So I just moved in with my boyfriend of 2 years and it is miserable. I cook, clean, and buy groceries.?

Jillary von HÃ¤mstervielâ„¢

recite this speech- practice it first-

"Honey I realize I made a mistake. I love you and wanted to be with you so much i moved in with you against my better judgment. This 'shacking up' and 'living in sin' thing we are doing just doesnt feel right so I am moving out"

Then move out till you get the ring.

Sarahsmama

What were you expecting? You two need to sit down and talk about what you expect from one another...who does the chores...who pays the bills...who cleans...who cooks...You should not have to do it all by yourself. You are in this relationship TOGETHER, and it takes BOTH of you to make it work.

Becka

Talk to him and tell him how you feel since you have been living together. If he doesn't feel concerned about your unhappiness then it is best to get your own place and a new man!

Reyna

You should talk to him and tell him that you guys moved in together cause you guys love each other and tell him that you really need his help around the apartment or (house). IF it doesnt work out then MOVE OUT hun...

Such A Chicka

Tell your boyfriend how unhappy your are. Tell him he needs to help do half the chores, not just you. You moved in with him to share a relationship, and that takes a helping hand, from both sides of the party. Ask him why your Intimacy, has died. It should not be, thats one of the main reasons, couples move in together for. Tell him, if all he wants is a maid, and not a girlfriend..then youre leaving. Be honest with him, see how he reacts, together you can straighten things out, and be much happier.

KerryAnn

Well if your not happy try to talk to him and see if he changes, if he does not change than move out.

r_finewood

Same thing happened when my bf and I moved in together. You just need to talk to him about it. My bf and I split the household chores. I cook, do the dishes, and do the laundry and he keeps the apartment clean and takes care of the cat litter. If he won't talk to you about it, then just stop doing all of that so he can see how much you are doing. As for going out, just make plans for yourself and I'm sure he will start asking if you want to go out together.

starlightâ™¥

do you have a job??? if not get one that will give each other more space let him know that you also have a job that he needs to help around the house and as far as doing fun things talk to him about it let him know you are still alive and want to go out do things other ppl do not just sit at home all day

x~Possessively Preserved~x

Think about what you want to do. This is an obvious sign of the future. You ever hear the saying in order to get to know somone you have to live with them?? Well there you go. I say talk to him about it and give it some more time and if things still don't improve then re-evaluate what you truly want.

kingofdabong

I's sure there is somthing else you are not telling us about. You can still do all the things you did before now. If you are truly unhappy there is no reason for you to stay with him. Figure out what the problem really is and let your boyfriend know how you feel.

tooba ash

tell him

happyeverafter48

I have to laugh and I don't mean to but it's simple you have to leave him, your in a relationship of convince, just look in the mirror then look at him and say the rest of my life, what you do is put away enough so you can move out or so that you can kick his lazy *** out, and yes it's that easy and it has to be done, the relationship is over if you don't see that shame on you, does he yell does he hit if not that may be on the way , why be unhappy , when it ends and it is going to end just a matter of time, he may make up and say the things you want to hear but it will all go back to the same old same old cut your losses now, and find someone who can enjoy you, don't feel bad you gave of yourself to him what he wants is a mother, you have learned what you need to know about this guy thank god your not married, leave him asap .

Saint

Move out.()

John

Your not his mother ... stop acting like it! Get his butt in gear to share the hous hold duties... make grocery shopping a couples thing ...... but after he takes you out to dinner ....shopping on a empty tummy is bad!

If you can't awaken the dead ... burry him and get a live guy.

Be sure to make the wake taseful ... a girls night out party !

can u â™¥ moi?

you should move out and give each other some space and see if the feelings come back

Janet C

Get out now. It wont get any better. It sounds like he wanted you to move in to be a housekeeper, not a gf.

therealprinsess

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. He is using you. Now you have an idea of what it would be like to be married to him. You need to talk to him and explain you are his girlfriend not his mother. He needs to step up and be part of this relationship or go on his way. I feel so bad for you. I hope he straightens up.

tammylynn317

Rethink the relationship, honestly...

dark_mad_shadow

talk to him about it.

hollyjollyelf1

Talk to him, you guys need a sit-down-pow-wow. Talk about what u think. Be honest but don't scream

Honey moon is over!

t_j_watkins

move out

elizabethschauff

Move out.

pirate00girl

either discuss boundaries, division of labor, bills, etc., or move out. i am so serious. if you think marriage to this guy is going to be any different, you are sadly mistaken my dear. you have made his life 100% better, and your life has become filled with more work. sadly, couples move in together too quickly...by this i mean before discussing what the expectations are, and as mentioned above, the boundaries, chores, etc. all is not lost however...you just need to have the discussion now and get it all out on the table. best of luck to you. i really do hope it works out.

GrnEyedBandita

tell him you arent his mother and to start helping out more before you ship out.....

Maria b

Have a talk with him and tell him that when he moved in there was no agreement that you become his maid. If he won't help out --throw him out---end of story.

Itrolla

This is what married life is like and should be.

Due in June 2009!

First of all i would go out and find a job myself (not to be mean) but it gets you out of the house and you make extra cash....on the intimate part....i would go out and buy some candles order in some chinese food and have a romantic dinner...maybe even a candle lit bath (both of you)

Quasimodo

Get married. Sounds like you're there already.

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