Still no contact from my wife its been almost 4 months, how do I stay sane?

janetrmi

Bob and Charlyne are wonderful, aren't they? Do you belong to any other marriage restoration groups? It's hard to do this alone without any support whatsoever.

Check out http://www.faithandmarriageministries.org/
Call and talk to Linda. She's an excellent person to talk to. There are men on that site that call and support each other.

Keep the faith! God will restore what the locust has eaten.

jankijac

the first thing I would do is to contact a lawyer because even though she left you, you still deserve to see your daughter and soon to be son.

LEGALLY it is your right.. She has no right to keep your kid(s) from you..

Good luck.

A M

Pray about it.

Candy B

i'm so sorry to hear this, my husband pulled that crap in '08, now i found out he had an affair, maybe that is the reason. the dishonesty and shutting you out completely is terrible. they OWED us the truth.
i hope you guys work it out, hire a private investigator oh how i wish i had.

Ryan

Hey man.. I am very sorry for what you are going through. I was never married but lived with a girl for years and she left me for another guy and it hurt. If children was in the mix I would be insane. You gotta just look forward and get your life on track. It seems like you are doing a good job. She obviously isn't ever going to come back so If I were you I would start meeting new women. When your children are born go through the proper court proceedings and get visitation. When they get older they will resent her for what she did to you. Hope things get better for you.

mimzy

This is sad. I know you are lonely and want her to come back home, but if she left you and did all this, why would you want her back? Aren't you afraid that she'll do this again if you do get her back? Try to keep this in mind and just do all you can to see your kids. Good Luck :)

Brad V

I feel bad for you, I guess you haven't seen your daughter either. You can't fix it if she won't communicate with you. I hate to tell you, but you may feel better if you face the realization that your marriage may be over. Your best option would be to speak with an attorney so you can at least secure your right to see the kids. Good luck!

gotmini02

I could be wrong but I thought in order to get a restraining order, you must show probable cause????

Jim P

Ya know my ex wife did the exact same thing-rest. order then filed for divorce with my son on the way. He was born after we got a divorce. She had virtually no reason to file a rest. order because I did nothing wrong. This sounds like a growing number of cases where women do this to men. I think that men need to put a stop to this **** by getting some kind of prenup. prior to marriage. Also there are a lot of women who get the children and then split on the guy, and then comes the rest. order and child support ect. No wonder marriage is failing these days with all the cheating people and now this trend.

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SWEETIE HANG IN THERE KEEP PRAYING FOR AN ANSWER AS I SAID BEFORE GOD WILL MOVE FOR YOU AND GODS ANSWER MAY NOT BE WHAT YOU WANT BUT WHAT HE WANTS YOU SAY ITS IN HIS HANDS NOW ALLOW HIM TO WORK A MIRACLE FOR YOU ...WHEN YOUR DOWN TO NOTHING GUESS WHAT GODS UP TO SOMETHING ALLOW HIM TO MAKE A WORK IN YOUR LIFE AS WELL AS HERS HE IS GONNA MAKE YOU SAY WOW BEFORE YOU KNOW IT IM HERE TO BRING YOU GOOD NEWS YOUR ANSWER IS ON THE WAY GOD BLESS YOU AND I HAVE EMAILED YA BLESS YOU SWEETIE

Dave C

Woman can be horrible individuals I am discovering this first hand from my wife's unfaithful ways

All I can say is keep yourself active realize that this isn't forever you will be in your children's life soon enough and you will look back at this and see how it made you a better person and a stronger Father for your children because you didn't take the low road as your wife is doing so

Make Waves

Sometimes the mistake you make is so huge that there is no going back. Other times, mistakes can be forgiven. Only you know what kind YOU made, but . . . from the fact that she has not spoken with you in 4 months, I gather that you made the unforgivable kind. If that's the case, you should continue to work through it like you have been and, with any luck, eventually you will get over her.

preposterous cat

I am so sorry this is happening to you. The only way to stay sane I can think of is to get a hobby, one that you enjoy that completely engrosses your attention. All the better if it is physical, then you will get the endorphin-rush, too!

KhmerLady

damm thats messed up. It must be or will be hard on your children. You should talk to a lawyer.

Lifeline

sorry but if she is not willing to make contact with you she is not willing, you still have rights over your children so speak with a counselor, if you did something take responsibility for it and ask her to join you for marriage counseling to try to get it all back but be ready if she is not. Let God take care of your concerns (not easy) but He will not forsake those that seek Him. Whatever took place to get here, it needs to be brought to the light (if she left due to your behaviors these can be changed in therapy) I assume it was something that you fought with--- "have been going to a web site called rejoice ministries.com it has brought me some hope and faith,along with getting back in shape and selling cars again.I just wish I could Fix all this and dont kniw how" and are now seeing the reality of what took place. Ask her if she is interested in remarrying you but if she is not you need to realize it and cry but DON'T LET GO OF GOD for only He will be there to help you deal with the pain.

Tiro

Prayer will only help if you surrender the thinking parts of your brain.
So before you do that, sit down (either alone, with friends or a councillor/therapist) and work out what happened.
From what I read something sure went wrong somewhere.
Don't search for blame or reasons, try to be clinical and remove emotions for a while.
What happened? Did you fall out of love, were you not providing the emotional/financial/physical needs for your wife.
Be realistic. It sounds like it is over with the restraining order and all.
What do you want to happen?
I assume you want access to kids. Let them be your rock/goal. Talk to a layer and find out what steps you have to take to make this happen. Working and exercising will help.
The only church help so much as it suits their goals. Search online for related support groups in your area (like source) they can offer your targeted and helpful advice.

stephanie f

I'm sorry that happened to you. Maybe you could get a dog! They are good for company and it is something you can have around that you can sort of talk to. Just keep trying to show your family that you have changed, keep the faith, and keep believing, it will all work out in the end. Hope this helps.

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