This is really unfair to me.....?

Big D

So now the new guy can't handle it and wants to move on?
Ya think maybe you might talk to much about the cheat'n X to the new guy? I'm sure you're all frazzeled and need to talk to someone about it. But believe me, He doesn't want to hear it.
He wants to hear more about 'you and him' I know you may think you don't say a whloe lot about it to him, But your emotions can say a lot. Like the way you get bent outa shape over something the X said. He may feel helpless about this particular situation that he can't do much about. That can be discouraging for him.
As for the X he's a lousy waste of time. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he can still upset you. Do what you gotta do to get the divorce final and move on. If You and the new guy can't work through it, then don't waste your time with him either. He's aware of your situation, if he really likes you he'll be willing to show a little patience.

janeannpat

Yeah, just jump on the divorce.

I'm not surprised. Men often only get jealous of things that they can't have.

kountrychik567

If you are legally seperated or going through the dirvorce process then NO you are not committing adultry, he's just mad/jealous that you are moving on and not pinning over him leaveing. Next time he says it just tell him, Yeah, well I have pictures of you and your girlfriend from 2 months before we seperated (only if you are positive he was having an affair).

He'll proably shut up because Adultry means you get more money in the end, because he cheated..

Tired and Cranky

well if you are committing adultery then so is he so screw him and what he says tell him to grow up and just go through with the divorce so he can't TRY to hold anything over your head

murraythelovegod

Legally yes it is adultery; but he has to prove it, and not by hearsay. Get prepared and get some hard evidence on him. He sounds like a punk.

Murray OUT

proud2vote

I'd get the papers started for divorce. It is unfair. That stinks.

Daisy

What a hypocrite! However, would you really expect anything more from someone who cheats? You are right, it is unfair but who cares what he says. It sounds like to me he is just trying to hurt you more and I wouldn't give him that satisfaction if I were you. He had his chance and threw it all away. Don't worry about what he says. Obviously he wasn't worried about you when he was having an affair. You have your fun dating and forget about him. You deserve much better.

i love u

tat is very unfair

its_maria_peoplez

no its not unfair
u left that cheating scumbag
he had the nerve to cheat on you
u LEFT him
so its over
he has no say in what you do or who you date
he doesn't own you anyway

lina inverse

you can date.

just don't hop into bed with every guy you date.

Billie

HINT: Cease any and all contact with said "ex"

taliesin_mke

Um for those that say thats a guy for you, women are just as likely to do it as well. MY exwife was one and I know more women that cheated on their spouses then Men. But I will agree you should get that paper work done and finalise the divorce. End it and move on with your life.. He does sound childish with remarks like that and why bother waste your time. Depending on whos looking for spousle support though I would be careful of what you do till its over. If you are at seperate adresses that will help but also proof of him with another woman would be helpful in case he tries denying you support or trying to get support from you.

Love Me Or Hate Me...I Dont Care

bring up the point that he had some hoe with him 5 months before you two split...so now, since he has a bit**, then you should be able to see other guys. and if he doesn;t like it, then he should have thought about that before hooking up with a bi*ch...thats funny. catch a nerve, make him jealous, and you'll be happy.

BeautyFull

That's stupid .. He is the one who did committed adultry ..

Sam B

that is VERY unfair. you just need to keep people like him out of your life !!!

nadiamartinez92

his just mad cause you did it but when he does it its ok

happy_emo

lol that man is a moron hunni

Wolfmoon

I'm in NC to. If so isn't he doing the same thing?

Bdog

sounds no good to me

Cassie M

My ex did this to me too...expect he was seeing my best friend for 5 years before I found out....I know, I'm an idiot...anyway...once I left him, I moved out of state and met a new guy...this apparently was adultry and I "left my "husband" for some DJ in Florida", said my ex.

Do your thing, who cares what he thinks. I met the greatest person I have ever been in contact with, who by the way has given be a beautiful daughter. Had I waited til the divorce was final, who knows where I would be now!

Firefighters Wife

If he is dating then you have every right to date as well.

salem

very unfair your personal life is no longer his business you were never his property you are a human being and congratulations on meeting someone new good for you!

Alice

should've been two years?
set him straight tell him you know he has a girlfriend and did before you broke up. I would laugh in his face, he has nothing better to do than make up story's! and his girlfriend obviously can't be that interesting if he's still thinking of you ! lol

David T

Talk about your double standard.

He has a girlfriend on the side for seven months, and you go out with someone on a date and he says YOU are committing adultry?

What is he committing? Isn't that adultry too? Grab him by the kahones and pull hard.

Amanda

Ahh take no notice....he probably doesn't like the idea that you have moved on.....let him get on with it.
The sooner you are out of the marriage, the better.

Enjoy your life!!!

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