Sneaky husband?

pinniethewooh

Don't wait until it blows up in your face. Find a subtle way to bring it up.

pepper

You're way off base. Does he know you're a snoop? I wouldn't like it if you were MY spouse!

Approach him and BEG for forgiveness.

pisceswoman87

If all they're doing is chatting, don't say anything yet. Monitor the situation. If he says something clearly over the line, THEN confront him. It's best not to tell him you've been snooping unless you have to, because he'll probably change his password.

Ana Perla

Wow, sorry to say but you have serious trust issues. I can tell you from my own experience that it going to lead up to no good. He's your husband, you should trust him enough to not read his email. I'm married and I email with my exboyfriend every so often and have no bad intentions. If my husband was snooping thru my email it would be on, because he should really trust me, we are married. Just a word for though...

laurie

why even worry about this...he has been up front about you to her. my question is why are you snooping on him in the first place.................hummmmmmmmmmm

wiley42678

I would play it cool but keep your tabs on him and if it gets worse try to catch him in the act and nail him... if you go confronting him right off the bat he may change his password on his email and his get a new email address if he didn't already...

~i love my boys~

i wont like it if my hubby was talking to any of his ex...i would tell him something....

Georgia Girl

Don't snoop!!!! You may not like what you find!!

ALL4 ONE&1FOR ALL! AMERICA!

is it possible for u to walk in when u know he is checking his email or chatting with this ex? because it would be easier so he dont find out u was in his email . then right at the moment u can ask him what is he hiding from you! cause he is acting suspicious.....

ridge.runnr

There are some security issues at hand. This is not the only reason you think to snoop on your man.
Marriage is about having secrets. From the rest of the world. Not from each other. Tell him yours, tell him the innermost fear you have that drives your insecurity. Tell him those things that you dont feel like you should share with any one, and dont kid me, or any one else. You are human, you have secrets. Open the door to share them. He communicates with an ex for some reason, probably a benign one- you did get the ring, remember?
Forgiveness must be very simply understood from the beginning. For all and every thing that might come your way, or his, you both must understand this. Dont snoop. Just make it clear that his wife demands an open honest relationship, and show him how to do it.

lil chicky

um, i wouldn't try to cause a big scene, just try to communicate with him...you know, see if there are any problems you guys might have and try to resolve them...maybe you two should get together and make a list of what you want each other to fix and see if that helps!

rb_cubed

O.K. -- now don't you supposed that he is going to get just a little pissed to find out that you have been snooping in his email?
It comes down to the relationship that you have with your husband. Is it based upon trust? Would you have any objection to him snooping into your email account?
If you have a good, secure marriage, then you should talk to him about it. If talking to him about it is going to put you in an uncomfortable situation, then maybe, perhaps you should hold back a little.

justme

Oh, I love you! I am a snooper too! You have to watch these guys like you watch your children. Can you imagine what they would do if we didn't keep them in line? I would buy a computer program online to snoop on him. They have ones you can download on the computer and watch him remotely. They are completely stealth! If nothing happens then say nothing...and just keep watching. If things heat up then, depending on how you want to handle the situation, you can decide what you want to do. If you are mad at him then I would wait until he plans something with her and then I would just show up at the place. If you want to bring it up then don't tell him how you know...just tell him that you know...and see if he continues. Either way...snoop away!

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setter505

yea go tell him how you have been snooping on him that will go REAL well.

PikC

if you have been snooping, you prolly already didn't trust him? Well, keep snooping till you find out if it gets worse later, and then confront him. If you prefer not to know more - then stop snooping now and totally forget about what you know. But at the same time, you have to cultivate that trust in him, or you'll never feel comfortable again

tannerlady

I wish I had checked my soon to be ex's email I might have found out that he was having an affair with a former co-worker for over a year and not been devastated as I was when he moved in with her, had been married for 30 years and suspected nothing, no one we were connected with suspected anything either. The only thing I can smile about is that the girlfriend didn't last when she had to live with him everyday instead of the the fun times, she was getting the best of him and I got what was left, guess she didn't like the whole package as much as she thought. I would have a talk with him now before it is to late and maybe you lose your marriage. Trust is hard to get back, I don't think I could ever trust mine again.

lifelover66

Why wait until it is bad? Go ahead and ask why they are talking now. Don't let your emotions cause you to be angry because things will get ugly quick. Just keep yourself calm while talking about it, if at all possible. Hopefully he will agree that it is not a good idea to talk to old flames.

