Silent treatment?

just me

Just act like it doesn't bother you...I've always gotten my housework done when my ex was being a baby....don't give in if you are right!! Go for a walk around the neighborhood, or sit outside and read a magazine...don't let him think that you are bothered by it...

Winnie

Hello:

Personally,I wouldn't even acknowledge him when he is giving you the silent treatment. Some men are just like children when they are throwing little temper tantrums and do you know what really works when men are throwing temper tantrums like a child? The best treatment is just to ignore their behavior and carry on with your everyday life.

If your husband acts irritated because you are not paying any attention to him and he finally decides to talk and says,"Well,aren't you gonna talk to me?" I would say,"I will talk to you when you can stop acting like an infant and grow up." I would make it very clear to him that his controlling and manipulative ways will not be tolerated,and if he keeps giving you the silent treatment,than I would start spending more time with my friends,or just enjoy going shopping or out to eat by myself or with a friend.

Some men think that the world revolves around them and all that women are good for is having babies,doing housework,and catering to their every need like a maid and waitress! I am tellling you that if you don't nip his immature behavior in the bud,he will just keep doing it until you stand up to him and tell him like it is.

You need to make it crystal clear to him that you will not tolerate being treated like dirt and if he keeps it up,you won't be around to put up with his childish behavior. You may want to go to marriage therapy if necessary or marital counseling if you think that is necessary! There is never,ever,any reason why someone should treat their spouse with such disrespect and using the silent treatment just because they are too childish to talk about their feelings as a mature adult, period,end of story!

mike b

try the b*tch slap method.

taurus

Make an appointment with his doctor and tell him about it. His doctor can set him straight.

smile4u

Everyone acts differently to different situations. You didn't give any examples of what he disapproves of. What you really need to do is sit down and talk about it. If you notice him giving you the silent treatment you can either confront him with it and try to agree to disagree about the situation or you can ignore him and go on with what you are doing. Soon enough(just like a child) he will learn that doesn't get him anywhere and he might change his tactics. Have you asked him why exactly he does not approve? He can have different points of views then you. tell him that you can respect his opinion on the subject but don't happen to agree. If its something that isn't that big of deal to you but is to him maybe you can change just to make him happier. If it is a big deal you must decide. Good Luck

Dolly J

My husband pulls that crap w/me, just let it go and keep yourself busy, sometimes he'll go days at a time, it's ridiculous, stay busy and act like it doesn't bother you, that's why he continues to do it. He'll eventually give up.

mandy

Trust me eventually he will give in if you stay strong. My boyfriend used to do that to me all the time and I fealt very guilty. The next time he did it I just looked him in the eyes and said you are being extremely immature, I need to have a relationship with someone my age and walked away. With the fear of losing me and me calling him immature he eventually stopped doing it. He needs to come up with some other way to deal with things instead of just taking the immature way and ignoring it.

little_one23

Go out and make some friends!! Join an exercise group, or sports team, or choir or something, so you can feel more independent, and his pettiness won't bother you so much. Encourage him to go out and make some friends too. He's probably feeling stuck as well, because neither of you know anyone in this new place.

thomasj29108

ignore him.dont give in but DO NOT be pushy and dont keep driveing him to answer or talk.give it right back to him.we men can be childish at times.so treat him like one,when hes that way he wants you to respond a certain way,hes traing you to beg for his attention.dont do it.and for you a friend,you have online and im sure old friends have online so email them/call them

emmajean

Whenever my boyfriend does that I just pretend like I am having a great time and don't even notice he is upset. Then he usually just comes around and will start to talk again. Try watching a movie or doing something that gets your attention off it.

mikebnchprss

He's got you pegged. He knows this will work on you so he keeps it up till you cave. God, how I wish I'd get the silent treatment. No, we're up for arguing and no amount of dynamite will blast her from that position. You're sooooooooooo lucky. Just turn on a movie & let him stew a good while.

