Sister in law from hell?

Ridabird

REGARDLESS OF what happen you all should go, if she gets mad then that's her madness she would have to deal with.......

It would be really petty if your husband + kids didn't go, but really petty if you didn't go with them.........

REMEMBER GRUDGES CAN CAUSE A LIFE TIME OF PAIN!!! (especially if something to the person you have a grudge with) MOVE ON GIRL MOVE ON!!!

tessa1198

I would hope he stands up for you ...maybe its time to try to reconcile?

Ray D

He should stand by you or talk to his sister and explain that your a family...if you invite one you invite everyone.

Bill

He should talk to her. You're married, you're a family unit, and I seem to recall one of the things CHURCH is big on...it's forgiveness and getting along.

Does she really want her child's Communion marked by a lack of forgiveness and just being a vindictive shrew?

One slick way to do it would be for him to just call and say "I'm confused. I have this invite for me and the kids, but my wife's name isn't on it. This is a mistake, right?"

Any answer but "yes, it was a mistake" should mean "then I'm sorry, I don't accept invitations to places my wife isn't welcome."

Curious

She is being immature. The communion is about the child not about her. She should just get over it and think about the child not her feelings.

sknygrydg07

Your husband should call his sister and tell her it was rude to exclude you from the invitation. And if she can't treat his entire family with respect, then he has to limit his family's participation in their events.

He should defend you to his sister.

ramseyb75

let them go

unionjackess

Rather then asking him to choose, why don't you meet her for lunch or coffee and work this out. Its not just you and her that are suffering from this, its your husband, kids and her kids too. This is family, you should be able to work it out. I'm not saying become best friends, but being able to have some kind of relationship would benefit everyone. "be the hero" call her....

leonardhomes@sbcglobal.net

The nephew should be supported by all the family, regardless of the petty differences between the two of you. Make the nephew feel proud at the communion, then you folks can go on your way.

Jody

Since you two still support one another's kids, I think it was inappropriate for you to be left out of the invite. You can still go to the party after communion, but not speak to her. I'd tell your husband this and have him ask his sister. Better yet, you can break the icy silence by saying that you know that the two of you aren't friends, but would like to be invited. Tell her if she still can't stand you, you will feel free to avoid her at the celebration.

tarie75

He should stand by you, his wife. Sorry to hear this is happening, she sounds very childish. Good Luck.

crosbie

It seems to me that your husband should be sorting this one out - maybe he should have done this already. Her behaviour sounds quite extraordinary. I know if my brother played something like that on my husband (heaven forbid), I'd regard it as my responsibility to have some very firm words indeed with him. Is your husband a man or a mouse?

Helen S

Try working things out with her before the party. She's acting childish, you should rise above that and act like an adult by trying to sort the problem out yourself and not involving your husband. If you don't go the problem will remain, if you go it will be awkward for all involved, but if you try to work things out it may bring you two closer and you may even become friends!

speedy

sounds abit of a cow to me that's not nice to ask him and the kids your the wife and mother if i was you id talk to your husband if you don't go then nigher should they after all you are a family best wishes

sarah71397

he should stand by you as your husband the disrespect his sister is showing you should not go on un-noticed,if you do not want to disapoint your neice ask your husband to phone his sister and say that his family would like to accept the invitation if it includes you and if not he would like to send your niece a card -that way you put the ball back in her court

no name

leave them

LilSunbeam

I'm confused................who are the children and who are the adults here?

El Jefe

Your husband should stand by you.
You both are a pair and should not attend family events without each other in these kind of cases. If she is this mad over some supposed crank calls then she could use some help.

Morgan R

Your husband and children should not have to miss this special occasion because you and your sister-in-law don't get along.

I would honestly consider if this torn relationship you have is reasonable. There may be more then the accusation of a few phones calls, but if that is what really started this whole battle, is a lifetime of resentment really worth it? What do both of your children think about this and is it teaching them something positive?

Be the bigger person, call her up and try to end this whole thing. Perhaps you will get to go to the communion and finally be able to see your other family in peace without this tension. She will be your sister-in-law for the rest of your life, so try to make the best of it.

mary b

He should 100% stand by you , why dont you just go , what can she do ? throw you out and make a scene ? I dont think so .. and maybe you guys will talk after that.. Stand up for yourself theirs nothing better !!

Good luck

uno_yy

don't go, if she only sent the invite to three of you, then she was not respecting the whole family. your hubby should tell her the reason and asked why only three were invited???

this shows how mean she is.

makeloans2

The two of you should really talk and see if you can work this out for the sake of your kids. If you can't it's going to be a long hard road ahead, and the kids are going to end up resenting the way the two of you cannot get along.

Mr & Mrs Happy

yes otherwise you look as bad as her.She is acting like a child.

lil_britches2003

It amazes me how immature some people can be. I went thru a similiar experience with in laws. My husband and I were married in March 06. His first, my second. His younger brother who had never been married either was getting married in May 06. They were mad that we were married first. We didn't have a church wedding. Just before the mayor. They were so mad, they accused of us lying. We had to show proof, marriage license. The following week, invitations came out for their wedding. My husband was already invited as he was best man. The invitation was to him and his 2 daughters. My 2 daughters and I were not invited. I did the right thing, convinced my husband that he needed to be there for his brother as he had already committed himself to it. He was going to not go. My oldest step daughter was flower girl and he wasn't going to take her either. So, I got both kids ready, had their hair done, and sent the 3 of them up the road to the wedding. This all stemmed from jealousy because we got married first. After that, it all went to hell. At Christmas that year, his brother and wife showed up to our home, we were having dinner with his family on Christmas Eve and it was my idea. I was going to put it all behind us and try to be a family. His brother and wife showed up with gifts for my husband and his children and told my children they were sorry, they only buy for family. I've never allowed them back to my home! So, your husband should go for his niece, set his sister straight, and then chose you when it comes to anything with his sister. It isn't the little girls fault, it's her mothers fault and I'm sure she would love to have her uncle there. If it isn't invitation only, then it's a public place and she is your neice too. So you should go then. You do not have to speak to your sister in law from hell. Sounds like she needs to grow up and maybe her daughter can teach her that. But after this, your husband should definately stand by you. This isn't going against you as it is not an event for his sister. Good Luck.

cholly

Since you never did what she said in the first place she needs to grow up. Maybe you should try to talk to her, but otherwise your husband should stand by you and tell his sister she is wrong.

Heather

He should stand by you, but will he? Probly not because men are just like that!
She sounds childish. and i wouldnt pay her no mind.

Jack Y

FirstI would like to encourage you not to put your husband in the middle, not so much for his sisters sake, but for the sake of all the children involved. If it was a party that just the adults attended it would be easier to take sides. He is faced with a no win situation, which is hurt his wife or hurt his niece.

Second be a bigger person. In any situation I have come to see that no matter who started it, both parties have said and done things that they shouldn't have. Try to restore the relationship.
True love doesn't keep score. I know you have been offended and will be offended again and again before it is over. You be kind and do your part and you will feel better about yourself.

hispregnantwife!

Your husband should stand by you its not fair for her to invite only him and the kids. you are his family now even more os then she is you are his wife shes his sister I odnt doubt he loves her but it shouldnt even be a competition between the two of you

debs

this is very hard cause they are brother and sister think it through before making any desisions

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