Jenny

I would approach him NOW!

And apologize.

tizrussell

Sneaky husband or is that snooping wife. How do you know its going to get worse?. It will if you dont ask him, that is, you'll make it worse for yourself with your snooping.

Kimmie

I would contact her and tell her that you feel her communicating with a married man is inappropriate and you expect her to back off immediately. Even if she tells your husband, I'll bet he will never mention it to you. He will know he has been caught and probably be grateful that you handled it the way you did. This works, believe me. My husband and I have been married for 25 years. He bought a new truck and this blond 25 year old finance rep. (my husband was 42) at the dealership started calling his cell at all hours, asking things like, can you help me hang my Christmas lights, fix my faucet, want to go have a drink? She was even calling at 1 or 2 in the morning. He never told me about her but I knew something was amiss so I answered one of those 1:00 a.m. phone calls. Needless to say, I only had to contact her twice and she was history. That was 4 years ago. He and I have never really talked about it directly but he has said some things that tells me he knows what happened and it will never happen again. Try it!

belladonna1386

do it now before it gets worse.

sweettart29646

wow hun.. really sorry that is happening to you.. word of advice since i went through this before me and my hubby of 1 year and 7 months got married... approach him now!! don't do like i did and just wait thinking hed stop! trust me, he won't!! my hubby was having an affair with his ex and theyd have midnite conversations and everything. it finally got to the point that i got on the cell with her and just plain out told her to leave my hubby the hell alone! that hes a married man now and they shouldn't be communicating at all! it took that for it to stop! plus me changing his number and blocking hers from being called or being able to call! hope u can find something to help! btw, your not a snoop, its your right as his wife to know about this.. if he wont tell you, how else u supposed to know?

mickie

You've already got problems other than his e-mail...you had doubts before you even opened that account...resolve your issues as soon as possible. You can't live in a relationship without trust and now you've opened a whole new can of worms by reading his mail. Better think this threw real careful first before doing any thing that you may regret...like his chat with exgirl/f not getting worse...something to think about...

DAVID E

i am a man approach him now

kolya k

So, you didn't trust your husband in the first place. I wonder why?

Amanda

Well, some people do stay friends with their ex. And he did tell you about her and that he was talking to you. Just approach him now and say that him talking to his ex-girlfriend makes you insecure and you don't really like it. But just in case keep on reading cause things might get worse. Best of luck!

mommyof2

hard choice...
if you tell him ....he will know that you don't trust him and there's a chance that he's not doing anything really bad.

if you don't want to wait for it to get worse or if you suspect something try talking to him as if you don't know anything about it.

you could try saying that you have a friend who caught her husband talking on the phone to his ex. and that you want his advice on what to tell her or ask him if that's wrong...ext...

good luck...

thirsty mind

I occasionally speak to my ex from 19 years ago. It means nothing. Still I would want my husband to know. It might cause unnecessary hard feelings. Of course I don't have to worry about that,because he is much to polite to "SNOOP" !

Colleen G

What makes you snoop in his email? I'm not saying he is right in emailing his ex but you said he didn't say anything bad. In fact, you even said he told her about you. I would say if he was acting like he was not married and never mentioned you, you would then have some issues.

I think I would leave this alone and stop snooping. You will drive yourself crazy trying to keep up and then you may get caught!

Hang in there and good luck!

Very Honest

Approach him immediately. Why would you wait for it to get worse. You will see if he respects you and loves you, when you see the reaction he has when you confront him now.

Don't act like it's no big deal. Tell him what you read, tell him how you feel and ask alot of questions.

Good Luck

DEFINATELY BLESSED

KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED; BECAUSE, AFTER MARRIAGE YOU HAVE TO KEEP THEM HALF-SHUT!

An elderly woman told me this, when I suspected my husband cheating. He was and I only found out by just playing the waiting game. She also said:

TO BE FORETOLD, IS TO BE FOREWARNED!

NO, DON'T TELL HIM. JUST KEEP 'MONITORING' THEIR CONVERSATION. IF THEY ARRANGE TO 'MEET', OR THE CONVERSATION IS GETTING TOO 'PERSONAL', THEN, BY ALL MEANS DO CONFRONT HIM.

I put a wire tap on my phone to find out my hubby went on dates with several women! I DROPPED HIM LIKE HE WAS HOT!

Do you ever tell him how you found out? It is up to you; but, I never did. I would always respond:: ARE YOU DENYING IT? I kept him focused on the event, not my right to know!

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