Should she forgive me for kissing another woman ?

CyndiDrum

The kiss seems innocent enough.

The dancing is okay.

I understand that you weren't there when the woman was being ugly to your wife.

What I don't understand is why your wife is still giving you a hard time.

shell

you silly silly man. always respect your partner, especially if you're married to her. sit down together and have a sensible talk. listen to her, put yourself in her shoes and imagine how she felt and reassure her, she probably feels really insecure. there are worse things you could've done but it doesnt excuse it. if you love eachother then talk it through and move on. your marriage wouldn,t be normal if it didnt have its ups and downs. oh and you could also offer to be her slave for a week, that might help her forgive you! good luck you guys!

Amy

I would show her you are sorry (not just say it). Maybe do something extra special for her AND buy her a dozen red roses. If you have trust in your marriage, she will forgive you eventually, but she is very hurt. Here are the reasons why: Its NOT just about the kiss - you were dancing with another woman and obviously enjoying it. A stranger witnessing this situation may not have even realized you were married - it would appear to any one watching that you were flirting. That is especially degrading to your spouse, b/c it makes her feel disrespected - in public - with other friends watching - that EMBARASSED her. Your wife wants to be your "special" person. She should have been the ONLY one you kissed. Also...French men are notorious for cheating, so I certainly would NOT copy their habits. No matter how "innocent" you think this was, it doesn't seem that way to your wife or to others to saw this. Appearances do matter. Your reputation is one of the only things we truly have in the world, don't smudge it over some women in a bar. Your behaviour needs to ALWAYS take your spouse in to consideration once your married. This is a big deal, so apologize a LOT. Don't try to minimize your actions as "not a big deal". It was to your wife. Don't do things that can ruin your reputation.

luvutaz1

well u would be lucky if she does..speaking from a womans point she will eventually forgive u...after u have apologized to her over the next several weeks or months..
what u did was stupid..but your a man and that comes along with your territory...
you men always come along with the excuse oh i was at the club, i was drinking, i was having fun...but in all of that do u once think about anyone in that sentence but "i".. do u ever think about what us women do for u? cook your meals, do your laundry, nurse u when u are sick, do u think that other woman that u were just having fun with would put up with u?
buy her some flowers, take her on a date (perferably somewhere where there are not any other women since u cant keep your lips to your self) and make her feel special, like she was the one u married and promised to spend the rest of your life only loving her....
good luck...

Melissa S

Listen, your wife comes before ANY ONE ELSE in your life. she was even there before your children....

Would you put up with your son/daughter bad mouthing your wife???

This woman was a total stranger, you should have walked away and been with your wife after that "kiss". Even so, you should never physically touch another woman when you are married. It is a form of cheating, even if it was innocent. Your wife must be devastated about this. She may feel as though you must not love her as deeply as she does you for the way that woman treated her in front of you/ And when you basically did nothing, which I am assuming you did nothing, about it she felt betrayed and her heart must have broke. This is how women are, we love totally and deeply, any betrayal on the part of our spouses deeply cuts our hearts in two. You not only kissed another woman, you ignored your wife. BAD THING TO DO. Most women would devorce you for that kind of betrayal.

Recruiter

Well for starters you should have more respect for your wife....and respecting her is not kissing another woman or dancing with other women....especially in front of her. Not to add that you let another woman whom you kissed and danced the night away with talk trash to your wife.....my advice is to her and not to you.....tell him to kiss your BUTT!

Immortal

that was wrong, u are not treating her the way she deserves to be treated - u deserve everything ur wife is telling u now....

swimmyfishy

shes a bit insecure because you made her that way. DRUNK Or not no excuse for stupidity. you guys need to see a therapist YOU SCREWED up major. I would not forgive you but I would have also slaped you for kissing some random person.

Itiswhatitis

First and foremost, sorries dont cut it. It's so easy to say sorry. We are accustomed and trained to say sorry for everything that goes wrong. You need to sit down and really have a conversation on what happened and why it did. You need to tell her that you will do whatever it takes to see her get through this. Your wife is hurt and you need to give her space to trust you again.

Note: You should have ran after her. If you didn't thats probably what she is so angry at you for the most. That you chose to stay with this woman then try to patch things up with her. That hurts.