Saff

Get on with your thing while he is sulking and act like you are not bothered. He is calling the shots at the moment. Turn it round so that you are in control. Make him feel like he is being immature by having fun without him and he will soon realise that his sulking doesnt work and has little affect on you. Good luck!

snack_daddy10

Tickle Fight!!!
Arguments can only stay serious if both parties treat the issue seriously.
Through some non-sense in there and see what happens.

Marissa

He's giving you the silent treatment to make you feel guilty and apparently it's working! He's being really selfish! My boyfriend used to do that all the time, I felt really guilty and would usually be the first to apoligies.

After a while i just got sick of it. So when he started to give me the silent treatment I took the opportunity and read a good book or went out. Even if you go someplace like a bookstore or run an errand you're bound to meet some new friends. Join a gym or a club that shares the same interests as you, and just have fun. My boyfriend eventually got the hint that I wasn't going to play his games anymore and it stopped.
Even if your husband doesn't stop, you should still go out and make an effort to meet new people. It's not healthy to be around the same person constantly, and may cause more fights. So go out, meet new people, and have some fun!

howdoilvthee

Hi..
He's spoiled and extremely immature..And he's taking advantage of the fact that you have no one to turn to right now..
Next time he pulls that nonsense,( if you have children, leave them with him) just go out.Tell him you'll be back when he grows up!.Don't tell him where you're going..Go to a movie, the mall or wherever..
While you're out let him worry about you..Hopefully he will grow up a little anyway!
Good Luck!
STOP feeling guilty...that's what he wants you to do!

katherine

fight fire w/ fire!!!
actually u prolly shouldnt do that considering u guys married.

for one thing, try hard to compromise during ur fights. i want to stress this point, because fights are always better when avoided

be friendly, go to functions, make new friends quickly!

but try ur hardest to work this out if u love him!

good luck=)

tcc_00676

talk to ur partner

Brutally Honest

Yeah. Counseling. He's being manipulative and controlling, and if you want to have any peace of mind, he needs to learn that his childish behavior is COMPLETELY disruptive to your marriage.

Jules

Play his game he's doing that because he knows you will give in. Talk to him and tell him that is a childish way to play and sit and talk is better.

ashleyharrypotter

When he does that, don't let him get away with it completely.
Feel free to vent your feelings to him, even if he pretends to ignore you while you talk... tell him that's so immature, and you weren't aware that he's still in 7th grade.
Let him know that most married couples talk things out, not sulk when something goes wrong.

lyzz115

Sit down and try to talk to him. If he just flat out ignores you, then that is very immature, and you should write him a note, like,
"Hey, ___________, I love the sound of your voice, and I'm hurting right now because I would like to talk to you about whatever it is I did to hurt you, so that we can get through this. For better or worse, right? I want to get through the worse, so that me and you can start enjoying the better. I love you, please talk to me."

Be nice and honest. Let him know you just want to make up for what you did and move on to happier things. Tell him how much you love him, and how much you love to see him smile.

ronidl76

How childish of him. Confronting him and his behavior may help. Make him see how pathetic he is. It's so sad when a grown man sulks.

TINA

tell him if he keep doing this silent treament.. den nothing will get resolved adn den da relationship might break up permently

LSU_Tiger23

You can still talk to him even if he decides not to talk back.

naddel

Silent treat him back. I silent treat my husband sometimes and if he does it back I normally stop real soon.

doo doo head

give it back to him when he does something that displeases you, or you can always try to make him laugh, or fart in his face and he should open his mouth then

California Kush

I would just leave the house for the day. Maybe go shoping or walk around outside somewhere, get some coffee, go to the beach and lay out. Do something that will get you out of the house and keep your mind off of that nonsense. Even though i am guilty of giving my bf the silent treatment when i get upset.

**AnGeLbOy**

lol. it sounds like me, whenever my fiance and I pick up a fight I'll just ignore her, she hates it.... Guess its a guy thing.. The more he sees that it irritates you, the more satisfaction he'll get, I usually stop when I don't get a reaction, use his method right back at him, that'll keep him from ignoring you, try it.. I better erase this before my fiance sees this...lol

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