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Mrs. B
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I agree that he needs to learn how to be a responsible adult. But, it may already be too late for that. She should have taught him these things long ago. My kids are 5, 6, and 7 and they know how to sort their laundry so it can be put into the right load when I wash it, and they clean their own rooms, take out trash, and help with little things like set the table. I don't make them do a lot, but kids need to learn that their parents are not their maids. |
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I need to bust my L on her Ts.
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Do you wash your own clothes? |
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Jules
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Yeah, I agree with you. He needs to learn. |
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Your Reality Check Bounced
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Well you are obviously not washing YOUR own clothes......Maybe you should try leading by example. |
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Valley R
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who cares. If she wants to wash them, then let her .. if he wants her to, then fine ... If he wants to live with his mother til he is 25, then so be it.
I lost my mother at age 15 and still today at age 43 miss her tremendously. Please let them be mother and son and enjoy each others company and the relationship they have. |
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JazzMaster
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NO. But she will because thats her baby. I think you should stop doing things around the house and when she says something just say,"whats the problem, i thought since he does nothing it was cool!" she should get the picture then |
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porkchophaynes2007
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Boy do I feel for you.Absolutely he should be doing his own laundry.Your wife is failing as amother doing this.What would she do if she died or just physicaly couldnt do these things for him anymore?He needs to know how to take care of himself.She is setting his future up for failure.He will depend on his wife for everything and probably be lazy when he gets a job also.He needs to get some respect for himself and then he will respect others and not just expect.Good luck! |
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belisima
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He should be doing his own laundry! He will be hopeless if she doesn't teach him some basic skills before he moves out. I can't believe she doesn't make him do chores! My parents would never stand for that.
I'm assuming he's graduated from high school? If he's not going to college, and he's still living at home, he should be paying rent. Not too much, but he should contribute in some way.
You have every right to be tired of the way things are going, it's really unacceptable. He's going to be lazy and clearly needs a male figure to set him straight.
Is your wife worried that he might move in with his father if she starts making him contribute(if that's the situation...)? You really should talk about it, there has to be some legit reason why she won't make him help out. |
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punxsutawney phil
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Washing is no big deal. Be concerned if she's still breastfeeding him. |
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I'm with you, Bert. As it is, your wife is teaching her son to be dependent on people around him. I feel sorry for the kid's future wife.
My son is 15- though he is mildly mentally disabled, which makes him 9 years old, mentally. He does his own laundry, takes out the recycling, helps with dishes, whatever we need him to do. This will help him be able to take care of himself as he gets older.
Your wife is doing her son much more harm than good. |
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vikky<3
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i agree with you. your wife should make your son wash his own clothes. he is at the age that he should be doing things for himself instead of others doing it for him. |
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daydreams55
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well if he is the only child or the younget then i can understand mothers are usually close with there sons ahhh come on just let her help him out nothing is going to be worst then when he gets out there in the real world and there will be alot of things your wife and yourself wont be able to help him with love life, experiences, friends ect things are alot different now a days growing up for ppl ages teen-30 give him a break |
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Manda
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Yes, he should wash his own clothes. How will he survive in the real world if no one teaches him how to do, or makes him learn independence. All she's doing is potentially screwing up his chances to be an independent, productive adult. Not good, we have enough of those already. |
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Sally G
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Perhaps YOU should show him, by example, how a responsible man should act. Recruit him to help you with the dishes so your wife can relax after preparing dinner. Show him how to clean the bathroom, step by step. Give him a course in taking out the trash. Don't just TELL him to do these things..show him how. If he sees YOU, as the man of the house, doing these things, he will realize it's not just "woman's work", like many backward males think of it, but routine jobs that need to be done, by all members of the family pitching in, to keep the house running smoothly. |
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Earl s
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this isn't your son ? then it is up to her I guess. But she doesn't expect YOU do do all the chores ?
I would urge him to start looking for a job & an apartment before he is 25. |
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Leslie Jo
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Hes an adult now he needs to Grow up! Make him do his own laundry! |
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Brown Sugar
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it's women like that , that make it hard for other women. i mean one day he's going to be living with a woman and won't be doing anything to contribute to the household duties. he'll be thinking that it's the woman's job to take care of him. |
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Amber H
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Well he needs to learn, that is true, but sometimes for a mom its something that keeps their hold tight on they're kids.
So i think he should learn, do some of his own, and let her do some of it too.
Make him do chores too, if hes gonna move out he needs to know how to take out the trash, work a dish washer, cook, things like that
hope i helped.
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Tyler
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my first question is.
does your wife clean your clothes, or do you?
if one family puts on a wash, i would think it's common courtesy and respect to also wash the clothes of other people in the house.
now, you son should learn how to do his own clothes-- that's for sure. i learnt when i was 13
you're right, he needs to learn how to clean/wash his own clothes, however i don't think he should always have to do it himself-- surely other family members can help out (and it isn't too much to expect him to help out other family members as well) |
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coolboy12
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It's your son and his clothes.
Why are you so giving an attension on that?
"Wife" is a very hard "job" for women.
I think you'll understand it. |
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That 70s Show Fan
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ya just tell him to do his own landry |
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ChelsieAnne
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I'm 17 and i've been doing my wash for 4 years, so yeah, i think it'd be good for him to learn. |
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georgewarren93
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While it is a great ideal for him to be washing his own clothes, and showing responsibility, it may not always be feasible where conservation of water and electric are concerned. However , not knowing his Mothers reasoning, I wish you the best |
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Father of 4
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That is a easy answer. At age 18 our children wanted to be more independent so we accommodated them. Our children are expected to do there laundry but I don't bug them about there room. There room is there space and as long as it does not stink I leave it alone. It is hard but it gives them choice and it really does not bother us. Doing the laundry really helps them to understand responsibility and to take care of there things. We do require them to clean the bathroom but you need to set a standard that you all can agree with. I can tell you that you will want it cleaner, and they will think it looks just perfect. Have balance and remember that somethings are just not worth the argument. I have found that peace and harmony in my home is better than having my way. I do think that he needs to do his laundry but the trade off is that his room is his... that will be hard. I think that he will respect that you gave him a choice. |
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KarinaGia
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YOU DON'T WASH YOUR OWN CLOTHES!HE'S JUST FOLLOWING YOUR EXAMPLE.ISN'T HE? |
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he should be able to wash his own clothes
I wash my own and Im 12! |
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Gypsy Girl
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Whether or not he washes his own clothes is not the issue. Not helping out with the housework is. Focus on the real problem and you will get more results. This situation did not occur overnight and it will not be solved overnight. Talk to her about it from a standpoint of helping him to become self sufficient so it will not be such a shock when he move out. That may help her to understand. Also, understand that she may be afraid of losing him and may not want him to grow up and move out. This is another issue that you have to help her deal with.
Maybe counseling would be a good idea for the both of you to help you both deal with her son growing up. |
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ouragon
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I taught my children to do their own laundry in second grade. Every one of them, all girls. |
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Sarah Bella
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He's not 5... he can do those things himself. If she does everything for him he's not going to know how to take care of himself when he gets out on his own.. and she is making him pretty lazy for his future wife. He's going to expect his future wife to do everything for him just like his momma and that's not right.
I think it's ok for her to wash his clothes sometimes but I think he should help out and learn to do it himself, too...
He should take the trash out and wash his own dishes. |
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I♥Choir
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Oh definitely make him wash his own!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... |
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