Lastly, if it were me I wouldn't kicked your *** in front of everyone. LOL

gabeymacâ™¥

.Being New Years Eve I'm sure you noticed the time. I would want my man to love and respect me enough to be with me at that exciting second.Just the fact that he didn't want to be with me for that kiss would hurt me.Then to add insult to injury you danced with the same woman.Did you try to find your wife when she disappeared or did you keep on having a good old drunken time? This is going to take a lot of time for her to get over and saying I'm sorry is too easily rolled off the tongue. You have to show her and wait. And for goodness sake's DON'T go back to the pub. What if that woman is there and you're wife walked in? It's been less than a month. If you really love your wife, she's worth waiting for. If this issue doesn't seem to be getting any better then go to counseling. It will make her feel better knowing that you think she is worth the effort and expense.Good luck to you both.

Damn Kitty

First: why would you kiss another woman instead of kissing you wife?
Second: why would the other woman insult you wife?
Third: WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING?

of course she is mad, and she has the right to be, an apology won't be enough, that's for sure, just prove her you love her, and that she can trust you... you'll find the way to do it, nobody can know how better than you.

Good Luck!
=^-^=

sarah y

At this present time your wife has every right to be angry and hurt,this you already know.At the moment any attempt at an apology will fall on deaf ears so other then begging for forgiveness you might as well wait until she has calmed down.What i would like to know is what happened after your wife ran away when this woman began insulting her?Did you run after her,tell this woman to shut up or did you do nothing?If it was the first one then at least you ran after her,if it was the second one then tell your wife you stayed there to defend her but if it was the last one then no wonder your wife is ignoring you.Maybe you and your wife need to sit down and talk,start by saying that you had too much to drink emotions running high as seeing in new year and it was meant to be peck on cheek but she moved her head but no excuse and that you never meant to hurt or disappoint your wife..........good luck.

waterlily

The reason she is not over it is because she doesn't FEEL you fully understand why she's so hurt - therefor not really sorry - therefor you might do it again. And that makes her insecure n it effected her trust in you n your relationship.

I wonder if you realized that you have betrayed her - kissed another woman instead of her; humiliated her - by dance with that woman later on; let her down - by not standing up for her; n the whole indecent had shown that this woman/stranger is more important to you than she is. Furthermore, your wife might feel threaten by this woman - if you were having so much fun with her, she may feel very jealous, because she wants you to have fun with her instead.
I think what she really need is your empathy n full understanding n acceptance of her feelings. Try not to get defensive n really listen to her when she speaks with you about it.
She will forgive you if you give it time, n make the effect to resolve the hurt.

2BKontinud

My husband would never get away with kissing another woman besides me, his mother, aunts or grandmothers, even if it was only suppossed to be on the cheek. She had every right to be upset. But, at some point, if you are genuinely sorry and have agreed to never do such a stupid thing again, she has to forgive you and get over it. But, don't ever expect to be forgiven for doing such a dumb thing again.

earthangel_candy

You hurt her & then the woman u kissed yelled things at her...shes cinfused on whether or not ur cheatung. U meant to kiss her cheek yes but ya shoulda been kissing ur wife instead. Your gonna have to regain her trust, show her u still love & desire her. And if I were you I'd stay away from pubs for a bit..
And to your wife---he is a man honey, sometimes they are ignorant & do foolish things even on accident, he does seem honestly sorry tho, i would forgive this 1 instance then if it EVER happened again i'd cut his pecker off.
sorry hubby, we women have to stick together

celticdragon

it time to buy her something shinny and expansive so you can get back on her go side maybe . Good luck dead man walking

Sunshine

I can't speak for your wife but if I was her, this is something you would have against you for a very long time. Wishing someone a "happy New Year" does not require kissing or hugging. Sometimes saying "I am sorry" just doesn't feed the bulldog!!

bigred

If she was a total stranger then I understand why your wife is pist off. Kissing a stranger on New Years was a terrible thing to do, you had seen that that had up-set your wife, but instead of keeping your distance from this woman,and knowing that you had already up-set your wife by giving this woman a kiss. You turn around and dance with her as well? That only made your wife even more pist-off at you! You might not have meant to but you were totally belittling your wife. And that lady seen that you were disrespecting & belittling her so she felt that she should join in as well. She thought that since you were being like that towards your wife then you must have some type of interest in her. Really you never should have given her a kiss in the first place. Now if she is a friend of both of yours I can most certainly understand why your wife was so up-set. And the reason for that would be that she was not only disrespected by her husband but also her friend as well. And that would be very hard to accept. You need to talk with her and explain to her that you did not mean to disrespect her and if you truly mean this then you should let her know that she is the only one that you love,adore, respect, trust, and honestly want to be with for all of eternity!
Good Luck
&
God Bless You Both!

