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Rohit
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It seems me yur in hurry. Pl give SPACE to yurself and follow what yur mind says. |
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Bella
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Well, it is just a desire that alot of us DIVORCED people have delt with. I was married for 15 years and my spouse thought I would never find out. Well, his last endeavor...I found out and hence found out about all the other ones too with a few ex's included. The reasons for marriage is the commitment of two people to be bound together be trust and faith,honesty and that there will no man put assunder. No man or woman should be worth ruining something so precious as a marriage. If your desires are not met at home then you need to talk to your spouse. Your ex is an ex for a reason whether in marriage or in bf or gf state.Maybe you should re evaluate what your marriage was for. Real love or convenience? I am sorry to say this but you would be making a grave mistake. You could end up losing on both ends. |
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Jax6213
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OMG! I can't even believe that you are asking this!!!
No wonder this ******* country has a 60% divorce rate! If you want to play around divorce your current husband and then go forth and date and do what ever you feel you need to do.
People like you make me sick.
-Jax6213 |
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michelle
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No matter how you try and rationalize it ,,,it is WRONG. You are married and have children. You are willing to lose your family over a one night stand if you get caught??? How would you feel if your husband cheated on you and you found out?? Nevermind that what about the kids that are involved. because of your own selfishness. That bothers me so much about people always thinking about themselves and not caring about what the outcome could be for the other people involved also. No you shouldnt cheat on your husband. ITS WRONG!!! |
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Teacherwitch
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It sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into cheating. If you were so in love with your ex, why'd you get divorced in the first place?
Take it from me. Don't cheat. You never had a child to contend with before. Your home and your family's security are more important than a fling with your ex. It's time to grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your actions, and leave off with the serial cheater nonsense. Sounds like your ex needs to grow up too. He also has a child to think about. Do what you know to be the right thing and don't meet your ex. Maybe some counseling might help you as well.
Good luck. |
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mrb
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go with your head |
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davmanx
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I've pondered for a while before deciding to leave a word of advice for you.
All the while you have been thinking about this on your side,
the more you delve in this thought of yours, the more tempting it will get.
Why don't you think in your Spouse's shoes.
Give it a sincere deep thought instead of dwelling in your fantasy for a while. Just to be fair to your family if you cherish them.
Do not start a fire you can't stop.
I propose you meet up with this lover boy along with your husband, and tell it all out in front of all parties, how you used to admire or all the other reasons, but in the end you chose the better guy to marry and bear his child.
This will end all ghostly shadows lingering around all parties and clear up the whole mist.
Hope you will lead a blissful married life. |
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Tony
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Sounds like you've already made up your mind. You're gonna do the nasty deed. But does your current husband deserve this from you? And what does your vows mean to you? You should have considered all this stuff before you got married again.
Selfish, Selfish, Selfish!!! |
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Girliegirl
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I would say, go with your head.
You're not in love with this man. If you 2 were that much in love, you would be together, not with other people. You are in love with a fantasy, and the excitement of possibly being caught. There's drama, and it excites you. You think you'll regret not sleeping with him again, wait until you do it and get caught. Then you'll know what regret really is. Where do you draw the line, one time, two times, or more. Each time thinking "what can it hurt?" Well unless you're prepared for a lifetime of heartache, and trading weekends with your child's father, I would say be true to your marriage. |
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~just_jd~
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You already know in your heart , what you want to do. So do it , just don't get caught! |
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Archangel
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When we are trying to justify our reasons for cheating dumb reasons may sound good. Honestly put yourself in your spouses place, think about how you would feel if it was you that was being cheated on. Trust, love, confidence, all thrown away for INFATUATION! You said this person is your "ex", why did you leave him to begin with? Remember what it was that didn't make that relationship work? Is it worth the risk of loosing EVERYTHING including your child? I hope you really think thing through, because if you do I know that you will do what is right and avoid the affair. Good Luck! from a friend that has been there? |
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will987456
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If its true love nothing will come in to mess it up. I really think that you should stay with your current spouse. Think about how it will affect him. think of how crushed he will be. |
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Life Is Great
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WOW serious predicament. Well u know u definitely owe your family your loyalty and what kind of person would u be to cheat on your family? I think u should see what's left between u and this "other man" ONLY if u believe deep down inside that u still have special and real and genuine feelings for this person. Please Don't Get Caught because doing something like this is definitely wrong but u also owe it to yourself to know if u made the right desicion in marrying your husband. Good Luck :-) |
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pooh
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If I were you I woud not cheat it is not worth it think of why you left your in the first place and thnk do you want to go back and get hurt and risk of losing the good thing you got now. think ddep in your soul and heart first. |
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lovelace
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Dont do it please .....i can picture the situaion...but things will get bad btw u n ur spouse after the guy leaves if u dont get caught....please dont cheat on ur husband and let one relationship be honest |
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rich2481
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use your head, he is looking to get laid and use you,, aint got nothing to do with loving you honey,, has to do with screwing you and then possibly calling your hubby and telling what you just did,, |
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Colleen
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Go with your head on this one. Losing your hubby is definitely not worth any risk!
