This could be the end of 18 yrs of marriage.?

Brianna

First realize that being a mother of a 2 year old could mean that you are still going through post partum depression. I would schedule in a doctors appointment right away and talk to them about all the emotions you are going through and see if some prescriptions can help you feel more normal again. None want to admit that it happens, but most often it does.

Next, anger is anger. You are suddenly a new mother with not one small child, but two. Children are always hard on any relationship and makes ones life so much more difficult. The work, the stress, wearing out your body and mind. It's always hard to look at what we are angry about when in such a state.

I'd say get the baby sitter today and get a few of your closest friends, or even just your one closest friend to come sit with you for a few hours... kid free. Ask her to listen and not judge but to advise you if she thinks you are going off or have post partum. Talk about all the things that are making you angry. Really open up. Scream, cry and just let loose until you have exhausted yourself. Later, go write it all down.. not on a computer. But with a real pen and paper like in a diary. You'll want to shred it later... but release even more of these emotions.

Your children shouldn't be punished for your anger at their father. Sounds like a really difficult time with him being away during the week days and you being left to fend with two children while he only plays daddy on weekends. No one to help you clean up, no one to help feed and bathe the little ones.

You need a day off every single week and then on the weekends you need to give him the children for at least half a day while you go do things on your own as well. Friday nights should be put the kids to bed early night so you two can find some time to have some soft moments. Just cuddle time if nothing else.

Really write down what you need to change once you've emptied out your emotions. Really get down to what it truly all is. He may need to get a different job. Yes, i know that isn't easy... but it may be something that is not an option. Less money for a husband who's around just may be the thing that saves a marriage and the happiness of two little children who want only to see their mom and dad happy and together.

Best of luck.

rhymingron

You should seek counseling.

Mean Carleen

Woman up! You should be less angry by Friday for goodness sakes. You can not run from him and you may as well face it and do what must be done.

Monday Monday

Your children love there father. Talk to him again openly and honestly. The answer to your last question. Keep your butt at home and greet that husband so those children can feel at peace knowing daddy is home. As running away has never solve a problem. The issue is between you and your husband not the children, please don't use them.

xo3luv3ox

You're not being clear as to why you're angry
nor are you being considerate to his feelings and rights as a father
When he comes home on friday he expects to see his children
unless they are in danger, there is no reason for you to take that away from him
Do not let 18 years go down the drain...work it out
People have always said; time makes the heart grow fonder
Open up the communication lines and talk it out
Do it for your kids

Angel's Wings

It's only Monday. Friday is a long way off, so don't go making any decisions that you can't take back just yet.

If this man has been unfaithful to you, then you should take the kids and go away. Get the money out of the bank first though.

If he has not been unfaithful, but you guys are just going through a rough patch, you need to stay home, but maybe someone could take the kids for the weekend so that you guys could hash this out thoroughly?

I would suggest that you NOT say anything to the kids about your husband, their FATHER, that is negative. If you do need to go away for a while, tell them it's an adventure and daddy is staying home to work.

Sorry you are going through this.

golfnut5565

Take them with you wherever you go. The last thing you want is for the kids to be put in the middle of that situation without you there.

i8pikachu

Why are you mad at him? Can't you stay together FOR the children? If he's not an alcoholic, drug user or abusive, the children need two parents.

Stay for the kids until they're 18 and then go if you have to. Your actions can change your feelings. If he only comes home on the weekends to a wife who's bitter, the relationship will not work. Whatever is making you mad, let it go and be the wife you'd want to be. After all, he's only home on the weekends.

DILLON

Stay home with the kids. Find some alone time with your husband over the weekend and talk to him about your issues face to face. Take your next steps based on the conversation. If you take the kids and go away when he comes home that would be running away from the problem without solving anything.

MissingInAction

Watch-out for Child Protective Services.

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