The best way to deal with jealousy?

I was in a relationship with a girl for 2 years and she eventually got bored. We ended on slightly bad terms but we occasionally speak. I feel that I would get over this a lot quicker if I never saw her again (yes I am taking the typical male approach to this). I never thought of myself to be a jealous/angry person but even the thought of her speaking to another guy makes me feel really angry and jealous. I have no right to be angry as we aren't in a relationship anymore but hey we're only humans and emotions can take over us. I have been avoiding nights out up town for months now because I'm scared I'm going to bump her into when she's with other fellas. I just want to get over her with no problems and keep my feelings to myself but I just can't overcome the jealousy. Has anyone else had any experiences like this that they can share or at least a way for me to overcome this?
any answers welcome

Zee â™¥

Yes, you are only human. It's fine to feel like this. It means you are not completely over her. I don't know what to tell you to get over this, but not seeing her might be the best solution until you completely get over her. Don't deprive yourself from going out just so you won't bump into her, come on. Go out, just not to places that you know you might find her in.
Try to meet new people, just for the hell of it. Enjoy your time with friends, and just do your work or studies. Slowly, as time goes by, you'll get over her, and the whole jealousy thing, I promise.

So the keyword is: time.
We all been through similar things when we broke up with our partners, or just by being with them -- good luck, dear.

diana h

Your anger and jealousy have nothing to do with her, but rather with your sense of control. On some level you know a woman is in control of who she sees and dates. You may fear you're not adequate or that you didn't meet her expectations (and consider that some of her expectations may have been unreasonable).

She still represents, in your mind, a time when you were not in control and may have felt threatened by it. That's an uneasy feeling - one we often meet with anger.

We don't have control over others, but we do have control over how we feel about others. Liking someone and love are decisions, not viruses that float through the air and infect us.

Spending time with that which you have control of (yourself) will give you less time to focus on that which you have no control over (her), and it will help you decide what is right for you, how you wish to be treated, and how you you treat others.

Building your own self-confidence and tending to your own hobbies, interests, education, work life and social life will not only help instill your belief in yourself, it will also bring you into contact with those of like mind - and interests.

point-blank

Jealousy is like cancer it will kill you. So stop that. She is not the only female in this world....duh. Go workout at the gym take your frustrations out on the iron. You'll feel better!

phillysoul

I totally understand how you feel. When i was in a situation like yours, it was very hard for me to not think about my ex. I was so afraid of running into her that I avoided all the places I knew she would be because they were the places we went together. But after awhile I started to realize that this was crazy and that I needed to get over the fact that we will never be what it used to be. One thing for sure though....being that you guys were in a relationship for 2 years and you had these feelings of jealousy.. nine times out of ten she is or was feeling the same way that you were.

Benjamin

I just, got out of a 2 yr marriage.... I know bro, its hard... but.
You can't let it get to you. Maybe you should move on? That's the only way i got over all of this....

tang

ignore her!!!!
treat her as invisible!
don't answer her...
just think that...there have a pig beside you!

stainless steven

So, she eventually got bored-- with you, and your attitudes? Your problem is not something outside of you- it is within you, so take a good look into yourself. Jealousy will ruin your health, but total understanding will free you of this canker.

-Bugs[Bunny]-Love!-<3

ignorance.. an get a new girl.. it'll help get over it

PLURfreak77

She isn't the one for you. If you were in love, you wouldn't break up over fighting. People who were meant for eachother know that they have some differences, but work them out.

silly_duck96

Sounds like you need to start dating too.

candye

I think jealousy is normal after ending a relationship...Maybe you should should start dating and see how quickly you get over her...
She's probably feeling the same way about you, also.

*What doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger !*

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Get a girl yourself (taking the typical guy approach myself)

Make her jealous. You cant keep hiding forever. If you do youre gunna die lonely! Ok, not trying to be over dramatic, but get out there buddy!

Have fun yourself. Youll be jealous for a while, natural, but the longer you spend time away, youre just pausing that healing time.

Rip off the band-aid <3

Duncan

If you're jealous, then stop being jealous, simple!

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