13 years! Great job! Marriage takes a lot of work.
Don't throw that away!
What can it hurt if you are careful and don't get caught? Good question. Actually, it can hurt the marriage. Let's just pretend that this ex is awesome in bed and the time it takes is, in your mind, well worth it. How can you possibly think that you can keep this from your hubby? He will be suspicious, unless he is "less than intelligent" or doesn't know you at all.
I know that you will do what you want to do BUT use your head! Why would you want to hurt this guy that you "are in love with"? POTENTIALLY.
You and your ex split for a reason, what was that reason? |
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older&wiserforit
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Follow your head, your heart will hurt more than you can imagine if you cheat. |
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whaaatthe
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what is the worst thing that could happen if you chose not to cheat?? you would wonder about it... thats it. whats the worst thing that could happen if you cheated? you get caught and ruin your family... husband leaves, you break up his family... come on! that should be a kind of easy decision. you made a commitment to your husband and you should be a real woman and stand by your word. also, i would recommend not even talking to your ex anymore. its nothing but a temptation. there is no question to what you should do... be a good woman and dont cheat on your hubby. |
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free_angel
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If you want to stay happily married, then don't cheat and risk losing your husband. It's really that simple. |
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Maggie3
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You want someone to give you the go-ahead. Just the fact that you are writing and asking says that you are not sure. No one in their right mind would tell you to go ahead and do it. If they do, they're just kidding. You know the right answer already. |
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AsianPersuasion :)
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Stay away from him. Sure, you may regret not meeting up with him and always wonder "what if", but what would you do if your spouse did find out? Do you want to be in a divorce and have to tell your child the reason is because you cheated? There is more than just you involved. Remain true to you wedding vows. |
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dede
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please follow your head, it's never righteous to cheat and poor husband, you're not being true to him. it will only cause you trouble |
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olive_olive_72
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have you lost your mind? you are in a good marriage and you want to throw it all away and hurt a lot of people because you want to see your ex and sleep with him. and your question is what can it hurt if we are careful and don't get caught let tell you want it can do. it can hurt your family, his family. how would you feel if you found out your husband want to see his ex. here's a solution for you leave your ex alone there is a good reason why he is your ex. then go kiss your husband and your children and thank god that you have good man. Don't mess up your marriage for a fling. |
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jasmine
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your heart |
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Douglas D
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You may have some unresolved issues IN YOUR MARRIAGE or you wouldn't consider cheating to find happiness.
You will NEVER get these issues resolved by going outside of the marriage. Instead you will only end up creating new ones & make your situation even more complicated than it is.
You say you have been "Happily married for 4 yrs" but that doesn't jive with your desire to go & cheat with an ex.
If you are truly happy, then why would you want to put that at risk in such an extreme way?
So which is it, are you truly happy, or are you just kidding yourself?
I suggest that you follow your HEAD! It seems your HEART may want the cake & eat it too! |
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jude
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think of the families that you will be hurting, he is putting you in a bad situation. you can't trust the heart, it is so deceitful, think with your head.cheating is something one can't hide for very long, it will get in the way of your marriage. work on your marriage instead. |
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Pildi
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If you get caught do you think your ex will leave his wife for you? I don't think so bcuz if cared for you HE would still be with you. Don't be stupid and ruin your marriage over a man you can't have! Follow your head. |
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