask him if there is something you can do to make him happy. Visit your friend at her house if you are very uncomfortable until you figure this out.
Good Luck!

Kim

Shes your friend, ask her if she would be interested in him. My husband liked my friend too, i told her, she laughed and said never in a million years. When id catch him looking at her I knew in my head, he would never do anything and i knew she wouldnt either so not a big deal

ilovemysoldier

some husband ya got there...that would make me feel real secure...

A friend of Bill W

Is your relationship with your husband in trouble? If not, why worry about it.

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