Dzyre

You know what, people should really learn how to forgive and then forget, REALLY!!! You have said you were sorry and god knows what else. If your wife realized that she could not move on in life from that ill moment then she should have parted ways. But she did not therefore she must forgive you and move on. To hold on to this situation is not going to make it go away or erase it from memory. You all committed yourselves to each other and problems will always be as well as mistakes. If she can't deal with mistakes then she need not be married to anyone. I am not excusing what you have done but I am just suggesting that stop crying over the spilled milk, its been wiped up and more brought and put in the frig!!!! (figuratively)
I know her pride and dignity might have been stepped on but when one is place in a situation like yours(intoxication) God knows what can happen. She needs to let it go and stop bringing it up, before she lose you over a female that is probably not even thinking or even remembers what happen that day.

mrs. mommy to be

Look, coming from a woman that gets upset easily, you just gotta let her rant. Ask her one day if you can talk to her about it. Explain yourself in detail. Try to catch her in a good mood though. Do you do thoughtful things for her, like breakfast on the weekends, or cook her dinner, offer to take on a chore that you know she usually does...if not you should do stuff like that. Girls love that kinda thing, gradually ease her up to the fact that it's done and over, it's in the past and the things she said are hurting your feelings. Above all, have faith in each other. Remember that it takes two to make a marriage work. Good luck!!!

Bobalong

you showing real remorse, go further ,stop drinking in pubs go back to square one woo her like you have never wooed her before,important thing don't try and kiss her try and hold her hand,tell her you will wash your lips in acid to get this new year kiss off you, tell her she is your dream woman ,and lastley take her to Next usually works for me.

abilityunknown

yep you have really hurt here mate...that would hurt me if my man had done that over new year or any other time...CHEATERS NEVER PROSPER....but if it really was one of those moments when you just go a bit too far and realise before it is even done that it is wrong you should sit her down and tell her..one thing...when this other woman began to bad mouth your wife i REALLY hope you stuck up for your woman...if my man did not stand by me in such a situation that would cut deeply too...you need to beg for forgiveness and expect this to be thrown in your face during every argument you have for the foreseeable future....you were silly...unlucky or bad judgement...only you can convince your wife...good luck...you sound like you will be needing it...

Cookie Preston

Take your wife to the pub with you, and see this woman you kissed, and tell the woman (with your dear wife standing right there) that it happened because it was a party and everyone was drunk and it meant nothing and you're even sorry about it and you love your wife and thats the end of it. And be holding your wife's hand.

kelly w

Well you shouldn't have let anyone bad mouth your wife period.
You should have been worried about kissing your wife instead and dancing with her.

Anyway now it's all done and said. DOn't go out with out your wife. And make sure you are in close distance with one another. You need to show some respect and treat your wife with the love and care she deserves.

To your wife: Beat that woman's a s s next time. Grab her by the back of her head and smash her head into the wall.

troble # one?

No she should not, you never should have done that in the first place, then to let this tramp call your wife down in public ,I would leave you...no seconds thoughts.......

himaintance75

If you feel you have paid your debt, which it sounds like you have. Then it's her turn to step up. You can't have a relationship without trust. If she is going to stay with you, then she needs to let it go.If she is unable to do this, then she should leave you. You both deserve to be happy, and it doesn't sound like either of you are right now. It may not have been right what you did, but what she is doing is wrong as well. Quit apologizing. Sorry will not undo it, nor will it help your wife with her insecurities. By apologizing you are feeding them. Good Luck to both of you.

sidneyb

They say that a sober man's thoughts are a drunken mans words....were you possibly wanting to kiss her and more? Your wife has a good reason to be upset and your actions speak louder than your words so far. It is not enough to say "I'm sorry"... lets go to the pub (where she may be) and your wife has to "deal" with the aftermath. You might need to rethink your drinking if you make bad decisions like this often in public and your wife has to endure your poor judgement. Find another pub for now to show your wife you are willing to sacrifice your wants for her comfort right now. Show your wife how important she is to you-don't just tell her; I'm sorry a hundred times doesn't get it. Good luck.

marc d

maybe not it depents on how you kiss her

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